The ancients said: "The difficult things in the world must be done easily; the great things in the world must be done in detail."
If you want to see a person clearly, the more you think deeply, the more you don't understand, but start from the subtle. It can be from the shallower to the deeper, the last one is clear.
Self-cultivation is a person's comprehensive quality. If you want to figure it out, you must carefully consider from various performances.
Therefore, to judge whether a woman's self-cultivation is good, look at the following details and you will know.
01
The cleanliness of the room.
Many women, when they go out, they dress up and add some light colors to their faces. They look radiant wherever they go. However, this does not mean that she is a person who loves cleanliness, only that she loves beauty.
One white hides one hundred ugly. Many women know this truth, so they will cover up the unspecial side.
The room is where you usually live, and it is also the most casual place. Therefore, many women, after working all day, don't care about anything when they arrive in the room, which leads to chaos in the room.
When you walk into a woman’s room, you can see her performance in her daily life, whether she loves cleanliness or not, at a glance. is the same inside and outside the door, which is the real one.
02
The way she is with her family.
Things are gathered together, and people are divided into groups.
Parents have a great influence on their children. Good daughters are the little padded jackets of their parents, and they can also pass on the good style of their parents.
The husband and wife are birds of the same forest. A woman complaining about her husband is the same as complaining about herself. Women who are sensible are all caring for their husbands, rather than watching her husband's success or failure coldly.
As a mother, are women very particular aboutWhether there is a big picture, it will be reflected in the child. The sloppy mother can't see the dirt on the child.
How a woman gets along with her family, whether the conversation is smooth, and whether it is "peaceful" to deal with conflicts is the upbringing of the family and the concept of a woman's family.
03
Performance at the dinner.
Some readers said: “It’s very annoying to see those women who are shaking their legs and shaking.”
Times have changed. Women no longer bind their feet and do not speak in a low voice. It is normal to occupy a seat for dinner with everyone. But her uncivilized behavior made the people at the dinner uncomfortable.
Behaviors such as "smiling without showing teeth, giving up seats, not turning over the food at will, and not eating too much" will make women more elegant and also reflect their own self-cultivation.
The behaviors of drinking, talking, commanding service, etc., like big bosses, ruined their image and lost their quality.
04
The mood when troubled.
As the saying goes: "Impulsiveness is the devil."
When a person is impulsive, he can do any extreme things. Some vicious words can also be spoken.
Maybe, the "shrew scolds the street" is because it is too impulsive, because the heart is stimulated and loses reason. Knowing that this kind of behavior is very depreciated, but he did it anyway.
A well-trained woman, when encountering an unexpected situation, she will not be impulsive, but will force herself to calm down for three minutes. After a brief calm, you can find a way to deal with the problem.
Relax your mind, everything will become a trivial matter, and deal with it calmly. Such a state of mind reflects a very high level of self-cultivation.
05
read books.
likes this sentence very much: "A person’s temperament hides the books he has read, the road he has walked, and the people he loves."
The beauty of a woman, mostly quiet beauty, if she Live a rough life, although capable, but less feminine.
Since ancient times, a well-trained woman has been inseparable from the words "knowledge and truth". It can be imagined that a woman can say a few "poems" as soon as she speaks, she can tell the truth of the ancients, and can guide her children to study hard. She must be liked.
Those women who do not want to read, although they are also alive and well, but when they open their mouths, they seem to drop in price, and they are incompatible with the elegant crowd.
06
kindness to strangers.
Netizen "Hua Xiyuan" told such a story: One day, he got on a very crowded bus and stood anywhere, and he could smell sweat.
A beautiful-looking woman squeezed in, and then cursed in Cantonese: "Take your lungs." The driver thought that she was scolding him, so he immediately stepped on the brakes and almost had an accident. Unexpectedly, the woman shook with the brakes, and then continued to curse.
It’s hard for anyone to get on the bus and get on and off. However, there are always some people who are very poor and can't bear the cost of a few dollars, and can't afford a car. However, the quality of the uncle on the bus can be seen.
A woman of quality is always gentle with others, and she will give her a hand whenever she meets them.
07
A proud look.
alone, the more low-key, the more luxurious.
Everyone has a moment of joy, but you can't use "satisfaction" to insult others.
condescending,Jumping to someone else's head is obviously a very poor quality behavior.
For example, a woman won first place in a certain activity. She said to the person who lost her name in Sunshan: "Look, I know you can't."
A well-trained person will definitely hold back her joy, speak calmly, and put her grades at a very low level.
08
Interpersonal relationships in society.
There is a routine called "beauty trick".
Some women, in the workplace, work ability is very average, but she walks very close to the male boss, and often participate in social gatherings together, and travel together. When the company's personnel changes, she always rises steadily.
Some women treat male colleagues as "boyfriends", and then push their work tasks to male colleagues. They eat, drink and play all day without any results.
It is not wrong to regard beauty as capital, but it is wrong to turn beauty into "beauty".
Status, money, and achievements are unknown. On the contrary, I seem to be very unqualified. One day, I will fall into the altar.
09
way to spend money and dress up.
A woman with exposed clothes, on the surface, will be praised by others, but in fact, others regard her as a monster.
There are always some women who like to wear fancy clothes to attract the attention of others. For example, refitting ethnic minority costumes and traditional costumes is nondescript, thinking it is a landscape.
Of course, it costs money to dress up. Therefore, the more you like a woman with a weird dress, the more money you spend. If she is married, she will often scold her because her husband earns too little money, or even divorce decisively, looking for a man who "can afford" her.
Good woman, well-dressed, frugal life, simple and beautiful.
10
The ancients said: "No leakage in small places,You are a true gentleman if you don't deceive in the dark. "
If there are loopholes in a very small place, but if you don't make up for it, it will become a big hole; in a very dark place, if it is not exposed to the sun, it will mold and become a dead spot.
People who are well-educated will restrain themselves and be very self-disciplined in their usual words and deeds, every meal, every meal, day and night, and a smile. They are very self-disciplined; they actively light up dark places and accept the warmth of the sun.
Life
I hope that all women in the world will unite knowledge and action, and stop at perfection.
Author: Commoner Rough Food.
Pay attention to my words and walk into your heart
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