There are thousands of people in the sea, fortunately to meet you.
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Colleague Xiao Lan is 33 years old this year, and she is an older girl who has not yet married. Speaking of which, regardless of her age, she still maintains the innocence of a little girl, especially for love and marriage, and is full of boundless romantic imagination and longing.
At the end of this year, Xiaolan fell in love with a male colleague in the work unit. The male colleague was also nearly 40 years old, but he was always single. I heard that he had talked with a girlfriend before, but he didn't talk about it, and then he just stopped.
On weekdays, this male colleague is a meticulous person, as if he only focuses on work and has no interest in the love of men and women at all. And he has achieved a lot in his work. Now he is the leader of a department, and he is in charge of dozens of people.
For him, people in the unit have a lot of speculations, saying that this male colleague is not bad in appearance and good in conditions. Why hasn't he been looking for a girlfriend?
Otherwise, the conditions are too high, and most people look down on them, or they are too dull in emotional matters and don’t know how to talk about the object. Otherwise, he is a master of love, maybe There are many Yingying Yanyan outside, but everyone doesn't know it.
In short, in everyone's guess, he is not a simple man, at least not as simple as he seems on the surface. Many people even think that it must be a problem if he does not get married at such an old age. But Xiaolan fell in love with him.

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In fact, in private,I also persuaded Xiaolan that this male colleague is of the unfathomable kind, and Xiaolan is a simple girl, and I am afraid that she is not the man's opponent. But Xiaolan didn't think so. She felt that the other party was not married, she must be just like herself and did not meet the right person.
From that day on, Xiaolan started her chase. Every day I tried my best to get close to the male colleague, just to be able to talk to him a few more words and communicate a little bit more. Then I will make all kinds of delicious things at home, specially package them, and give them to male colleagues to eat.
When encountering some special holidays, even the Dragon Boat Festival, Xiaolan will carefully prepare a gift and send it to the male colleague. In fact, if a woman does this, any man should know in his heart that the other person is interested in herself, otherwise who would be so diligent?
In fact, no matter what Xiao Lan gave to the male colleague, the man will happily accept it, and then don't forget to say thank you to Xiao Lan. Xiaolan sent too many things, and the man seemed to treat her differently, taking care of Xiaolan at work.
In addition to work, after get off work, men will also chat with Xiaolan on WeChat, of course, about each other's lives. And once a man was on a business trip, when he came back, he also brought a gift to Xiaolan. All of this made Xiaolan feel that the relationship between herself and the man had been a matter of course, and it was almost a confession.
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However, the authorities are obsessed and the bystanders are clear. In the past six months, I have seen all the things Xiao Lan has done to men. In fact, I have reminded Xiao Lan more than once, don’t think men are willing Accepting her gifts, thanking her, even taking care of her at work, giving her a gift, it means loving her.
After all, a man can be regarded as Xiaolan’s leader. What Xiaolan did may seem to the man as a normal interaction between colleagues, or the man can still pretend to be confused. The papers on the windows were torn, and he could enjoy the kindness that Xiaolan treated him with peace of mind.
just last week,Xiao Lan, who thought it was a matter of course, took the initiative to confess to the man. In the end, the man refused very simply, telling Xiaolan directly that it was impossible between the two of them, and neither of them was inappropriate in age. He also said, let Xiaolan not think too much, he just wanted to be friends with Xiaolan.
At that moment, don't mention how embarrassing Xiaolan was. What the man said, Xiaolan understood the meaning. To put it bluntly, I think he is too old, but since this is the case, why not explain it earlier? Obviously, the man just treats her as a spare tire, or enjoys her pursuit, but pretends not to know.
Xiaolan also said about her, the 33-year-old girl's helplessness: After chasing for more than half a year, the man said that he just wanted to be friends.
Because of the frustration in this matter, Xiaolan felt that she had become a joke in the whole unit, and she could no longer face the male colleague, so she voluntarily chose to resign. And the male colleague didn't hold back at all, and directly agreed to Xiaolan's resignation application.

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It can be said that this incident gave Xiaolan a heavy blow, and she was unable to get out of this incident for a long time after she resigned from the unit. On the one hand, I felt a little unwilling to pay my true feelings, but I was treated like this by a man. On the other hand, I felt very sad. It turns out that a woman at this age can only fall to the point of being criticized by a man no matter how active she is.
Xiaolan also said about her, the 33-year-old girl's sadness: she took the initiative to chase her, but she couldn't find a man willing to marry me.
is actually not just because of this incident. Before that, Xiaolan had already seen a lot of things, especially after the age of 30, because she didn’t want to miss it, because she wanted to end her single life earlier. Therefore, when meeting people who feel right, they often choose to take the initiative.
But no matter how proactive and enthusiastic, waiting for Xiaolan, it is instead pots of cold water. Because of his age, sometimes the more proactive he is, the more he will scare the man away. What greeted Xiaolan was repeated blows and failures.
Xiaolan said that she really feels tired, she really doesn’t want to take the initiative anymore, she really doesn’t want to try this kind of rejection, but what else can she do?Putting her age here, the family is eager and anxious, she also wants to marry herself, but where are the people who are willing to marry herself?
In fact, no matter how old you are, even if you are in a hurry, you should never have the idea of improvising. A marriage under improvisation is often difficult to be happy. Instead of tossing like that, it is better to wait and wait for someone who can really spend the rest of your life with you. People.
What do you think about this?
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