1. The birth of family, friendship, and love
We all know that humans are emotional animals. Therefore, everyone's life is absolutely inseparable from family, friendship, and love. The character "person" has been given a special meaning since ancient times. Although it is a simple stroke, few people can write the strokes and strokes of life completely.
One is yourself, one is family affection; the other is yourself, the other is friendship; the other is yourself, and the other is love. Support each other with one stroke and one flick. Therefore, when everyone comes to the world, they cannot do without family, friendship, and love.
2. What is family, friendship, love
family is the relationship between relatives, no matter whether they are poor or rich, no matter they are healthy, no matter how bad they are existing. Do not talk about conditions, do not ask for rewards, regardless of gains or losses, is the most selfless feeling. The feelings between parents and children, the feelings between brothers and sisters, the feelings between grandparents and grandchildren, these are all affection. Family affection is the greatest affection, but at the same time it is also the least easily noticeable and dull affection. why? Because people have been surrounded by family affection from the beginning of quack and quack, family affection will accompany one's life, so it will become a habit and take it for granted. Only when you suffer from birth, old age, sickness, and death in your life, can you truly feel family affection at this time. Therefore, family affection is also the longest relationship that a person has.
friendship I think friendship is the first kind of feeling between two strangers.It can be dull or memorable, it can be intriguing or intriguing. Friendship can be divided into many types: friendship with one-sided affinity, friendship with wine and meat friends, friendship with a confidant in life, friendship between the same sex, and friendship between the opposite sex. So friendship is the most extensive, and any two people in the world can have friendship. From the time we have the ability to communicate and make judgments, we will start to find friends who can play with us. We began to have friendship. Therefore, friendship is the long-term relationship that we have second only to family.
Love is the strong attachment, closeness, yearning, and selfless and all-encompassing emotions between individuals. It is usually the contrast between passion and desire. Love consists of two parts: love and sex.
Love is a very vague feeling. From ancient times to the present, many poets and writers have spent a lot of pen and ink to record love. But no one can really explain what love is. Love is like the vast ocean, with everything in it. It has all kinds of feelings: happiness, happiness, passion, sadness, despair, regret. Anyone can only experience a small part of it.
Love generally comes from the sublimation of friendship, but there is no clear boundary. Different people have different boundaries. Some people think that it is love if they are tempted, some feel that it is love if they hold hands, some feel that it is love if they hug, and some feel that it is love that requires more intimate actions. The continued sublimation of love can become family affection, or it can be shattered into friendship.
Normally, we begin to feel admiration since we are adults. This is when we begin to have love. Generally, when we get married and form a family, we smoothly turn love into family affection. This is the normal life trajectory of most people. Therefore, love is the one with the shortest time among the three kinds of emotions, but at the same time it is the most memorable, powerful, and vigorous.
Third, the relationship between family, friendship, and love
We fell to the ground,Surrounded by a group of relatives, each clamoring to hug us, to make us laugh, to play with us. Our dearest parents, grandparents, and grandparents took a shower and nursed us. At this time we have family affection. Slowly we started to learn to talk, and we also came into contact with other friends who were about the same age. Some of these friends felt very friendly and we wanted to play with him, and some of us felt a little scared and did not dare to play with them. . Therefore, we will selectively play with our friends, and at this time we will have friendship. By the time we reach adulthood, because we have perfected all aspects of development, we will have reveries about the opposite sex, and at the same time we will be attracted to the opposite sex. At this time we began to pursue love. After the sublimation of friendship, we have love. After a period of management and maintenance, love enters the stage of getting married, getting married and having children. At this time, love is sublimated to family affection.
So the simplest and most common relationship among the three kinds of emotions is family relationship→friendship→love→family relationship.
Of course, this is not static, there are other complicated relationships. For example, when love is broken, two people break up peacefully and become ordinary friends. At this time, love turns into friendship. In addition, although our country stipulates that it is not possible to marry close relatives, it is also an unethical behavior. But it is undeniable that this phenomenon still exists in many backward rural areas. This kind of affection becomes love. But friendship must go through the stage of love before it can be transformed into a blood relationship.
4. The status of family, friendship, and love
Family, friendship, and love affect each other to form our emotional life. When a person comes to the world, he will generally experience these three kinds of feelings, and at least will experience the warmth of family affection. So which of these three feelings is more important?
There is no way to absolutely distinguish the importance.For different people, the three emotions are sorted differently in their hearts. For example, a person has just suffered a broken relationship, and he needs the comfort of his friends at this time, so for him. Friendship is the most important, love is the most hurtful. But for another person who is in love, he will feel that love is above all else, and nothing can be compared with love. For a person who has just failed to start a business, he needs the warmth of the family very much at this time, and he will feel that family affection is the most important at this time. So different people have different status for each kind of feeling.
Even for the same person, at different stages, the status of each relationship is different. At the birth stage, since there is only family affection around, family affection is most important at this time. After you start making friends, you will feel that your friends are your confidantes, and your parents don’t know yourself. At this time, friendship is the most important thing. After falling in love, especially in the period of passion, you will feel that everything becomes insignificant in front of love, and only love is in your eyes. After setting up a family and starting a business, there are both old and young, and they are all thinking about how to make the family live better. At this time, family affection is the most important thing. After retiring in old age, you must have your own old life, cultivate your own hobbies, and build your own circle of friends. At this time, friendship becomes relatively important again.
Family, friendship, and love make up our emotional life. Life also becomes wonderful because of the emotional life. There are ups and downs in the love life, and all kinds of flavors, but they are indispensable. We must set our minds and work hard to manage all kinds of emotional lives. This is a meaningful and rich life.
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