I don’t know if you have ever considered a problem. If you are getting older and older, but you have not found a suitable partner, will you slowly lower your mate selection criteria?
I believe that some people will choose to lower the standard, because the general public in society actually come here. Many marriages are just two people getting together to live together, rather than really wanting to find a soul mate.
But there are some people who are unwilling to leave. After all, they are people who want to spend their entire life with them. How can they decide so casually.
And this kind of unwillingness to leave has become more and more dominant. There is only one life in the world. Since you are going to get married, why not find a lover who is in harmony in all aspects? Therefore, many people now postpone their marriage age, even if they participate in the blind date later, they will not lower their requirements for the other half.
28-year-old Zhang Lan is an auditor of a foreign company, and his monthly salary can reach about 20,000 yuan. Moreover, Zhang Lan herself is young and beautiful, with a well-maintained figure, and belongs to the kind of high-quality girl who will be picked up by people even in the vast crowd. But this is Zhang Lan, but it bothered the matchmaker, and even said to her many times: girl, don't come again.
There is no other reason, just because Zhang Lan's requirements for the other half are too high.
Zhang Lan put forward very detailed requirements for his partner. In addition to giving the man himself the income, height, and appearance standards, he also put forward the hope that the man’s family is from the city, and his parents must have academic qualifications, and they must be only son.
The matchmaker looked at Zhang Lan's conditions and was a little embarrassed: "What should I say? It's not difficult to pull out the conditions of this girl alone, but put them together, and I am afraid that the man can meet them all. It’s not that easy. Not to mention that her conditions are not only these,"
Yes, Zhang Lan’s requirements for the man even include the requirements that Zhang Lan must make for the man, and even the other party must love to read and love. Watching movies, have their own hobbies and the corresponding schedule of work and rest, and so on.
Small requirements that seem not difficult to satisfy are superimposed on one person and it becomes difficult to reach the sky at the same time.That's why Zhang Lan has failed to date for more than 10 consecutive blind dates.
And Zhang Lan still feels very puzzled, because every one of his requirements is not difficult, and he can do it all. How can it be put on the man?
What Zhang Lan really wants to say is nothing wrong with what she said. In fact, these requirements of her are based on her own. It is precisely because of this that Zhang Lan feels that these are normal qualities that can't be more ordinary, she is very Can't understand how such a small request is so hard to find in the blind date market.
Zhang Lan has participated in a dozen blind dates in the past two years, and the longest one lasted only about a week. The first time the man was a salesman, no matter his salary, appearance, or background, he met Zhang Lan's criteria for choosing a spouse. But just because the two were eating, Zhang Lan saw that the man took a few free napkins from the restaurant and went home, and then refused the other party's pursuit. Because she feels that the other person's love is a small advantage and her character is not good.
Zhang Lan’s failed blind dates made the matchmaker slowly start to feel that Zhang Lan didn’t want to find a partner to spend his life together. He wanted to find someone exactly like himself, so he started with many small things. As long as there is a little disagreement, the blind date will be declared bankrupt. Every time the matchmaker asks the man about Zhang Lan's feelings, the man will always leave 4 words: Gao can't afford it.
Slowly, the matchmaker also felt a headache when she saw Zhang Lan, and even told the other party directly: girl, don't come again, your requirements are too high, and you really can't satisfy you.
Zhang Lan felt very strange when he heard this. Why are those requirements so high? I’m satisfied with everything, don’t I want to find something better than me, it’s just as difficult as me? Do I have to marry someone who is inferior to me?
After listening to the matchmaker, she was silent for a long time. In the end, she could only admit that she had limited abilities, and she couldn't find a suitable one.
Matchmaker has been in this business for several years. She knows that girls like Zhang Lan are indeed rare high-quality girls, but in fact, it is often these girls who are not easy to get married in the end. After all, they are already good enough,That's why they are particularly unwilling to wrong themselves to marry a man who is worse than themselves. There is actually no problem with the requirement of mutual promotion, but Zhang Lan is a special case among these girls.
Zhang Lan's request itself is no problem. Her problem is that she regards her request as an absolute framework. As long as the other party is not in the framework for a little bit, she will be directly ruled out, and there is no room for reversal. It is naturally difficult to find objects like this set of templates. After all, there will be no two identical people in the world. To put it bluntly, marriage means that two different souls run into each other, and finally polish each other into the most suitable look.
The blind date is unsuccessful once or twice is not suitable, but if the blind date is unsuccessful more than ten times, maybe you really should re-examine yourself.
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