"Girls who are not gentle are not worthy of being loved"

"Look at how you look like a girl?"

Women seem to be taught by their elders to be quiet, regular, and gentle.

In this way, there is a girl's appearance.

But, what is a girl-like?

One.

Ashamed, I have been accused of not being a girl since I was a child.

With a carefree personality and a loud voice, he is often accused of bluffing and too noisy. Unlike other girls, they speak softly.

Later in middle school, it was a boarding school with strict rules, and I can still make friends there with a cheerful personality.

Therefore, I was accused by the teacher and principal of being too jumpy and restless. It was not what they expected. They would only immerse themselves in the standard student template of hard work, which is a bit difficult to manage.

At that time, I was always small, and I wouldn’t feel sad whenever I was accused. I just tried my best to get closer to the standards of the elder teacher and try my best to be a standard gentle and silent girl. .

It was that time when I was really hurt. After finally plucking up the courage, after expressing my heart to the boy he liked, he took two steps back in fright: "Sorry, I don’t like it. Female man."

I can only run away embarrassedly when I am rejected, I cry as I think, don’t gentle girls deserve to be liked? Perhaps the requirements of the elders are all right?

Maybe it is only like that to be liked?

No, it’s not like that.

Two.

I once stupidly thought that I would become the standard template girl in the mouth of others, and I thought that only then can I get love.

So, I tried to change myself awkwardly to cater to others. But in the end, I made myself nondescript.

I was supposed to be Lingshuang , but I was not afraid of the plum, but I had to force myself to become a beautiful and eye-catching rose , after all, I did not lose my identity.

After all, changes aimed at catering to others are always trapped by inferiority and the eyes of others.

Maybe I can be loved by myself?

Friends appreciate my optimism and positiveness, saying that I am always like a little sun, able to warm others, and always feel particularly happy when I get along with me.

Later I also met people who loved me.

I asked him: "Don't you think I am particularly unkind?" He grinned and said: "I am not very gentle, I am always fierce, and like to beat me..." I was a little disappointed and lowered my head not to look at him.

Who knows, he stretched out his hand and touched my head: "But you don't have to think about it at all, you just be yourself."

br7 What it looks like, I am fascinated by you."

I don't know if it is his words or the temperature of the palm of the hand, delivering me a steady stream of warmth and strength.

I was moved and punched him: "It's numb!" He took it with a smile.

Yes, people who love you love everything about you. You don't need to be who you are. Be brave and be yourself, and someone will love you naturally.

Back to the original question, what is a girl-like? There is no answer.

girl,You don't have to be a rose. If you like, you can be jasmine, daisy , nameless florets, and thousands.

No one can define what you must look like. There are thousands of looks in this world, and of course women can have thousands of looks.

Gentleness is your choice, not your standard.

Don’t be bound by the secular, nor be defined by the tradition.

3.

It was only when I grew up that I realized that the elders and the teachers’ requirements for the so-called "girl standards" are just to facilitate their discipline.

They just want you not to talk back and not resist, so you can learn to obey.

But it’s this kind of education,Let the girls dare not resist when they encounter bad people, and dare not speak up when they encounter evil. The "virtue" of "silent and well-behaved" that was once preached is precisely what made them fall into the abyss.

Today I again saw this entry on the Weibo -"a woman was threatened by the principal for a long time when she reported the primary school by her real name."

In fact, I was somewhat fortunate while I was angry.

I am angry at such terrible bestiality. Fortunately, there are finally more girls who dare to stand up and speak out, daring to accuse them of the injustice. I admire their courage even more.

There are indeed many good people in this world, but there are also many bad guys with bad intentions.

and the girl’s life is in danger of countless undercurrents: childhood molesters, pig hands and sneakers on buses and subways, exhibitionists in the park, and living alone. Female rapists, domestic violence men in marriage...

So in the face of these, I would rather girls be "barbaric" and be gentle with you.

#write at the end# _em46_em