Being young and vigorous is not an excuse, it is duty that cannot be held
Seeing the 76-year-old Uncle An sitting alone at the gate, tears in his eyes and loss in his face. The back who watched a woman go away refused to go home.
The eyes at this time are pain, regret, helplessness, and hatred. It's just that the years cannot be turned back, and time will only pass forward.
The so-called world has never regretted that medicine can be sold. Anyone who does things has to bear certain responsibilities and consequences for his words and actions.
At this time, Uncle An began to recall his past for most of his life. He really hoped that he could not forget the original intention of the husband and wife, and work together to work together until now. But I betrayed the marriage, betrayed the original partner, gave up the original partner for the so-called true love, gave up the custody of his children, and wanted to form a family with his extramarital lover. From then on, there is no regret in life.
However, Uncle An said that his regret started after he formed a family with his extramarital lover. He can only bury this regret deep in his heart. Now, sitting at the gate alone, remembering pessimistically Most of his life.
The past between me and my original partner
The two of us met under the arrangement of our parents, so we don’t have a certain emotional foundation, and there is not much sense of responsibility and sincere love after marriage. the concept of.
Maybe everyone feels that two people who have never been in love together can just fall in love after marriage, so that they can hone their emotions in life, support each other together in the process of adversity, and behave like each other.
As a man, I am only medium in height and have an ordinary appearance. On the contrary, my wife is fair and beautiful. So, in terms of appearance alone, I was the one who upheld my wife.
Fortunately, my personality is stable and her personality is proud. Therefore, we should be couples with complementary personalities and complementary appearances.
After many people see me, they always say that I have found a beautiful wife. And I also feel special face-saving.
Soon after we got married, my wife and I started fighting for our own lives.The couple back then were not like they are now, and they needed two people to go out and fight. What is really pursued is that men dominate outside and women dominate inside. We are no exception. I am responsible for going out to work, and my wife is responsible for taking care of the children at home.
The two of us gave birth to two sons. Facing the birth of the two sons, it is obvious that the economic pressure is rising. With her arrogant temperament, she always felt that I couldn't satisfy her in terms of material conditions, and she always complained that I should give more money to the family when watching her crying and disheveled son.
The so-called poor and lowly married couples are sad, since they had two sons. Quarrels between my wife and I have been increasing, and conflicts between husband and wife have erupted from time to time. I am also very hard working outside, and I don’t have too much experience and experience, so I can only earn some living expenses by hard work. After returning home after a tiring day, I still have to hear my wife's constant nagging and complaining in my ears, and my son is hungry and has no food to eat. This kind of day is really breathless.
But what can I do? Can only bite the bullet and walk on.
Maybe it was God who took care of me. When I was young, I didn't know how to plan my future life. In an accidental process, I heard someone say that being a chef can make money, which made me instantly interested.
So I immediately changed my work mindset. I shouldn't earn living expenses by doing hard work all day long. I should have the idea of doing business, so I should learn to be a chef first, so that I can open a restaurant just like others under the condition that I have good skills.
So my journey as a chef has begun. I am hardworking and have a strong ability to learn things. I imitated the cooking methods and ingredients of other chefs. In less than three years, my cooking skills were pretty good. At that time, I was not optimistic about going to other places to develop and study.
But my head chef is from Sichuan. He told me: "You are a small county with very backward economic conditions. Walking in those big cities, you will find that people are very competitive and have a strong ability to accept new knowledge. , We must have the spirit of innovation.”
So under his suggestion, I decided to go to other big cities to make a break. I wanted to learn how to cook in big cities. When the time comes, we will combine some local special flavors,I think it should be good to open a restaurant by myself at that time.
So after bidding farewell to my wife and two sons, I started to run around and work hard. As my chef said, the outside world is wonderful, and cultural knowledge is unique. In this way, I have been away from home for five years, and when I return again, my cooking skills can be said to be very superb.
The first thing you do when you go home is to set up a restaurant for yourself: focusing on special dishes, mixing some products from other cities.
Sure enough, my restaurant is very impressive. At this time, there will be other interested people who want to cooperate with me in catering. And I also wanted to go further, so I started to cooperate with one of the wealthier funders. Make the catering bigger so that you can make money faster.
So since I started working in the catering industry, my financial resources have been very fast. With the growth of our two sons, our family's economic conditions and life are getting better and better. And the wife will not make trouble unreasonably, take care of the two children all day, then go out to play cards, go shopping, life is also very happy.
But I don't want to stick to the present, I want to be bigger, so I think long-term.
I started working in the real estate field with some professionals again. With the increase of my business, and the increase of entertainment. Obviously, I go home very few times, and communication with my wife has become less and less. The two sons are always a little timid in front of me. I think it is my biggest responsibility to provide sufficient material conditions for my family.
But my wife complains about me more and more. She always complains that I don't care about my family, that my child and her don't see me many times a month, and that I don't care enough about her.
In fact, think about it now, indeed, men who fight outside, really sometimes do not have so much time and energy to take care of the feelings of their wives and children. In the face of my wife's complaints, I didn't have the patience to listen. Instead, I felt that she was in the blessing and not knowing the blessing. So I would often be in a state of cold war with my wife. Once the cold war, I would live in my office and rarely go home.
In this state, my wife will make a lot of noise again, and even make trouble at my work place.She thinks I must have other women out there, otherwise, how could I be so ignorant of her and so indifferent to the child.
I admit that there are women who I admire and respect, but I have no intention of cheating, but my wife's suspicion is getting more and more serious, and I don't bother to explain to her. In this way, the conflicts between our husbands and wives became more and more serious, and the more we opened up, the more irreconcilable.
At this time, an intellectual, elegant and smart woman appeared in front of me. From then on, I fell into an extramarital affair and became the last knife to destroy the marriage.
The beginning of an extramarital affair, doomed my marriage to break down
Wife's suspicious all day, plus this woman's care and care for me. I sometimes compare two women and watch my wife be suspicious and make trouble all day long. But this woman understood me, supported me, cared for me, and understood me very well. Some of my actions and the look in my eyes can understand what I am going to do next, she can give me more face, even if there will be conflicts between us, but in front of outsiders, she always respects me and understands me.
And this woman took a child by herself, and she divorced her husband. She sells the house in the sales center, so she can be regarded as a person working hard to make money.
Her enthusiasm and admiration for me, his care and consideration for my life, gave me the idea of divorce, coupled with my wife's all day trouble, it really made me no longer miss that home, nor did I have anything to do with my wife. Emotionally. So I think that being able to meet true love in middle age can be regarded as making up for the regrets of my life.
Therefore, I decided to divorce my wife. Then remarry with my true love. We are halfway couples. Many people persuaded me that I should not divorce. Even if I hide everything from my extramarital affairs, I should help my native family. After all, my two sons are also old, they already have their own studies, and my hard-earned money is ultimately for these two sons.
But I feel that if I don't give my lover a name, I just treat her badly. She cared and cared for me far more than my wife, and the love he gave me made me feel that life has expectations and sunshine.Besides, my wife has not experienced too much hardship with me. She enjoyed the glory and wealth, and enjoyed the respect of the people. After my two sons grew up, I also provided sufficient material conditions. They now owe all their development and further studies to me, so I am already middle-aged. Should also, live well for yourself. What's more, after so many years of hard work, I have also worked very hard. The difficulties and problems I encountered have exhausted my brain power, so I always feel that I have a lot of headaches.
But I still can't bear it, so I can only maintain the extramarital affairs while making do with my wife. And she already knew about my extramarital affairs. She did not file for a divorce because she felt that when the child got married, the real parents needed to be present, and the family needs to get together. The two of us have already become separate husbands and wives. She still kept making noises, and I put more thoughts on my lover and her daughter. Because my sons are always estranged from me, but my lover’s daughter treats me very well, always following behind like my own daughter.
Finally, when the two sons were married, I also directly filed for divorce with my wife. Because I really don't want to waste too much on unnecessary things, and I am not young anymore, so my only wish is to form a family with my lover and her daughter.
I was 66 years old that year and still in the glorious period of my career, so I chose to divorce. The two sons, including the daughter-in-law, were very opposed to my decision. They thought I was too cruel, and they thought I didn't understand their mother too much. But I think they don't understand me, and their mother is noisy all day long. Such a life is very meaningless. So no one can stop me from this decision. For so many years, my lover and I have never complained about me for not giving her status, nor will she put pressure on me because of my marriage. She said she would wait. I.
So when her daughter got married, I directly gave a dowry room. In this case, my wife has been making noises so many times. My two sons also called me to judge me. They even thought I was unreasonable.
But I gave them enough, I just want to give her daughter a house. Besides, the lover has been with me for so long, and I didn't give a name, it is reasonable to give a party.My wife kept attacking her lover, and even made a noise in our place. In the end, I had the final say on my finances, and I gave it, so her daughter is better and more careful with me. On any holiday, even Father’s Day, her daughter would take the initiative to call me and give me gifts. But my two sons complained more and more to me, so I don't think I was wrong.
In the end, my first marriage can only be divorced. Because I want to walk with my true love and spend the rest of my life. As for how my wife treats me, and even how my two sons and daughter-in-law treat me, it doesn't matter anymore.
The life of a half-married couple, we were really together only to find that it was not as good as I thought
My lover and my lover's daughter finally became a family. Since then, my sons seldom come to visit me and rarely contact me.
But I don't care, because I think it is enough for me to have these two women wholeheartedly for me. And I can be considered worthy of my original partner and two sons, because I also left a large part of my fortune to them during the divorce. Now I just want to make up for this pair of mother and daughter, and enjoy me with this pair of mother and daughter. Happy life for the rest of his life.
In the first four years, our lives have been harmonious, with laughter and happiness. It's just that with the birth of my stepdaughter's second child, the second married wife obviously devotes more time to her stepdaughter. As I grow older, my body is obviously worse than before, and it is inevitable that I have some minor problems such as headaches and coughs. I hope my second-married wife can accompany me more, but she always promises to go to her daughter's house on the other end, sometimes not going home for several days. It sometimes feels very lonely to leave me at home, but I don't want to go to her daughter's house. It always feels like she is not my own person. Her son-in-law is waiting, which is very inappropriate.
And my own business has gradually been inherited by my two sons. Although they have opinions on me, he is my biological son after all, and he can always help me as soon as he encounters problems and conflicts in his career. Regarding my involvement with my sons in my career, my second wife had a big fight with me for the first time. She felt that she could let her daughter or son-in-law touch a certain aspect. Even thought I was very partial,This makes me very sad. Thinking of all these years, I devoted most of my time and energy to their wives. I also gave a suite to his daughter when he got married. Moreover, my son-in-law encountered a bottleneck in his career, and I also gave a lot of help in my social circle. Nowadays, their young couple's life is also very good.
But the second-married wife always compares her daughter's living conditions with our two sons. It is very unfair to think that her daughter's material economy is very different from that of my two sons, and that her daughter is more filial to me, and my sons are always lukewarm or even indifferent to me. Therefore, my second wife thinks that I am not only partial but also lack of conscience, and even think that her and her daughter's efforts for so many years are not worthwhile. We have never quarreled since we were dating and getting married for so many years. Only this time, we quarreled so hard because of these foreign objects.
Even because of this, my second married wife stayed at her daughter's house for two months. Leaving me alone and lonely, I have gradually retired from my career. I just want to enjoy the happy life of my old age with her. The two of us are talking and laughing together and traveling together. Isn't it a good day? It is also the dream life of many elderly couples. But she had the heart to leave me alone at home, and I didn't know how to cook.
In desperation, I had no choice but to walk to her daughter's house brazenly. Fortunately, her daughter and son-in-law entertained me enthusiastically, and the second-married wife forgave me.
When I walked to this house, I realized that the second wife could not contact me for two months. She is accompanied by her grandchildren, playing and playing, with her daughter and son-in-law beside her, and she has a happy and practical life every day. Instead, I became an outsider. Her grandson is not very close to me. Although her son-in-law and daughter are very enthusiastic, there is always a distance between us that cannot be crossed.
At this time, I suddenly began to admire the second-married wife's life of being accompanied by her grandson around her knees and her daughter, harmonious and warm, united and happy, and the family is together and peaceful. On the other hand, I only have business contacts with my sons. I rarely meet with my daughter-in-laws, and I am very strange to my grandchildren. I began to fantasize about the happy atmosphere of being with them.
76 years old,My second marriage collapsed completely. This time it was not an emotional issue, but a loss to reality.
I slowly began to get close to my son, daughter-in-law and grandchildren. I also occasionally made a phone call with my ex-wife to consult with my grandchildren. At this time, what I hope is that my own relatives can accompany me, but my second-married wife rarely accompanies me. Her focus is all on her daughter. I am very lonely alone, with no relatives around me and no one listening. I also suddenly understood the daily nagging of my ex-wife and son about not being with me.
Within the scope of my ability, I am willing to make some savings plans for my grandchildren. I am also very happy to call my daughter-in-law two more calls. Of course, I will communicate with my ex-wife from time to time. She is still That kind of arrogant and domineering temper, but still complaining to me in his tone. On the contrary, I am very familiar and warm with this feeling.
I hope that my second-married wife can have some complaints against me, in which complaints are all caring and loving. But she never complained. What she wants is that two people can get along in harmony. In this harmonious atmosphere, I don't know when I have to understand her and her daughter.
When she learned that I had a time deposit plan for my grandson, she suddenly became rant. Think I should give her two grandchildren a sum of money. But after I retired, how can I have so much money, so we two pushed each other in the quarrel, and she really pushed me to the ground really hard, so I fractured.
After the fracture, she took care of me, but she was very impatient with me. I even kept complaining that I took up her time, and she had to help her daughter because I increased her pressure. In this way, we quarreled every day and met every day, and finally one day she left the hospital and went to her daughter's house without ever coming to take care of me.
In desperation, I can only seek help from my son. The biological one is always biological. My two sons drove to the hospital immediately. They asked the doctor about my condition, and then they hired a nurse to take care of me. After I was discharged from the hospital, I had already bought a wheelchair, so I think this is what a family should have.
After I was hospitalized, when I got home, I called my second wife.I told her directly about the divorce, because she was not by my side when I was in difficulty and needed her. And her daughter is always the mainstay. I thought she would be weaker, but to my surprise, she actually agreed. And for the house I own now, the property is required to be divided equally. Sure enough, she had already planned to prepare for a divorce with me. Think about the time when my ex-wife, in order to save our marriage, although she had been arguing and fighting, but she was working hard for our emotions, but I was blinded by the so-called true love. Regarding that kind of noise as unreasonable, but not knowing that she is giving our marriage and emotions a chance.
As for the second-married wife, we did not have more communication between us, and the divorce was handled soon.
After she packed up her luggage at my home, she left without looking back.
Sitting at the gate, I did not look back at the door, and even when I left, I did not ask the woman to say anything, and shed tears of regret.
Recall that for most of my life, when I was young, I rarely accompanied my family for my career, and I think that as long as they are given certain material conditions, even if I have assumed the responsibility of the family.
When I was successful in my career, I didn't understand my wife's noise, but because of this, I betrayed her and caused her to suffer so much damage. It is to give the lover a name and choose to divorce, thus losing the process of growing up with the sons. But I think I have mentioned enough platforms for them.
I even thought that my second-married wife and stepdaughter were more caring to me. So I lost the best time to be with my son and grandchildren. And I feel very guilty to my ex-wife. She has been working hard for the children, and for the grandchildren, the little days of running back and forth between the two daughter-in-laws to help them get better and better, but I gave a lot of time to the two. What the married wife and her daughter get is insatiable material provision.
I really regret...
feels guilty about them...
So I want to make up for the rest of my life. I want to be with my children. I want to watch my grandchildren grow up. I want to be a family. Reunion together, and live the rest of my life peacefully. I also hope to be forgiven by my proud ex-wife.
I know that I have done a lot of sorry for my ex-wife and children. I want to make amends. I also want to regroup our family. I can be accompanied by my nagging wife. is the original nagging Love ! I also want to take my grandchildren to the amusement park to travel to buy their favorite toys. Seeing their joy after getting them, I want to have the filial piety of my son and daughter-in-law.
So friends, what can I do to get the forgiveness of my original partner, what can I do to get my grandchildren very close to me, and how can my sons and daughters-in-law be in love with me? I hope that my friends will give me good suggestions, so that I have the opportunity to make up, and also let me have the opportunity of harmony and unity together in my old age.
Thank you all, and welcome your comments and suggestions.
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