Hello everyone,
Today we will continue to share this book,
How to meet someone better than you,
Last time we said that,
Don’t waste time hanging out on the Internet,
Yes Use fragmented time.
Now there is a lot of fragmentation information,
wastes a lot of our time,
if you just browse the network information,
will do more harm than good,
it will not make you meaningful
Sometimes we often find that
just look at the content,
a few hours have passed.
The gap between people,
is just such a few hours,
opened in a few hours,
so it must be targeted,
even if you are resting,
should do something Meaningful things.
First, don’t be alone.
has to find clubs and organizations you like,
participates in club activities,
participates in club activities,
This is an efficient and time-saving social magic weapon,
So busy, how can
have time to participate in these interest groups?
In fact, everyone is the same,
no one is easier than anyone,
time is like water in a sponge,
squeezing is always possible,
Playing games at home and watching TV series,
might as well go out to play ball,
at least is good for making contacts.
In fact,
is not done every day. Some activities of
may be several months.
only participates once,
, so in fact, it is not completely out of time,
only Can say that your will is not strong enough.
Second, don’t forget the people who have helped yourself.
You must know how to be grateful.
must also help others to convey kindness.
If others have helped you,
, but you have not expressed gratitude.
This is very harmful to personal connections.
So even if it’s a phone call,
a WeChat or a small gift,
should give feedback immediately and timely,
At the same time, we should also,
actively help others,
In fact, it’s just a small effort.
will make others owe you a favor.
contacts are the same as savings.
is basically zero deposit and lump-sum withdrawal.
Let others owe you something,
is equivalent to storing a network of contacts,
Why do many people think,
No one will help you when things happen,
is actually you Usually, you don’t save your contacts.
Someone will take advantage of others if they have nothing to do.
is equivalent to a credit card overdraft,
your contacts are in arrears instead.
contacts are all troublesome,
you trouble others is equivalent,
withdraw money in your contacts bank,
And if you want to keep your funds in balance,
you have to help others again,
is equivalent to deposits,
keeps depositing and withdrawing,
can accumulate your credit.
Third, don’t forget that the network is not a thread,
is a network, so it is necessary to gather people.
integrate resources and be a linker,
author shared some of his own Experience, every time
, he is the organizer.
invite different people to meet up,
he said that he would like to be the linker,
or weaver,
For many people,
you want to get into the circle of successful people ,
have to do something they don't want to do.
For example, organizing various successful people to meet,
This is actually a very useful idea,
Remember, if you don’t have any special skills,
wants to go up in the circle again, To become a connection point,
is a shortcut.
Fourth, don't let people take the cold,
should develop the habit of recording,
has met and shook hands,
has received business cards,
must be sorted out in time.
If you cool down for a period of time,
most likely you will not remember at all,
So turning a stranger into a mature person,
actually has a whole set of skills,
as long as you are socializing,
is actually not that difficult.
The author also talked about him,
as a Chinese,
integrated into the American social circle,
He said that from the most basic material level,
everyone is right The love of food,
the pursuit of sports and health.
includes the beauty of nature,
for the decoration of houses, handsome men,
, in fact, everyone’s needs are the same,
differs in cultural traditions and habits,
will meet in social There is a slight difference.
When many people are new to Americans,
will think that Americans are actually very kind.
Some people may walk on the opposite side,
will nod to you or yes,
will say hello.
But if you get used to this kind of life,
you will think they are hypocritical,
they don’t want to exchange too many ideas with you, and
don’t want you to invade their privacy.
So the Chinese ask if it’s okay to eat,
Americans will think you are over.
especially age, weight,
financial income, marital status,
and even sexual orientation,
they will all be regarded as privacy,
will not tell others easily,
but Chinese people are always Like to inquire about income,
is actually a taboo in the United States.
Americans,
prefer to participate in various club sports,
Their children are very active in team activities.
is not as unique as Chinese children.
They are more accustomed to expressing gratitude.
has cultivated children's gratitude since childhood.
Even children to their parents,
often say some words of gratitude and love,
Chinese children are more reserved at this point,
Chinese children rarely say,
mother I love you, but the United States Children often talk about it.
Americans are also very nosy,
things you can't understand will be stopped loudly,
if you jump in line and out of order,
will have a bunch of foreigners pointing their noses and cursing you.
Americans are also snobs,
you show enough excellence,
will have a lot of people willing to associate with you,
even the author said that he can feel
when he is playing To these.
When he was a rookie,
was no one would like to talk to him,
but when he has made a lot of skills and
has a certain level,
asks him to say hello There will be more and more.
So based on these characteristics of Americans, how should
build relationships with Americans?
The author said that the first thing to do is to learn to speak first.
Many Chinese are more reserved.
does not take the initiative to contact.
has language factors, and
also has its own traditional reasons.
The second is to actively participate,
social activities and volunteer organizations,
abandon the tradition of self-sweeping the door,
organization, you are in fact,
can reach a lot of the United States people.
Third, have the courage to show your own advantages and characteristics.
means to show yourself,
Americans prefer confident people.
fourth is to actively help others.
should be diligent and don't be afraid of trouble.
is especially the kind of low-cost help.
Fifth, be good at expressing gratitude.
After others have helped you,
must express gratitude in time.
Sixth obey social ethics,
do not cross the road,
do not make a loud noise,
also agree on boundaries between neighbors,
respect the privacy of others.
Seventh, take the initiative to socialize and build your own network circle,
For example, if your child goes to school in the United States,
you can be in the parent group,
invite other children and mothers,
come to dinner together ,
have a birthday party and so on.
If you are in a company,
you can invite colleagues and your boss,
to lunch together, and take the initiative to assume the company’s social connections,
some social connections,
, for example, organize a car club what,
Organize a team! some type of. What about
? What are the needs of
to promote yourself and others?
Maybe others have similar needs.
Next, let’s look at Chapter 4,
socialize in the workplace, let yourself shine,
others will be lit by you,
is in Harvard they have a special class called p1p
, How to manage your boss,
must first understand your boss’s work habits,
for example, you want to know this year, what is the work goal of the
team?
What is the current focus of theteam?
Your boss will be at night,
Why can't you fall asleep?
In other words, where is his pressure?
And after work,
must maintain close communication with the boss.
, for example, lunch is a good opportunity.
is convenient for you to learn how your boss works.
First, understand the boss’s expectations,
What problem does the boss hope you most solve for him?
This is very, very important.
If you can’t figure this out,
you might get into the wrong place.
When you receive a task,
must ask the deadline first,
What are the resources needed to understand?
Who will cooperate? In the process of execution.
If you encounter problems, please feel free to give feedback to your boss,
completes the key node, and you must also let the boss know it.
don’t cover it,
many people are used to doing it in a silly way.
and I wanted to give the boss a surprise.
resulted in a surprise It was a fright,
At last he had already deviated far.
Third, you have to have your own ideas,
dare to express your opinion,
boss will like brainy subordinates,
is not just an execution machine,
you have to exceed his expectations ,
must give full play to your subjective initiative,
of course this is also a double-edged sword,
so you have to keep communicating with him at all times,
first put forward ideas and get approved before actively implementing them.
Fourth, take the initiative to work,
always infect others with a positive attitude
under any circumstances,
must remember that
must emit positive energy in the workplace, even if
This task,
, you don’t think you can complete it at all.
You have to work hard,
and don’t always complain,
No one likes a negative energy person,
The author said that once he was on a business trip with his boss,
the plane was delayed.
All the passengers began to be irritable and complaining,
and he, in turn, helped the flight attendants to maintain order,
calmed the passengers, he felt very happy to do so,
did not expect that after returning to the company,
the big boss to him I appreciate it very much,
remembered him immediately, and
gave him more opportunities for promotion in the future.
The fifth point is to make your boss more successful.
The boss will also help you to be more successful.
is a boss of the author,
once said loyally to others,
your work Okay,
can do my job well,
can do my job well,
our president can do it well,
so don’t underestimate any of your tasks,
, let alone yours The boss is the enemy,
is the result of messing up with him,
means that you will get worse and worse.
Next time we come to talk about,
those social ways in the workplace!
will help you succeed,
let’s break it down next time!
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