Hello, my aunt! My name is Jia Chao and I am a male reader.
was divorced by accident, and now she remarries with his wife,
but she has completely changed, and now I am in pain, I don’t know what to do to make her go back to span3span
#1
When the night was quiet, I looked at my son and my son, who was in a trance.
So far, I still don’t understand. How come the wife who loves me so much has changed her person in just over a year?
Chen Lan and I are college classmates and we met in free love.
Back then, I chased her first.
In my sophomore year, she was sitting in the front row of me. During the class, the teacher was too humorous. She leaned forward and closed her laughter, and the ponytail swept across the back of my hand inadvertently. I did not hesitate to tugged with my backhand, just like this, she became my girlfriend.
It is said that Chen Lan was really watery at that time.
Not to mention that fair skin always makes people want to squeeze it,Those big eyes alone can lift a person's soul away.
After being together, she didn't speak, but staring at me with big eyes made me burn all over and fidgeted.
There were many people chasing her, but she really loved me.
In order to supplement my nutrition, she often saves the living expenses of my family and takes me to eat small stir-fry. Knowing that I love to eat buns from a store, she can get up early in the morning and take the car to buy it, put it back to school in a thermal insulation box, and bring it. Eat it with me.
She is very economical, she often does not buy clothes for a year, even a piece of BRA is worn until the shoulder straps are deformed before she is willing to change...
lucky.
#2
After graduation, it was difficult to find a job, and it was hard to find a job. The salary was not high, and she did not dislike it.
After graduation, I will never return to my hometown. I followed me to Sichuan.
When I got married, I only received a symbolic bride price of 20,000 yuan, and I took it back. I did not ask for a wedding room or wedding, and gave me a son.
To be honest, it was not easy at that time.
Chen Lan always wanted to have a home of her own,In the future, I will give my son a stable living environment and be able to study well for his son.
For this goal, she frugal and save all the money I gave her.
At that time, her salary was not high, only three or four thousand a month, but she could just save more than half.
The money I gave her, she didn't even move.
She pays attention to her image, and she doesn't know how to beat herself up, or give herself something delicious and drink to reward herself.
is getting more and more babbled, and occasionally the company can take care of family members for social gatherings, so I can’t speak to her.
took her out, too much.
You know, I'm a salesperson, and I usually contact the boss, boss, and the person in charge of the unit, so I can't live up to the face.
What is even more chilling is that after leaving the campus environment, I found that this woman had too low EQ.
has worked in the unit for more than 3 years, but he hasn't got a salary increase. It has always been 3,000 to 4,000 yuan.
Especially when my mother came to stay for a while, she didn't know whether to buy something to honor the elderly, or to keep saving.
caused my mother to look down on it very much, so she pulled me at night and said: Are you not making any money? Why is Chen Lan so shabby?
I was speechless for a while.
#3
Chen Lan saves so much, we really soon have a down payment for a house, and we will buy a house in Chengdu.
After I bought a house, except for Chen Lan’s household, I no longer gave Chen Lan money.
Chen Lan didn't say anything, but kept his salary.
waited for our house to be renovated and used it all.
Later, my mother said that she saw a house in her hometown and wanted to buy it, but she was almost paid and asked if I could sponsor it.
As soon as I figured it out, I gave my mother hundreds of thousands of private money. Chen Lan didn't know the money.
My mother got the money and smiled and said, "Son, after my mother is born, will everything still belong to you?"
Then, I secretly decorated my mother and bought a full set of home appliances.
I didn't think there was anything wrong with it. Anyway, it was all money earned. It was justified for me to spend money on my mother.
After my mother's house was renovated, I went back to my hometown for the New Year. Who knows what went wrong, Chen Lan found a large bill that I paid.
Chen Lan is angry,Have to ask me where I spent such a large sum of money?
I saw her arrogant and unreasonable appearance, I didn't want to talk to her more, just ignored her problem.
As a result, she was reluctant and insisted on asking me. I was really tired. I felt that I couldn't explain it clearly to her, and I didn't want to make noise during the Chinese New Year.
As one can imagine, I had an unhappy year.
Fortunately, I didn't make trouble in my mother's house.
#4
This incident became the fuse.
After returning to our own home in Chengdu, we began to fall into a long cold war.
Who knows that one night, I rarely get home from get off work early. When I was lying on the bed and playing on my phone, an old friend sent me a private photo.
Coincidentally, it happened to be seen by Chen Lan.
Chen Lan went crazy immediately. That night the shrew threw the flowers I bought for her to the ground and smashed the dishes at home.
sitting on the ground and crying: I sacrificed so much for this family, you treat me so, you treat me so?
I was bored when I saw her like that.
couldn’t help but yell at her: if you can live this life,If you can't get past it, just get out! Look at how old you are. Like a 40-year-old lady, you know how to settle accounts all day long. If you take a picture in the mirror, are you still like a woman?
Chen Lan did not expect me to say that, and immediately stood up to fight with me.
I got angry too, and pushed her down: You look like a ghost, I don't want to touch it!
......
That time, we both cursed each other with the most vicious words.
It turns out that she has always been worried about me. She always secretly looked at my mobile phone when I was drunk. My confidential work has always been done well, but she is suspicious but there is always no substantive evidence.
This time there is a real hammer.
#5
As expected, this woman does not know how to work.
After seizing the evidence of my derailment, I must divorce me anyway.
I see her decay, she is unkempt all day long, she wears hundreds of pieces of clothes over and over again, and my mother is really right: this woman will really buy cheap things .
After some pulling, I took my son out of the house. Fortunately, my income was good and my life was pretty cool.
but not long,I found out that it wouldn't work without Chen Lan.
At night, my son was crying and clamoring for his mother, and I didn’t have hot rice and soup when I went home. Although my mother came to help, after all, it was her age, and I couldn’t bear her too Tired.
The lovers who had been long and short to my brother before have been hiding away.
Especially at night, lying on the bed alone is really lonely.
After a year, I went to Chen Lan to seek reconciliation.
Seeing from her son, Chen Lan is not too difficult for me, but I have to promise 5 conditions:
First, pay off the house loan for her and pay the house according to the agreement The transfer of ownership to her becomes her independent property right;
Secondly, I am responsible for all the expenses of the family, including food, water and electricity, son’s tuition, tuition fees, and exchange fees, etc. Her income is her own Use;
Third, she does not check my mobile phone, and I am not allowed to check her mobile phone;
Fourth, give her and her parents red envelopes during the holidays;
Fifth, my parents are not allowed to come to live permanently.
#6
In order to remarry,I agree to all five conditions.
But the marriage is restored, but our lives will never go back to the past.
It turned out that Chen Lan worked as a full-time housewife at home after giving birth to her son. After the divorce, she went out to work to support herself.
In just one year, the work has increased from four to five thousand to seven or eight thousand, and occasionally it can exceed ten thousand when the performance is good.
So she no longer has the mind to prepare meals for me when I go home, and she will not rack her brains to improve the food and take care of my daily life as before.
She used to be thrifty, but after her remarriage, she became very fond of dressing up.
I often hang out in the mall without going home from get off work, and the cosmetics I used have changed from a few hundred yuan to a thousand yuan now.
used to give her a flower and can be happy for a long time, now she gives her a brand-name bag, she just smiled and said: thank you.
Chen Lan did what she said and did not check my phone.
also looked at my phone very tightly, so I didn't touch it.
This makes me very nervous, suspicious, and always feel that she is cuckolding me.
Now the whole family is cold and cold, only the son thinks that his parents are still very affectionate.
Chen Lan and I rarely communicate,She used to quarrel with me when she was angry, but now that the two of them have differences and quarrel, she has also followed me to practice cold violence.
Occasionally thinking about the way she was before, I feel sad for a while.
I know I am uncomfortable and she is not happy, but since I have remarried, I have sincerely changed it. Why can't she forgive me and let our days go back to what they used to be?
[Auntie Lemon's comment]
received a letter from Xiaoqi. For a while, he couldn't tell whether he came to complain about his wife or "self-defeating".
I told him that if it is sent out, he will be scolded as a sieve. Jia Chao said with certainty: There will definitely be a group of people who understand him and support him.
He said that marriage is a matter of two people, not a single person's fault. Since both parties are at fault, readers will not be one-sided.
However, in the eyes of my aunt, Chen Lan is also wrong, but Jia Chao's mistake is more serious.
first,The true love of certain men makes people shudder.
Women are emotional animals, and most of them are willing to make great material concessions for love. Men are more rational in their relationships.
When Jia Chao and Chen Lan started, although Jia Chao chased Chen Lan first, what did Jia Chao do for Chen Lan?
At school, Chen Lan saved his living expenses and gave Jia Chao a meal and bought him a favorite bun. After marriage, he frugal and saved money to buy a house. Even for weddings that girls pay more attention to, Chen Lan only collected 20,000 yuan symbolically, and eventually brought them back to the small family.
has no wedding photos, no weddings, has children and raised children, does all kinds of housework, takes care of food and daily life, and saves half of his salary...
after buying a house, He is only responsible for the household, not giving Chen Lan money.
secretly paid for his mother's career, engaged in renovations, and bought electricity. He completely forgot that his income was shared by the husband and wife, and he was secretly transferring the property.
If in accordance with the current Marriage Law , both parties account for half of the total family income after marriage, Chen Lan commissioned a lawyer to investigate the income and expenses during the marriage.She is absolutely able to ask for the part of the property that Jia Chao gave to his mother and redistribute it.
The practice of Jia Chao and his mother is really chilling.
Second, the double standard of derailment is serious, and I don’t know how to repent.
Jia Chao did not explicitly say that he was cheating, but from his perspective on his wife, his lover accidentally pushed him in the private photos.
It's not difficult to see that Jia Chao's private life is not well studied. When he asked him again, he also acquiesced to his aunt's guess.
Chen Lan has always been aware of his derailment and suffers from no evidence.
Jia Chao blatantly exploited this. On the one hand, he suppressed his disliked wife at home and on the other hand made excuses for his cheating.
excuses himself for cheating by picking up his wife. After
was discovered, I didn’t really repent, thinking that I just accidentally made a mistake that many men in the world would make.This is not a big problem.
However, after his remarriage, Chen Lan refused to allow him to check his mobile phone, and he became seriously disturbed.
was seriously worried about being "derailed" and wore a green on his head.
Men and women are equal in personality and law. Why can Jia Chao cheat, but his wife can't?
This truth, you can't get on the table wherever you go.
However, men and women are always in pairs. If a man gets a wife of someone else, he may be soaked. If he can't restrain his own desires, he can't correct the social atmosphere. Then you can only abandon the "double standard" and persuade yourself to think about it.
Besides, Chen Lan has not really cheated on it?
Third, men are not greedy enough. They want their wives to be enchanting and sexy, and they also want their wives to be mature and take care of the house.
Chen Lan just stepped out of school, really not very sensible,Blindly save, can't handle all kinds of relationships, and have no ambition. His salary has not been increased for several years... However, Jia Chao has forgotten a little bit, what kind of pot is equipped with what lid.
When he just graduated, he was poor and white. If it weren't for Chen Lan's naivety and trust in feelings, how could he marry Jia Chao without any rituals and suffering without any regrets?
The days afterwards get better, Jia Chao blindly dislikes his wife and neither cares nor encourages or respect.
instead used cheating to beat her self-confidence, playing with the so-called masculine charm cultivated by Chen Lan's sacrifice outside.
Fortunately, Chen Lan grew up quickly after the divorce.
no longer focused on family and relationships, went out to find a job, and the monthly salary increased.
actually opened up a piece of sky for himself.
As for the five remarriage items that Chen Lan put forward that made Jia Chao sorrowful, it is also the reason why a woman has awakened after her love dream died.
I believe it’s not difficult for Chen Lan at this time to see.Jia Chao's proposed remarriage is more based on practical considerations than out of love.
Therefore, women, when they put their minds on love, they often have one idea. When they use it in their career, they will be rewarded.
This reminds us of a truth: You are valuable, your love is more valuable.
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