My name is Xiao Tan. I am a female and I like men. I have some facial control. I usually like to watch dog-blood romantic dramas, and I like to complain about the troubles of some people's love in my heart. There are three parts in the [I teach men how to fall in love series] I prepared, and everyone will be happy if they die or not.
[series one]
Xiao Jiang, 32 years old, is an ordinary employee of a company in a second-tier city. With a monthly income of 6000+, there is a small deposit with a car but no house. There has been no successful blind date since 2017. Most were sentenced to death online.
In early June, a friend of Xiao Jiang introduced a girlfriend. He was very excited as if he had been beaten up, because no one had introduced him to a girlfriend for a long time, and he had been urged at home, and he was also anxious.
The first meeting was in a cold drink shop, and his friend was also there. Several people simply ate, said a few words, and then separated.
After I went back, my friend asked Xiao Jiang how she felt. Xiao Jiang felt that the girl was very beautiful and she spoke gentle and gentle, but she didn't know how to get in touch with the girl. My friend said you should be a friend.
Xiao Jiang felt that he was also a friend before, but he was divided up everywhere, so he was worried.
Friends can't deal with this situation. Later, they said you just let the flow happen. After all, you are making a girlfriend by yourself.
Later, in order to express his thoughtfulness, Xiao Jiang sent the girl good morning in the morning, and then the girl gave him a smile. Then there is no more. Because he was going to work, Xiao Jiang didn't return.
Noon, good noon, the sending was successful, and then the girl sent him a smiley face, and then Xiao Jiang went to eat.
Evening, good evening, the sending is successful, the girl did not reply.
Although Xiao Jiang has been comforting herself that maybe the girl hadn't seen it, but she was still anxious, so she smiled again.Still no one answered, Xiao Jiang was anxious, so he asked a friend for help. As a result, my friend couldn't help laughing after reading the chat log. Saying to Xiao Jiang, "Others must think you are a fool. I know why you are still single now."
Xiao Jiang was helpless, he didn't realize what was wrong with his approach. Later, my friend said that you don’t know how to talk, so you can ask on the Internet to learn more about it and learn more about it. He can't teach this.
Xiao Jiang was very obedient, so he went to the Internet to ask, and then went around and found me.
I am no stranger to this kind of problem he said. Nowadays, why many people feel that blind dates are difficult to succeed, and most of them don’t know what to talk about. So I just talked awkwardly, and talked no more.
At the beginning, I made a few requirements for Xiao Jiang:
1. It's right to be active, because most of the girls will be extraordinarily reserved during blind dates. If the boys do not take the initiative, it will be difficult to talk next. (Perhaps some male friends will say that no one is a small official, and boys are reserved. Well, you don't need to be so true at this time. Really, don't feel that you are at a disadvantage if you take the initiative. The main purpose of taking the initiative is for the future.)
2. It's not wrong to say good morning in the morning, but you can't say hello three times a day, and you can't just say hello without other communication, so that even if the woman has ideas for you, she doesn't have the desire to chat.
3. Dating is very important. After all, the Internet is virtual, and it is far worse than real people face-to-face contact and understanding. Moreover, the language and emotions that the Internet cannot express are possible in reality. Therefore, it is necessary to invite more girls out to eat and watch movies and go shopping. This is also conducive to adding topics in future network communication.
4. Being considerate during the relationship is very important. Don't think that you have paid too much, and you think you are at a disadvantage. In the process of communication, all your behaviors are demanding.
Then, he will still send girls good morning, noon, and good evening, but he will also ask what to eat, whether he is busy or not, and he will also start asking girls out to play. Slowly contacting the two men confirmed their relationship.
I thought there was nothing wrong with me. I didn't expect Xiao Jiang to tell me that they broke up after three months.I was a little confused, after all, a few days ago I saw a photo of two people drinking the same drink and showing their affection.
As a result, Xiao Jiang told me that they were really happy to meet each other. But some time ago he said to the girl, "We are not too young anymore, can we order. Then the girl is not happy."
I understood it immediately, because no girl wants to be said to be older And at this point, there is always a feeling that a girl can't get married without getting married. But I think the most common result of this sentence is that the girl is unhappy and will not break up. So I asked Xiao Jiang what else you said.
"I hope I can get engaged first, get married during the New Year, and have a child. Then she is unwilling." Xiao Jiang said aggrievedly.
After listening to what he said, I felt that I had not finished speaking, so I asked him what the girl said.
Xiao Jiang said: "She asked me if I could buy a house for marriage. I said that my home is well built and there is no need to spend money to buy a house. Now that the house price is so high, she will have to raise children in the future. And she can’t work if she has children. , The less an income, the greater the pressure."
After I listened, it was clear that the problem was.
Xiao Jiang wants to find someone who can bear the pressure of life with him, not someone who can live together. The girl clearly discovered from her words that Xiao Jiang cares more about life pressure, cares about children, but ignores herself. That's why I chose to break up.
Many people think that when a woman gets married, mentioning a house is too materialistic, but in fact it is not the case.
Women's definition of a house is more of a sense of security and a stable space, which will make them feel at ease. It is important to know that many girls who ask for a house mostly work outside, and the experience of renting a house is mostly unpleasant. Wanting to have a home of one's own has become an obsession.
Finally, I didn't say anything to Xiao Jiang about his relationship.
Because I think Xiao Jiang's idea has a fatal problem. That is, he is content with the status quo, not too aggressive, just wants to pull a person into his life to complete the life process of getting married, having children, and raising children.
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