Foreword: We call the friendship between women a good girlfriend, the friendship between men we call a good brother, and the friendship between men and women for many years, we generally call men’s confidantes, women’s confidantes, So how does a man feel if he has a confidante who has been in contact for many years, is the relationship between the two of them pure or mixed with other emotions? Listen to what the three men have to say.
01 Mr. Fan, 34 years old
I am the department head of a listed company, and there are ten people under my control. And I have an unusual relationship with one of my subordinates, Wang Ying. At that time, she was still an intern. She was young and lively, with innovative ideas. We became familiar with each other through exchanges.
I always feel younger when I am with her. She usually rides me home after get off work. We sometimes go for a ride. When we get in touch with me, I feel that she admires me very much, and I really enjoy this feeling.
During a business trip, I had a relationship with her. She knew that I had a family with children, but she said that she was my confidante, and we maintained this relationship for three years. In order to compensate her, I will try my best to make her work more convenient, and she has successfully achieved the post of director in three years.
I thought I could take care of my family and lover's confidant status, but I was finally discovered by my wife, who left our home with the children, and filed for a divorce and divided me half of my property. I reluctantly agreed.
I originally thought about marrying my lover after divorce. Who knew she was the vice president of the company and even forced me to quit in private. I thought that my lover and my confidant had met each other late. It's just a stepping stone for others. Now that my wife is scattered and I have lost my job, I really regret it.
02 Mr. Lin, 40 years old
My wife and I have been married for more than ten years. I think I regret marrying her. She is not a good woman. When I got married, her home was in the city, and I was from the countryside.At that time, the marriage room was prepared by their family, and the number of dowries was more than 100,000, and the condition was that the child would have her surname in the future.
Having lived together for so many years, I feel that she is always above her head. If I do something that doesn't go her way, I will make a lot of noise. I do the usual housework and cooking, and she only cares about her own fun.
I remember one time I was hospitalized with a work-related injury, and my wife saw that I had nothing to do and invited three or five friends to travel. I was very disappointed lying on the hospital bed. It was exactly that time that I accidentally met a high school classmate. , Took care of me during my hospital stay.
After that, we became confidantes who talked everything. She also talked about the misfortune of her marriage. I think we are all sick and pity each other. Under special emotions, we came together and comforted each other.
We make a decision not to affect each other's family, and secretly communicate with each other. It has been 5 years now, and I thought that if one day my wife finds out, then I will get a divorce. I have no regrets.
03 Mr. Peng, 47 years old
I have been with my confidante for 10 years. My wife has no idea. The reason is that she doesn't care about me at all. She is 10 years older than me. We were siblings at the beginning. People around us didn't like us. In fact, we did not have a good time.
Except for the first few years, we love sweetness. In the following days, we always quarreled because of the disagreement of the three views, especially in her middle age, she always had insomnia and irritability, and also proposed to sleep in separate rooms with me.
We have been estranged a lot since we split the room to sleep. Sometimes I want to live a married life and she is unwilling to say that I disturb her. Later, at a gathering of friends, I met Ayan, who was 2 years younger than me.
We are similar in age, we know each other better, and the topics are more harmonious. Slowly, we came together. We are both friends and lovers. I enjoy the life with her very much. I think this will continue in the future.
Conclusion: Marriage requires loyalty to everyone,Some people regard marriage as maintaining the relationship between two people, instead of treating marriage as a sacred union, and eventually treat feelings at will, disrespect marriage, and even cheat.
They are sorry for their wives and family members, and they are not responsible for their own lives. A man thinks that it is a good thing to have a confidant, but he doesn't know how long he is happy, there will be pain for how long.
If the two people in the marriage really have no feelings, they should be asked in time and separated peacefully, rather than making all kinds of excuses for extramarital affairs. Marriage is not easy, and you can do it and cherish each other, manage the family well, find out the problems of the two people in time, and face and solve the problems together.
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