Text/Hua Xiaoli Anchor/Ruchu
Source/Ten Point Reading (ID: duhaoshu)
Being alive, it is inevitable to deal with different people.
"Dream of Red Mansions" said: "The insight of the world is knowledge, and the practice of human feelings is the article."
In every word and deed in contact with people, it can reveal a person's wisdom and pattern.
The best way to get along with people is to grasp the degree of communication.
Remember these three pieces of advice, in interpersonal communication, you can do it with ease.
Friendship is shallow but not deep
Northern Song literaryist Su Shi said in the "Book of the Emperors of the Emperor Shenzong": "Simple talk is deep, and gentlemen are forbidden."
People who are still shallow and don't know each other well should not speak freely, otherwise they will bring trouble or even disaster to themselves.
During the Song Dynasty, there was a Li Langzhong who opened a Chinese medicine shop, and it was very lively with people coming and going every day.
On this day, someone came to visit with a gift. He said to Li Langzhong: "I am a patient you have cured. I admire your medical skills. I hereby come to thank you."
Li Langzhong's warm hospitality, They also prepared food and drink, and the two had a very happy conversation.
During the conversation, Li Langzhong felt that he fell in love with this person.
After getting hot wine, Li Langzhong talked to his neighbor when he was a child. He said, "Don't think he is now a high official. He had a lot of embarrassment when he was a child."
The embarrassment was taken out as a conversation, which made the guests laugh, and Li Langzhong also felt very comfortable.
Who knows that it didn't take long for Li Langzhong's drugstore to be blocked by the government for some reason.
Li Langzhong is not clear, so I found out after some inquiries,It turned out that it was the previous patient. After drinking and returning home, he told Li Langzhong about the embarrassment to his neighbor and spread it out.
As a result, it reached the neighbors who were officials in the court. They turned into anger, and they closed Li Langzhong's medicine shop in a fit of anger.
By this time, Li Langzhong regretted it and sighed repeatedly. He only blamed himself for the shallow interaction with the patient at the beginning, and caused the disaster without being able to speak.
Talking is simple but not deep, which embodies a sense of measure and prudence in the world, as well as the wisdom of a person who is mature and wise and knows how to protect himself.
" Post-Hanshu " said: "The shallower is deep, the stupid."
It is a stupid behavior to say nothing to people who don't have a deep relationship.
Learning to shut up at the right time and swallow what you have to say is a kind of practice.
see through but don’t say it
There is a question on the Internet: "What is a high EQ interpersonal relationship?"
has a high praise answer: "If you see through it, you don’t know it, you don’t know it, you don’t argue with reason.
Speaking of actor Huang Bo, everyone praised him not only for his good acting skills, but also that he is a well-rounded person and has a good reputation in the hearts of his colleagues and the audience.
Once, he participated in " Extreme Challenge " and needed to carry out the task of transporting ice cubes.
Huang Bo was afraid that the ice would melt halfway, so he found a quilt to wrap the ice.
teammate Luo Zhixiang was puzzled by Huang Bo's approach: "Why use cotton blankets to wrap the ice cubes, so that the ice cubes are easy to get stuffy, and will it be easier to get rid of it?"
People with a little physical knowledge It is known that cold ice cubes are wrapped in quilts to prevent them from contacting the air, which can keep the temperature low and not easy to melt.
Facing Luo Zhixiang’s questioning,Huang Bo in front of the camera didn't point out Luo Zhixiang's lack of basic common sense, but cleverly joked, it seems that our growth environment is really different!
Huang Bo's words not only avoided the embarrassment of the positive and Luo Zhixiang's theory, but also resolved the contradiction, increased the laughter of the show, and everyone was happy.
A generation of Chinese masters Mr. Ji Xianlin once said: "When you are a human, you should not tell all the lies, not all the truth."
In life, if you meet people around you that are inappropriate, even if we have already seen them When you come out, you should also consider the other person's face, and don't say it outright in public.
Otherwise, it is easy for people to be unable to get off the stage, and it may hurt the feelings.
Associating with people, seeing through is a kind of ability, not to mention breaking, it is a kind of wisdom.
The person who knows how to leave room for others is the most transparent person.
I hate not turning my face
Carnegie once said:
If you really hate a person, turning your face is the most undesirable way, is to lift a rock and hit someone else in the foot. Punish yourself for your mistakes.
Netizens have shared a story of their own.
She worked hard for a week. She planned to stay at home and relax on the weekend. But a friend who hadn't seen her for a long time came uninvited and said she was looking for her to relax.
After two days, the two people went to exhibitions, watched movies, and ate dinners. Not only did they accompany one point to pay for the whole process, but their friends also stayed at her house at night.
On the afternoon of the day before my friend left, I took my friend to the high-speed rail station at one o'clock.
After waiting for the bus, my friend pulled a little into a noodle restaurant.Unceremoniously, I directly ordered two bowls of Japanese-style ramen , one bowl cost 75 yuan.
She took a few bites, and found that the spicy one was not delicious, so she immediately ordered another bowl of sweet and spicy one and said it was a taste, but she put it down after a few bites, saying that she was full.
After a while, the friend said that his mouth was so spicy and wanted to eat pudding, and he was speechless.
When it came time to check out, my friend deliberately lowered his head to play with his mobile phone, quite a bit like he wanted to pay the bill, and he took this opportunity to quickly walk out of the noodle shop.
The waiter came to her friend and asked her to pay the bill. The friend was surprised and saw that he was not there, so he reluctantly paid.
After the two met in the waiting hall, they shook hands with their friends a little bit, smiled and told her: "My bowl of flour has been transferred to you with Alipay. You are good to go."
I can’t help but admire her attitude towards life.
As Gui Guzi said: "To perceive a person's hypocrisy is invisible to color; to eat a person's loss, not to move in his mouth."
I hate a person, don’t turn your face, there is no need for someone who is not worthy. Make a mess of your own mood.
In your life, in just a few decades, don't have trouble with your life, let alone with yourself.
When you meet people and things you can’t understand, don’t compromise and compromise, and you don’t have to turn your face to affect your mood.
It is wise not to be a soft persimmon, nor to tear your face, to use the human way to cure the human body calmly.
People get along with people, please remember these three pieces of advice
Getting along with people is a science.
Kerhart Toli wrote in the "Book of Fortune":
Communication can be hell,It can also be a good spiritual practice.
If the relationship is too close, it is easy to be troublesome; if the relationship is too far, it is easy to leave regrets.
You can protect yourself better if you talk shallow and deep; see through but don’t talk through is the highest level of kindness; hate not turning your face is the best respect for yourself.
As a human being, we must know how to advance and retreat.
Only when you get along well with others can you live freely and easily.
Author: Hua Xiaoli. Source: Ten o'clock reading (ID: duhaoshu). At ten o'clock in the evening, I will accompany you to study and have a good life. Good book/story/American text/radio/aesthetics.
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