text丨Mother Kapok
"Bring the children to kindergarten, do you all go back to your hometown?"
That day, 's mother-in-law went upstairs and told me that several of their grandmothers and grandma walked and chatted with their babies in the community . In the future, do you want to go back to your hometown immediately after your child goes to kindergarten?
A grandmother said: As soon as the child goes to kindergarten, I will go home immediately, so as not to be unwelcome after a long time!
I remembered that a mother who got along well with upstairs came to me, and the mother asked me: When your child goes to kindergarten, will your mother-in-law go back to her hometown?
At that time, I replied like this: My mother-in-law is thinking about going back to her hometown. After all, my father-in-law is in my hometown, but I want my mother-in-law to stay for a while. When the child goes to kindergarten, my mother-in-law can relax. The old ladies in the community are chatting and chatting as companions. Secondly, as soon as they brought out the child and liberated her, we were anxious to let her go back to her hometown, which is unreasonable!
To tell the truth, this is really what I think in my heart, and then Baoma told me about a neighbor in her hometown. As soon as the child was sent to the kindergarten, the daughter-in-law started to let the old man go back to his hometown in secret!
Auntie Zhang returned to her hometown regretted and cried bitterly: I helped my son daughter-in-law with the baby for more than 3 years, and let me go back to my hometown as soon as the child went to kindergarten!
Aunt Zhang’s situation is special. Aunt Zhang’s wife is gone. It is the third year of her son’s marriage. At that time, her little grandson has not been born yet. Her wife died of illness.
text丨Mother Kapok
"Bring the children to kindergarten, do you all go back to your hometown?"
That day, 's mother-in-law went upstairs and told me that several of their grandmothers and grandma walked and chatted with their babies in the community . In the future, do you want to go back to your hometown immediately after your child goes to kindergarten?
A grandmother said: As soon as the child goes to kindergarten, I will go home immediately, so as not to be unwelcome after a long time!
I remembered that a mother who got along well with upstairs came to me, and the mother asked me: When your child goes to kindergarten, will your mother-in-law go back to her hometown?
At that time, I replied like this: My mother-in-law is thinking about going back to her hometown. After all, my father-in-law is in my hometown, but I want my mother-in-law to stay for a while. When the child goes to kindergarten, my mother-in-law can relax. The old ladies in the community are chatting and chatting as companions. Secondly, as soon as they brought out the child and liberated her, we were anxious to let her go back to her hometown, which is unreasonable!
To tell the truth, this is really what I think in my heart, and then Baoma told me about a neighbor in her hometown. As soon as the child was sent to the kindergarten, the daughter-in-law started to let the old man go back to his hometown in secret!
Auntie Zhang returned to her hometown regretted and cried bitterly: I helped my son daughter-in-law with the baby for more than 3 years, and let me go back to my hometown as soon as the child went to kindergarten!
Aunt Zhang’s situation is special. Aunt Zhang’s wife is gone. It is the third year of her son’s marriage. At that time, her little grandson has not been born yet. Her wife died of illness.
After the birth of the little grandson, Aunt Zhang came to take care of the baby. During the period, she not only contributed to bringing the baby, but also sometimes added money to her son and daughter-in-law. In March this year, the little grandson went to kindergarten. Aunt Zhang and the old ladies who brought the baby together in the community Said: My wife is gone, and I don't have anything to worry about in my hometown. I won't leave, and I'm still here.Picking up my little grandson to school, in case my daughter-in-law gives me a second child, my old bones can still contribute!
Who would have thought that the old lady went back to her hometown last month, and it happened that Baoma upstairs went back to her hometown on May 1 to live with her parents, and asked how Auntie Zhang came back!
At first, Auntie Zhang kept it a secret for her son and daughter-in-law, but she cried as she spoke: I am old, useless, and use me no more! But come back!
It turns out that since the little grandson went to kindergarten, the daughter-in-law often said: I read on the Internet that it is best to keep a bowl of soup away from the mother-in-law and the daughter-in-law, and there will be conflicts over time!
What really made Auntie Zhang decide to go back to her hometown was what her daughter-in-law said: My colleague and husband quarreled , the two have not spoken for several days, her husband has beaten her son, she is distressed, you say Living together with this old man is a lot of things, which is inconvenient. If you always quarrel and quarrel with each other, no one cares when you are old, so it is better to live separately while you are young!
Auntie Zhang fully understood: I thought that I would take care of my baby at my son's house, and I would be able to rest and rest until the child goes to kindergarten and enjoy my old age, but I didn't expect this to drive people away!
"You don't care if I'm young, I don't care for you." Who would have thought that the final outcome of those old people who help their sons and daughters-in-law with babies seems even more bleak!
It is really just love for an old man to bring a baby.
"How can I go to work if the old man does not have a baby? How can he support his family with his son's salary?"
Such words seem to have become the mantra of daughters-in-law. Don't men choose for themselves?
There is more or less money, and life will gradually pass. The old man can come and bring the baby, but please put away the way it should be. Maybe you will say: If she doesn't bring the baby, I have no obligation. ! Mian Mama would like to say: People are not obliged to bring babies, and they are not obligated to bring babies while being taken for granted by you.Being pointed by you , we are not the sun, no one is obliged to revolve around us!
In this matter, I especially admire a colleague of mine. Her mother-in-law returned home after confinement. My colleague and confinement went to work after 42 days. Quit your job and bring your own baby.
His husband went to the project department in order to make more money. For engineering, going to the project department to go to the front line only paid more, so my colleague took the child to the project department with my husband.
Last year, because of the epidemic, we advocated "Chinese New Year in situ". A colleague posted a photo of a community organization making dumplings. I remembered that their community was not this property, so I chatted with her on WeChat and learned that she has been following her husband in the project department.
At that moment, I really felt that my colleagues were both smart and great. Compared with those daughters-in-law who complained that their mother-in-law did not have a baby every day, and wished to quarrel with their mother-in-law, the practice of my colleagues is really worth learning from today's young people.
Cotton Mama said:
Everyone will grow old one day, especially mothers with sons. If our daughter-in-law asks us like this in the future, will our hearts feel tingling?
So compares heart to , relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law is difficult to get along with , but there are always examples of mother-in-law and daughter-in-law getting along. what do you say?
I am Kapok mother, a mother who loves reading and learning, focusing on children's growth education. If you want to know more parenting knowledge and education knowledge, don't forget to pay attention to Mianma, Mianma will continue to output better content.
His husband went to the project department in order to make more money. For engineering, going to the project department to go to the front line only paid more, so my colleague took the child to the project department with my husband.
Last year, because of the epidemic, we advocated "Chinese New Year in situ". A colleague posted a photo of a community organization making dumplings. I remembered that their community was not this property, so I chatted with her on WeChat and learned that she has been following her husband in the project department.
At that moment, I really felt that my colleagues were both smart and great. Compared with those daughters-in-law who complained that their mother-in-law did not have a baby every day, and wished to quarrel with their mother-in-law, the practice of my colleagues is really worth learning from today's young people.
Cotton Mama said:
Everyone will grow old one day, especially mothers with sons. If our daughter-in-law asks us like this in the future, will our hearts feel tingling?
So compares heart to , relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law is difficult to get along with , but there are always examples of mother-in-law and daughter-in-law getting along. what do you say?
I am Kapok mother, a mother who loves reading and learning, focusing on children's growth education. If you want to know more parenting knowledge and education knowledge, don't forget to pay attention to Mianma, Mianma will continue to output better content.
