I have heard a saying that when people are old, they realize how important it is to have a companion by their side.
But many men may find that after the age of 50 , wife seems to not only talk less to herself, but even want to stay away from herself, no matter what she does, she doesn't like talking to herself. Together, why does cause ?
In fact, every marriage relationship needs to be managed. The love at the beginning may be full of passion and romance, but this romance will eventually be wiped out by the triviality and repetition in married life.
If a man doesn't know how to run a business, and he doesn't take care of seriously and the heart of a woman's , then even if he doesn't get to the point of divorce, after middle age, the children have grown up, and women no longer have reason to forbear. Men will eventually find that women will become farther and farther away from themselves.
Therefore, men need to live more soberly. Women in their fifties start to "stay away" from their husbands. In fact, there are reasons behind them, and most of these reasons come from men.
1: The harm of " widowed marriage "
As people understand marriage and love more and more deeply, the words "widowed marriage" and " widowed parenting " are becoming more and more familiar to the public.
This does not mean widowhood in the true sense, but refers to the fact that the partner does not assume the responsibilities that should be assumed in the married life. Whether it is childcare or family care, it is all burdened on one party, and this party is often more female.
We can imagine that from birth to growth of a child, a family is maintained in an orderly manner, which requires women's meticulous care and hard work, because the legendary " snail girl " does not exist.
However, there are many men who are not grateful for what their wives have done for their children and their families. In the name of their own work to make money, they do nothing at home for granted, and even yell at their wives, and instigating .
It is self-evident that this kind of marriage hurts women. After all, women are more eager to get the love and care of each other in marriage. Who wants to carry the whole family by themselves? If so, what is the point of marriage?
Unfortunately, some men do not understand these truths, and it is too late when they wake up, because the perennial neglects to accompany and care about his wife, so even if the marriage does not break down, the wife is no longer willing to be close to him.
Therefore, some middle-aged men will find that their wives seem to have less and less to say to them, and even begin to sleep in separate rooms with them. Besides their distress, they regret their inaction.
2: I once betrayed my wife’s
In the eyes of the vast majority of people, marriage is actually a habit of cleanliness, because there is no room for a grain of sand, and it pays attention to uniqueness. When the promise was to take care of him for the rest of his life, he would always treat himself When loyal people betrayed themselves, there must be few people who can choose to forgive calmly.
But in reality, there are many women who choose to swallow their voices for the sake of their children and the elderly. They are afraid that their children will not have a complete home and that the elderly will follow suit, so they are willing to give men a chance to turn back.
However, emotional betrayal in marriage is different from other mistakes. This kind of mistake may really be made and there will be eternal damage, and the crack in the heart will always exist.
Therefore, some men rely on a woman's weakness, knowing that she is reluctant to leave her child, and she is reluctant to pay for this family, so they are unscrupulous, but they forget that although a woman will stay, it does not mean that she really forgives you .
Women will maintain a superficial marriage with a man for several years, even decades, but after middle age, when the children have their own families and careers, women no longer need to worry about anyone, and finally choose to live for themselves when you want to stay away from men.
At this time, what a man needs to do should not be complaining, because it is himself who makes the mistake first, and what he needs to do most is to use the tenderness of the rest of his life and considerate to warm the heart of a woman again, so that two people will grow old company.
3: A man's neglect of communication
A good marriage relationship must have two people's active communication, this communication is two-way, not a one-way effort can be completed.
Husbands and wives live under the same roof, and it is natural for them to communicate with each other every day, or talk about what happened during the day at work. You can complain about leaders or colleagues, or talk about children's learning, or you can talk about what happened in the society. Discuss some things.
This kind of chatting process is a form of communication. The couple will also deepen their understanding of each other through such communication, so as to complete the necessary running-in process in the couple's journey.
However, some men always show their eloquent side to outsiders. After returning to the home, used excuse to be tired, and they were unwilling to tell their wives one more word.
I once watched a movie in which 's husband, , was a salesman. When dealing with people, he relied on that mouth to speak hype and make people feel comfortable.
But when he comes home every day, his wife wants to chat with him, but he always refuses impatiently. He says that he has said too much during the day, and now he does not want to say a word.
A gentle and considerate wife is well aware of the nature of his work, so she chooses tolerance and understanding, but how can two-way communication be missing in marriage?
Over time, the wife becomes a little nervous, often talking to herself there alone, and the husband realizes how much damage his lack of communication has caused his wife.
Communication is the best way to show one's intentions, and the best way to see how the other person feels and thinks, especially two people in a marriage, whether they are newlyweds or old couples who have been together for many years, communication is indispensable.
After years of accumulation, men are reluctant to talk about it, and women gradually lose their enthusiasm and naturally no longer want to communicate with their husbands. The intimacy that should have been a family has also disappeared, and it has become two worlds under the same roof.
In fact, the quality of a marriage is determined by many factors, not only can it be achieved by one person's efforts, if you want a happy marriage, and if you want to be able to mingle with your wife in your old age, then you must be young Emotional basis.
Between husband and wife, the more time they spend together, the deeper the relationship will accumulate. Don't hurt each other's feelings because of your own negligence and mistakes.
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