The marriage of middle-aged people, "pretending" may be their most real state

official account received a letter from a reader in the background.

This is a letter from a student who is in junior high school.

She said that she thought her parents had always been very loving, or at least they had a good relationship.

however, until that day.

On that day, she accidentally saw the chat records of her parents, and at that moment, she was stunned! In her eyes, the loving parents are actually talking about divorce!

And, judging from their chat content, this is not the first time they have discussed divorce.

Then, she began to recall, and the more she recalled, the colder her heart became. Could it be that all the love that showed her parents in front of her eyes was an illusion?

But why would they do this! Obviously not in love, even talking about divorce, but still in marriage, in the family, in front of children, and in front of outsiders, acting like a loving couple, why are they?

yeah they are why?

I think this problem is not only confusing to this one child, but also to countless children who have discovered their secrets, because there are not a few families like this one.

How real is the relationship between husband and wife of middle-aged ?

With the progress of society, the opening of minds, and divorce have become very common in China.

According to relevant data, the age of divorce begins to show a trend of lower age. The study found that a whopping 99% of divorces were between the ages of 22 and 35, a really shocking result.

Divorce for young people is already very popular, but for middle-aged people with teenage children, talking about divorce is really embarrassing to outsiders.

Therefore, when people reach middle age, If the relationship is not completely broken, many families can still continue to maintain. But maintaining it does not mean that the once loving relationship still exists.

Love is fresh.

The first one or two years of marriage is the happiest, and with the passage of time, the trivialities of life will slowly wear away the passion once, after the passion sheds, the rest is just day after day is dull and Monotonous life.

When love is not present and conflicts arise in marriage, it depends on whose personality is more tolerant, whose pattern is more open, and whose patience is more profound. In short, when there is no love as the premise, personality , This kind of thing that was not important in the past love will start to stand out.

People with high emotional intelligence will start to learn to manage marriages, learn to put away one of their personalities, or try to get along with each other in another way.

and some couples , they are just ordinary middle-aged people. After the conflict broke out again and again, they began to realize the natural incompatibility brought about by the personalities of the two parties. I used to let you and listen to you just because I love You, and now, may have just woken up, when I am no longer easily persuaded, there is such a big difference in our values.

Without the veil of love, the flaws in the characters of both sides are exposed to each other nakedly, bit by bit, day by day, consuming some of the beauty that the two had once.The

official account received a letter from a reader in the background.

This is a letter from a student who is in junior high school.

She said that she thought her parents had always been very loving, or at least they had a good relationship.

however, until that day.

On that day, she accidentally saw the chat records of her parents, and at that moment, she was stunned! In her eyes, the loving parents are actually talking about divorce!

And, judging from their chat content, this is not the first time they have discussed divorce.

Then, she began to recall, and the more she recalled, the colder her heart became. Could it be that all the love that showed her parents in front of her eyes was an illusion?

But why would they do this! Obviously not in love, even talking about divorce, but still in marriage, in the family, in front of children, and in front of outsiders, acting like a loving couple, why are they?

yeah they are why?

I think this problem is not only confusing to this one child, but also to countless children who have discovered their secrets, because there are not a few families like this one.

How real is the relationship between husband and wife of middle-aged ?

With the progress of society, the opening of minds, and divorce have become very common in China.

According to relevant data, the age of divorce begins to show a trend of lower age. The study found that a whopping 99% of divorces were between the ages of 22 and 35, a really shocking result.

Divorce for young people is already very popular, but when it comes to middle-aged people with teenage children, talking about divorce, in the eyes of outsiders,It's still a little embarrassing.

Therefore, when people reach middle age, If the relationship is not completely broken, many families can still continue to maintain. But maintaining it does not mean that the once loving relationship still exists.

Love is fresh.

The first one or two years of marriage is the happiest, and with the passage of time, the trivialities of life will slowly wear away the passion once, after the passion sheds, the rest is just day after day is dull and Monotonous life.

When love is not present and conflicts arise in marriage, it depends on whose personality is more tolerant, whose pattern is more open, and whose patience is more profound. In short, when there is no love as the premise, personality , This kind of thing that was not important in the past love will start to stand out.

People with high emotional intelligence will start to learn to manage marriages, learn to put away one of their personalities, or try to get along with each other in another way.

and some couples , they are just ordinary middle-aged people. After the conflict broke out again and again, they began to realize the natural incompatibility brought about by the personalities of the two parties. I used to let you and listen to you just because I love You, and now, may have just woken up, when I am no longer easily persuaded, there is such a big difference in our values.

Without the veil of love, the flaws in the characters of both sides are exposed to each other nakedly, bit by bit, day by day, consuming some of the beauty that the two had once.

Therefore, in the relationship between middle-aged husband and wife, there are not many people who truly love each other. The beauty and feelings between them have been stained with dust and faded in the day after day.The rest is just the future between each other.

years have finally swallowed up love, and even scum is not left.

But they are not willing to show this relationship that has deteriorated.

Divorce when you are young is not a big deal, But the marriage failure of middle-aged people is in the eyes of most people, but it is a real marriage failure.

and a failed marriage is not a good reputation, so avoid it if you can.

So, you can see some young people complaining about their unhappy marriages, but you rarely hear real complaints about marriage from middle-aged people.

that part of their complaints were swallowed after self-digestion. It is like blindly unspeakable suffering, buried deep in their hearts.

We say that married life is like a fish drinking water, and that is the truth.

How much of the middle-aged couple's relationship is really loving as before, perhaps, only they know this, and more are just in the future.

For the sake of children, for face, for work, for promotion, these are the reasons why they can do it. They can no longer break up at will like young people, and they can have no scruples. They are the backbone of the society and the family The pillar of the pillar, the influence of divorce between them has far surpassed that of young people.

Therefore, middle-aged people's marriages are no longer easy to talk about breaking up. They work hard every day, try their best, stage a harmonious relationship between husband and wife, and maintain as stable as possible, as if everything is still the same as before.

seems sad, but it is the true image of life.

life, there is not so much arbitrary,It's more about patience and perseverance.

And the marriage relationship is not a constant, it will change unknowingly with age and time.

There are many people who finally survived middle age, until their children grew up, got married, had children, and both husband and wife were full of gray hair. At that time, perhaps, the relationship between husband and wife that was not very harmonious in middle age began to change. looks like.

Those who were far away from work and social relations began to discover that their daily happiness and value of existence were actually bickering and complaining with the person around them.

The person who was in the limelight in the workplace has gradually grown old, the beauty is twilight, the hero is short-lived, and the long-sleeved dance has lost the stage where he can play. In the end, the only place where an individual can really move is his home, and less than an acre of three around his home. km of that spot.

And the person around me who I looked down on when I was middle-aged is still by my side and has become the person who has been with me the longest every day. All the unpleasant things that happened in my marriage life have become a kind of life at this stage. Sauce will not cause substantial harm to marriage, but it adds another flavor to life.

Until the end, no one can see the truth of life.

marriage is a complex and difficult problem. It seems like it is the same thing, but it is not easy to go hand in hand to the end.

But it can really come to the end, but it is not a kind of happiness in life.

seems sad, but it is the true image of life. In

life, there is not so much freewheeling, and more is forbearance and perseverance.

And the marriage relationship is not a constant, it will change unknowingly with age and time.

There are many people who finally survived middle age, until their children grew up, got married, had children, and both husband and wife were full of gray hair. At that time, perhaps, the relationship between husband and wife that was not very harmonious in middle age began to change. looks like.

Those who were far away from work and social relations began to discover that their daily happiness and value of existence were actually bickering and complaining with the person around them.

The person who was in the limelight in the workplace has gradually grown old, the beauty is twilight, the hero is short-lived, and the long-sleeved dance has lost the stage where he can play. In the end, the only place where an individual can really move is his home, and less than an acre of three around his home. km of that spot.

And the person around me who I looked down on when I was middle-aged is still by my side and has become the person who has been with me the longest every day. All the unpleasant things that happened in my marriage life have become a kind of life at this stage. Sauce will not cause substantial harm to marriage, but it adds another flavor to life.

Until the end, no one can see the truth of life.

marriage is a complex and difficult problem. It seems like it is the same thing, but it is not easy to go hand in hand to the end.

But it can really come to the end, but it is not a kind of happiness in life.