Vanity is a very common psychological state, it is a manifestation of excessive self-esteem. Self-esteem is the pursuit of praise and praise of oneself, while vanity is the opposite, it is the pursuit of praise and praise of others.
There is no doubt that everyone has vanity, but excessive vanity is a twisted state of mind. When a person pursues external approval too much, or even obtains it in a "wrong way", he will not only fail to grow, but will gradually degenerate.
If you start having these three behaviors, then you are probably a "vanity-inflated" person. be careful.
(1) Lies to win the approval of others
The first manifestation of excessive vanity is to start lying. Because when a person desperately desires praise and approval from others, he can do anything, and a lie is just a small step.
However, any lie needs to be rounded up with countless lies. When you start lying, it means that your vanity has begun to significantly affect your life and your relationships.
And, once you've tasted the sweetness of lying, you can get out of hand. Until the lie was exposed, and it was a complete failure.
(2) Strong jealousy Another manifestation of
's vanity is jealousy. When someone is stronger than you, you can't get the praise from the people around you, your vanity can't be satisfied, and jealousy will naturally arise.
and jealousy is also graded. Ordinary jealousy may just make you uncomfortable and a little out of control. But if a person's jealousy starts to affect her behavior, for example, she will compete maliciously and slander each other. That would be scary.
When a person's vanity begins to overflow, jealous behavior will naturally arise and significantly affect life.
(3) Self-anaesthesia
vanity splits two words, empty, false, nothingness, emptiness. Glory, glory, glory. That is to say, you have to pretend to have something that you don't have or it's hard to have.
The greatest danger posed by vanity is self anesthesia. When a man constantly deceives himself into thinking he has those "glory", he really believes he has it.
It is naturally much easier to obtain glory by imagination than to strive for glory. Therefore, people with strong vanity will inevitably fall into depravity. Indulge in an unreal world of imagination.
Conclusion:
Everyone has vanity. Proper vanity can motivate us to move forward, but excessive vanity will make us fall. Therefore, to maintain a balance of vanity, to strengthen the heart, can move forward better.
