Illustration: Stills from the movie "Norwegian Forest"
Japanese writer Haruki Murakami's "Norwegian Forest" tells the story of a boy and two girls, but it is not as vulgar as we think Love triangle is a process of seeking true love and self-searching.
They have all been lost in love, go round and round, never find what they want. Either leave the world in an extreme way, or miss each other, and never have any contact.
This is also the reason why we can think more deeply when reading this novel. This is the youthful memories of a generation. Those unique confusions when they were young are all embodied in the novel, such as: loneliness, contradictions, struggles, lost, searching, missing, and so on.
But no matter what the process, those people and those things contributed to our later growth and maturity. Every time I think about the past, I can't help feeling a lot. The detours and hurts in the past remind us how to love in the days to come.
And when we read this novel, we can also think a lot. The love-hate entanglement between the hero and the heroine can give us a deeper understanding of love. If we understand it, we will be able to understand it a lot in the days to come.
For Watanabe, the two girls, Naoko and Midoriko, are an inseparable part of him. He thinks he loves Naoko deeply, even though he is not sure whether he loves him too, he still gives blindly, hoping that she is well.
and Luzi is just the opposite of Naoko. Her character is very lively, and her way of expressing love is bold and direct. She has never concealed her feelings.There has never been ambiguity or vacillation.
She is quite sure that she loves Watanabe so much, so she is willing to do anything for him. She would rush into Watanabe's arms on a rainy evening to confess aloud, telling him that she loves him very much, and if he doesn't cherish him, love others.
This kind of directness, enthusiasm and boldness is something Naoko doesn't possess. She is too reserved, and after the death of her boyfriend Mu Yue, she suffered from a serious mental illness and had to go to a nursing home for treatment.
Not so much that she loves Watanabe, it is better to say that she uses Watanabe and regards Watanabe as spiritual comfort and spiritual dependence.
Because as long as you think of him, you will remember the time with Mu Yue. After all, he is Mu Yue's best brother, and there is more or less Mu Yue's shadow on his body.
However, even if the attitudes of the two girls were so obvious, Watanabe was still vacillating. He didn't really get a son, so he kept thinking about it. Although Midori is very good and loves herself, she It's so easy to get, it's almost effortless, and it's here with a wave of your hand.
Therefore, compared to the hard-to-obtain Naoko, Luzi made himself a little less challenging and conquering, and therefore he lost the sense of accomplishment, so he never knew how to cherish it until Luzi planned to leave. , He was somewhat restrained.
It can be seen from this that what men never forget is often the woman who can't get it. The easier it is to get, the less cherish it is. On the contrary, if it is not available, there will be a stronger desire to conquer.
This is also the key reason why Watanabe is obsessed with Naoko and turned a blind eye to Midoriko.
men never forget,It's the woman who can't get it
Zhang Ailing said in "Red Roses and White Roses": "When you marry a red rose, the red one becomes a smear of mosquito blood on the wall, and the white one is in front of the bed. Bright moonlight; when you marry a white rose, the white one becomes a sticky rice stick on your clothes, while the red one becomes a cinnabar mole in your heart."
The one that is not available is always the best , Is to make myself worry about it and never forget it. Instead of trying to attract his attention, trying to win his favor by flattering and pleasing, it is better to be indifferent and alienated. This will stimulate his desire and make him Take the initiative to approach you.
is just like the white tassel in "Love in the Allure", she knows that Fan Liuyuan is back from the UK, and her mindset is relatively open. Because she has money and good looks, she never lacks women around her Throwing on him, so he looked down on them and treated them as mud on the soles of his feet.
Bai Fringe had to do the opposite. She became very cold and disdainful. Fan Liuyuan, who had always been arrogant, was seriously frustrated and became interested in her.
It can be seen from here that the way to make men never forget is actually very simple. Just keep your self-esteem and be yourself. This may seem simple, but it is really difficult to achieve it. You need to maintain a high degree of self-discipline and enhance your intrinsic value.
When you have value, the other person will naturally be attracted to you. If you go to please you, you will become humble. And the humble you, no one can afford, let alone he will love you.
manage yourself well,Rather than to please, it is better to attract
. Many women don’t understand, they always feel that they have paid enough, and the other person will be moved one day, but in fact, from the moment you lose yourself, the relationship begins. It must be unbalanced, and unbalance is precisely the beginning of deterioration.
What men really like are women who can always look at themselves. They have a rich heart, just like a book. Reading with content, it can make people think continuously, and be with such a woman. , I will benefit myself, so how can I not be subdued.
The opposite is the same. If a woman has an empty skin, although it can attract the other's attention in a short time, but after a long time, it will always be tired, because you have no connotation and will make people feel boring, like A glass of plain water.
Rather than bothering to please, it is better to manage yourself and let yourself have the competitiveness that others cannot replace.
If you are good, you shine, and the other party will naturally look for light. This kind of love that comes together by attraction is not only firm, but also can stand the test of time. This is the greatest guarantee of happiness.
Love is not your only retreat, nor your only dependence. Your retreat and dependence will always be yourself. For you, the other party is just icing on the cake rather than giving away charcoal. If there is better, there will be no worse.
Only when a woman is not afraid of losing, will she have more confidence and choice. You will not trust your life on others, and you will not be disappointed if you have no expectations. Such you are not afraid of any changes.
Haruki Murakami’s Naoko makes Watanabe remember it,It's because Watanabe never really got her. She was too indifferent and too distant, like a mystery that people can never guess, and needs to be constantly solved.
This kind of attraction is huge and hard to resist, because the man's desire to challenge and conquer is completely aroused, so Watanabe thinks about her day and night, there is nowhere to hide.
If you want to be remembered by the other party, the best way is to have the value and ability to make him remember. Try to make yourself a shining girl. Sooner or later, the other party will come in search of light.
Haruki Murakami's "Norwegian Forest" is his most classic novel. I understand the truth about love he told us in this novel. Maybe he can walk a lot less in the process of managing relationships in the future. detour. Because at that time you were more transparent and clearer.
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