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If it is not the calculation of an unknown prophet, or the prediction of an unknown astrologer, the so-called knowing whether it is possible or not is purely an imaginary set up by oneself, that is, the heart has already thought that the result is no Ok!
is impossible, and no one really defines the future.
So, hearing some people say, "We must be together if we know we have no results." At first it sounds like a big word, like a movie and TV show that is abusive. You have to use your life to gamble That is possible. After careful consideration, the person who said this thought it was impossible.
I used to firmly believe that my husband and I will be together and be happy forever.
In just a few years, we got divorced. Thinking about it carefully, my "used to be certain" is only a certain moment or a few moments, my hope, and more time, I deeply think about the truth of my own heart and some of the things I have done. I am afraid that my disbelief is far greater than the former. Therefore, it is my own cause of the divorce. I think the same is true for him. Otherwise, it will not be because of career. It’s not going well, his mother’s instigation, or other temptations, she said what hurt me, and what hurt me, in essence, each other’s inner truth is like this.
Believe in the power of believing. Whatever you believe in, you will often get something!
The essence of the famous law of attraction is that when you are sure that you really want, you will clearly manage your goals and the process of achieving them, and constantly release a stable magnetic field. Something you want, some The result, the clearer, truer, and more specific, the more likely it is. When you recognize this result, you will not be anxious, determine the goal and formulate the methods and steps to achieve the goal, you will attract relevant resources and continue to put into action.Collect information and try again and again. People do have a magnetic field. Some people are full of negative emotions, and negative people will gather around them. The people who succeed in the end never thought that they would fail.
So the goal you set by "knowing that there is no result" is "failure".
So, the truth is, "knowing that there is no result for two people" is the truest thought when you face yourself in the depths of your heart and call yourself.
Know it is impossible and do it
Confucius: Choose good and stubborn, know it and do it!
Please pay attention to this premise, chooses good and stubborn , which means to choose good and right things to do, and stick to it.
In other words, before making a choice, you must be cautious, analyze, and judge until you are sure that this is the right direction. Here, "knowing the impossibility" refers to the difficulties in the temporary environment and the various oppositions around you. Voice, no matter what obstacles you encounter in the process, after you have identified this direction, you still reject all opinions and make a firm choice.
Since it is a challenge, we know that the risk is greater than the stability. The greater the risk, the higher the return , even if it is possible to fail, it will not hesitate.
Knowing that it may not really know
Facing reality requires a certain amount of courage, sometimes you need to admit that you are not omnipotent in many ways, especially the minds of others that we cannot control, emotional Even more so, sometimes you may not even be able to control who you feel about.
Looking back on my own failed romances,Sometimes knowing that you are with each other is really inappropriate. But like grabbing a life-saving straw, I have to give it a try.
wounded himself and others in the end, and still failed.
For example, there is a friend who asked me to consult. Two people are obviously having extramarital affairs, knowing that it is impossible at all, but they have to be together. In the beginning, the two people kept walking on the edge of danger, playing with heartbeat and excitement, always wanting to bet a big one.
Playing with fire will cause self-immolation, and gamble will hurt you.
The sense of lack that accompanies a lifetime
Some people have "unworthy feeling". The so-called "unworthy feeling" means that they always feel that they are not worthy of good in their subconscious mind. Good things will make them feel Guilty.
This kind of experience comes from childhood deprivation, not only material deprivation, but also psychological deprivation caused by parental education.
"I was poor for a while, and my heart is poor for three generations"
However, deep down, many people are unwilling to admit their own shortcomings, let alone the impact of their own shortcomings on themselves.
Life is not perfect. This is the reality that everyone needs to face and accept. Deliberately trying to solve their own shortcomings is like seeking fish.
Pay attention to what you have
Keep your perspective on your own strengths and things you have for a long time, you will live more and more happily, happy and rich, emotional things pay attention to chance and never Excessive force.
Pursuing perfection deliberately, stepping into a blind alley, even wanting to control the result, it slowly becomes a kind of manipulation. The person in the controlled center feels extremely uncomfortable and wants to escape, precisely because of the "" knowing no As a result, the heart of " is unwilling and persistent.
It is precisely because I have not seen the real reality, and the so-called perfection is my own imagination, and I want to force the environment and other people to follow my own state of mind.
People like this usually have controlling parents when they are young.
The unfinished state of adolescence
Some people never end their puberty in their entire life, the reason is that they want it during adolescence. Breaking through oneself, a lot of rebellious states, not accepted by parents and not supported.
Unsuccessful breakthrough in puberty.
So some people think that adolescence wants to break through themselves, as a mission that has not been completed in this life, of course this exists in the subconscious. Even some people have spent nearly 20 years, still trying and breaking through, don’t care about success or failure, because they are still " looking for themselves ."
Therefore, the more people oppose the things, the more they want to do it. Some people even do one thing for the purpose of seeing the surprised expressions on their parents’ faces.
Reconciliation with ourselves
We have to learn to restore many phenomena of our puberty and our mentality at the time, and continue to reconcile ourselves and our family by improving our own cognition and returning to puberty.
Finally realize what we often say accept yourself and love yourself.
It is impossible for parents to be perfect, and the way of parenting education is also a product of the times. If we don’t reconcile with our environment, we will eventually hurt ourselves and the people who love us, and this kind of injury may affect and destroy our own state of life.
Marriage is the best opportunity to reorganize and grow oneself in the second half of one's life. Since knowing that it is impossible, the result will naturally not be too ideal. Solve and reconcile with the problems that you are growing up, meet and become a better version of yourself,Meet the person who is most suitable for you, and let " know that our results are happy and beautiful, so I am determined to go on. "
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