It is the parent’s education status that determines the future of the child.
The content of this book is too in-depth. The author Huangfu Junwei stands at the level of 's "Tao" talks about family education, and talks about the growth and development of children based on the existence of 's parents.
Reading such a book, you should not have the slightest anxiety and impetuosity in your heart. You must really sink your heart, read it slowly, think carefully, and realize it quietly.
Because what the book talks about is the root of family education, it is the root of education and the source of life that every parent must understand.
said in the book: "For a tree, the seed and climate are not enough to determine the height and length of its life, and more importantly, the land on which it depends! For a person, talent and family status are not the height of his life. The determinants of value and, more importantly, the educational status of the parents."
In other words, what determines a child's future is not the child's talent or family background, and is the parent's educational status.
What is the educational status of the parents?
I understand that is the state of existence of parents.
Being alive is essentially a state of being alive.
Are you positive and optimistic, or complaining, or unhappy, the way you face the world every day;
and what we often say to be the best self,This is actually a state of life, and is a real state of existence.
When the parent's state of existence is stable, the heart is strong, full of joy and abundance, the parents give their children a kind of peaceful and upward inner energy.
On the contrary, if the parents' mood fluctuates, whether they are anxious about their children's learning, or worry about their own family, it seems that there will always be troubles around them all day long. The state of existence of parents cannot show a good state of education.
In short, parents’ good educational state comes from their parents’ stable existence.
Where does the stable existence of parents come from?
The answer given in the book is culture, educational philosophy and meditation.
·Culture
There is a saying in "Nourishing the Heart with Heart": "Culture is a state, a feeling, a consciousness, and a dialogue and exchange between life and life. Culture It is the culmination of education, and the culmination of education is culture."
Culture is more like a kind of energy, which affects the growth and development of a person's life.
I think of a mother I met in the car going to the city two days ago. Her two children are 3 years apart. They were all admitted to Peking University , and her niece also went to . Tsinghua .
Some people say that everything is energy.
In this mother, from her words, voice and thinking, what I feel is a kind of quiet, beautiful and upward energy.It is her incomparable love for life.
I believe that this kind of energy transmission must have cultural heritage. Because only when a person has enough positive energy in her heart can she bring positive energy to others.
On the contrary, those with low energy will only give others negative feelings. Negative energy cannot nourish children.
Therefore, culture is an educational energy that is the foundation of family education.
·Educational philosophy
Educational philosophy is a reflection on life, an exploration of self-growth and self-development.
Why do children most avoid preaching and reasoning?
This is because preaching and doctrine are usually rational language, dry, it has no emotional input, and people talk about emotions.
The best language is half of rationality and sensibility. When we explain reason to our children, in addition to being rational, we can communicate with our children with an emotion and a state, and it will be much better.
In family education, mothers are like water, who nourish and moisturize children's hearts. The peaceful state of the mother and the demeanor of the father are the inner energy of the child's life development.
Water is flowing, which means that mother's emotions, life, and children's lives are also flowing and developing.
The release of mother's love needs to accumulate energy, just as water encounters obstacles and needs to accumulate slowly. When the accumulated energy reaches a certain level, the obstacle encountered will no longer be an obstacle.
Once the parents' educational energy is sufficient, the obstacles to educating children can be easily overcome.
· Meditation
The heart is the root of everything.
Mind is mental strength and energy. It is the source of a person's power to deal with the external world, and it is also a person's inner ultimate destination.
Regardless of whether it is Yangming Mind Method or Huangfu Junwei's family education method, it pays attention to the opening of the heart of parents and the cultivation of the heart .
Parents are often anxious and uneasy, and their children will definitely be unsteady and insecure. The peace of mind of parents is the solid guarantee for the growth of children.
"Nurturing the Heart with the Heart" said: "Internal education precipitation and educational accomplishment determine a person's external education status. The external performance of education status is a person's temperament. The temperament shown by parents determines The development of the child’s mentality".
all say that mutuality is born from the heart, and the appearance, behavior and state of a person are determined by the inside. The parent’s educational status is also determined by the parent’s internal status.
A parent who is able to calm down and has concentration, he himself has a firm belief , He understands himself, has his own concept of parenting, and knows what kind of education is a good education.
Meditation is what parents require of themselves, and it is also a practice that parents must do.
The quieter the parent's heart, the more powerful and the higher the educational energy.
Educational energy is high, so parents' education status will be better.
is written at the end:
The parent’s education status reflects the parent’s inner life status ,It is the true state of the existence of parents in the world.
If you want to raise a child full of vitality and creativity, the first thing parents need to do is to raise themselves well, make themselves full of energy, and live out the best state of their lives.
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