This monk saved nearly 500 pregnant women in 10 years.
Among them, the youngest is 16 years old and the oldest is 46 years old. There are high school students, international students, married women, and white-collar workers in the workplace.
They got pregnant unexpectedly and were unable to give birth;
Only after divorce did they find out that they were pregnant, and their ex-husband reorganized their family and raised them unconditionally;
Both parents died, and they were pregnant for 7 months. After the boyfriend cheated on his property, he evaporated the world;
was taken to the surgery by his parents, escaped from the hospital, and insisted on giving birth to a child;
was studying abroad, and hurried back to China without hiding it after an unexpected pregnancy...
In the description, every word is absurd, but it actually happens around.
These women are accused of being "willful and irresponsible" and are scolded for "having problems with their lifestyle."
And this monk doesn't care about it or care about it. In his eyes, there are only those new lives that are hungry.
"They don't have the ability to save themselves. If you help him, he will live. If you treat him well, he will smile at you."
html In early August, we came to a small village in Zhejiang and met this controversial figure - Daolu.
"A businessman with small assets" "the 'flower monk' mentioned by netizens", and in front of him, he was wearing a monk's uniform, with steady steps, low voice and clear eyebrows, telling us the experience of these 10 years.
10, I rescued nearly 500 pregnant women
Before I became a monk, I opened my own factory and made foreign trade crafts, which was a small asset. The more money you make, the more bored you get with the scrambling and chatting in the business world.
Intrigue in business, appearance and separation in marriage...
I have almost all the experiences of men in the world.
In 2010, I settled my daughter and slapped her in Puguang Temple in Xiamen, changing the name "Wu Bing" to the Dharma name "Daolu".
When I was young, Daolu
became a monk for two years and lived a quiet life.
By chance, I met a very young female pilgrim who came to the temple to pray because she felt guilty about the child who died of abortion.
She said: "I am too young, my parents don't agree. I have no place to go, where can I go? Who can help me?"
From this, I noticed that many of the pilgrims who come to our temple to pray every year are for children who have not been born due to abortion.
Although I have entered Buddhism and the worldly entanglements have nothing to do with me, I have a vague idea in my mind:
sweep the floor and do not hurt the lives of ants, let alone a child about to be born?
012, I disclosed my contact information.
"We are willing to provide accommodation and help because we do not have the ability to raise our children."
From the moment we received the pregnant woman, we took care of all things from waiting for delivery to delivery.
registration payment, signing surgery, delivery outside the operating room, I came in person.
This is done to make the mother feel at ease.
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After more people asked for help, we started to conduct background review.
If the child’s parents are husband and wife, we will not help;
If you have certain financial capabilities, we will help as appropriate;
After the pregnant woman comes, she will accompany her to the hospital for a comprehensive examination, confirm the expected delivery date, and then make a nutritional supplement plan based on her physical condition.
This will give the mother a healthy body and welcome the arrival of the children.
Mothers waiting to be born are placed in the rented house, and the house is named "Husheng Xiaoju".
We ask volunteers to help and give a subsidy of 2,000 yuan a month.
Pregnant women are waiting for delivery in the nursing care of Curie, and volunteers can help with food and accommodation.
Pregnant women with good physical strength will also help take care of babies without parents and adapt to the role of mother in advance.
If the mother is not able to raise her child after the child is born, she can sign a "Power of Attorney".
I will raise the child on her behalf until she is 18 years old, and there is no charge.
During this period, the mother can visit the child at any time or take the child away at any time.
In the past 10 years, most mothers will take their children home, and I will raise them personally.
Many people may be curious about the experiences behind these women, but to me, it doesn't matter.
Before, there was a 46-year-old married woman who was pregnant with her lover's child, so she had to come to us secretly for giving birth without telling her husband.
Many people don’t understand. She cheated on her, why would you help her?
I still said the same thing, "She fell into the river and stretched out her hand, so I'll go and pull it."
As for their difficulties and privacy, they will not ask them on their own initiative, and I will not ask them specifically.
"Some people say that I am indulging them to have children without marriage"
It is inevitable that something like this is being discussed.
Someone gave me a name on the Internet, called "Flower Monk", some people said that I made these women pregnant, and some people said that I was fake compassion.
Leaving the temple where he lived for three years was also said to be "exiled from Buddhism."
This is not the case.
You can apply for special qualification certification, just like a teacher, you can hold a certificate to work.
I lived in Nantong Puxian Temple for a full 3 years. Logically speaking, it meets the basic application requirements.
However, I don’t think it’s important. Being a monk is to be purified. As for whether it is verified or not, it doesn’t matter.
After I started to rescue pregnant women, I was afraid of causing unnecessary trouble, so I left Samantabhadra Temple and went to a deserted small temple.
It is a private place. If you want to include formal management and support, you need to have that qualification certification.
But it is too late to do it then.
The biggest blow to me over the years is that many people told me:
"You are indulging them and having children without marriage!"
These children are not orphans and welfare institutions cannot adopt them;
From a realistic perspective, the mother of the child is a single mother and is at a disadvantage in society.
If no one goes to do this kind of rescue, should we let these women and children be in a dangerous situation? They don’t know how to do
either.
In some enlightened areas, people will feel that I am taking on social responsibilities.
But many people think that I am doing things.
In October last year, we moved to this small village and said it was relocation, but in fact we were fleeing.
escapes external pressure and avoids some people's fingers.
The environment here is good, the government supports us very much, and the villagers are very kind, and I finally breathed a sigh of relief.
There is a lot of controversy on the Internet, mainly focusing on these aspects:
Children lack maternal and fatherly love as soon as they are born;
Children cannot receive sound family education ;
Is it fair to them to bring children into the world wishfully?
Everyone has their own ideas. Netizens are right, and I have my considerations.
Does single-parent family mean unsound personality and failure in life? Before
, we had a child here, Nan Nan (pseudonym), from Shanxi.
The biological father died in a car accident, and his stepfather also died unexpectedly. He was only 9 years old when the stepmother sent him over.
I arranged for him to go to Nantong to go to school. After several years, the school was not allowed to go to school for some reasons.
Later, Nan Nan was adopted by an old couple in Xiamen . Both of them were neither 70 years old and lost their son in their old age.
In the first half of this year, the court officially handed over the custody rights.
Nan is very happy over there now, and he always has the top few in the class in the exam.
Originally, he lived in a valley and had to walk for several hours to go to school, and there were only a few people in the whole class.
Another look at the dozen children living here. Are they unhappy? Not adorable?
In their eyes, the master is the father, the volunteer is the mother, they are all family members and relatives.
We will try our best to use love and warmth to dilute the shadows brought by their emotional deficiencies in a certain aspect.
I will ask them to call me dad because I hope they can know:
"School after school, I have a dad to pick it up."
So many children are together, like a big family.
There are very sensible children, diligent children, and lazy and slutty.
But I will not favor one over the other just because I prefer obedient people, and I will be better with one.
Children eat the same meal and accept the same material conditions. We will take care of each other as we suffer from grievances.
The more you prefer and the more cautious you are, the more sensitive your child will be. The great love that treats everyone equally is the best care we can give to our children.
What does it feel like to be with your child?
is worry-free.
On November 11 last year, I rescued a child in Shanxi.
html At 8 am on the 113th, the child was still alive and was discovered by an old man who picked up medical garbage.
Someone called me. The child was sent to the hospital and was rescued for 21 days and survived.
Today's "two days"
Later, we named it "two days".
When he was brought back all the way from the plane, he was as thin as a little monkey. Now he is white and fat, and he loves to laugh whenever he sees people.
When you look at him, you will feel that no matter who gave birth to it or what background he comes from, he is a child.
Rescue a new life at a time like this, for me, it is very satisfying.
Live is more important than anything
When faced with any doubts, I said the same thing:
"Living, living is more important than anything."
. A simple understanding of this sentence is:
. Only by living is the first to talk about household registration, going to school, making a name for yourself, and whether you can become a talent.
The problem of children going to school is not too difficult.
Before in Henan, there was a sunshine school, and the principal and teachers of the school welcomed us very much.
The child is sent there, free full care, and then go back to me after the holiday.
Now we are in Zhejiang and are applying with relevant departments. The young children are closer to me, so don’t worry about going to and from school. Many household registration problems have been solved.
If you do not have a household registration, there is no problem of not being able to receive normal education.
When the children grow up, some areas of temples can help with collective household registration. The existence of policies such as
will not allow children to be unable to go to school because they do not have a household registration.
The current source of funds is mainly in three aspects.
part is donated by believers, part is income from the Dharma Assembly we hosted and the salvation, and part is income from the shops we open, selling vegetarian food, tea, etc.
A month ago, a charity association was just established. All the relief funds of
are stored in the association for easy management and settlement.
Since 2016, our rescue bills have always been open and transparent.
Now that the association has been established, there will be professional audits to help with settlement, and the government will also conduct regular assessments.
For example, how many donations are there every month and how much expenditures are there.
When we were still in Nantong, the local police and even the task force came to check our bills without any problems.
I often say that it takes 1,200 yuan to have a baby 10 years ago, and at least 10,000 yuan to have a baby 10 years later.
Sometimes when a child needs rescue or staying in the hospital for observation, it costs tens of thousands of yuan.
As children grow up, their expenses have increased, and our capital expenditures have become larger and larger in recent years.
But as long as the child can be saved, it will be worth no matter how much it costs.
There are many difficult things. But it is difficult to pass, and pass.
So far, most of the rescues have been successful, but some of them have failed.
For example, if you suddenly lose contact after contacting me, and if your child dies due to congenital disease.
I feel very uncomfortable at the beginning, but over time, my mentality will be flattered.
Because some things cannot be solved within my ability, I can only do my best and leave my will.
What makes me most sad is the private hospital abortion in the late stage of pregnancy.
If you are pregnant normally for more than 27 weeks, public hospitals do not allow abortion surgery, but some private hospitals will do it by inducing labor.
So now we are also trying to take measures to save these children.
I am a monk, and it is our duty to save these children.
Just like parents raising children, we do our best to help these new lives and give 100% of our efforts.
This cannot be said to be successful or not, and it does not need to be compared with success in the secular sense.
If I can contact me, I will try my best to help.
Despite this, the ability of one person and several people is limited after all, and what we can do is still insignificant.
The most important thing is the change of people's ideas.
I always think that the earlier the matter of Sex education , the better it is to popularize it to children, and we cannot avoid !
Among the women who came to contact me, some of them were still very young, and were deceived and pregnant.
dare not go home and cannot give birth. When a person faces these situations, the pressure is unimaginable.
Only by popularizing sex education knowledge for children as soon as possible can they not suffer too early in this matter.
There is also the current "painless abortion" advertisement, which is quite negative.
It is time to go to a regular hospital.
And the damage to the body by surgery is also inevitable. Advertisements like
opportunistically downplay the harm of abortion to women .
makes many people mistakenly believe that even if an accident occurs, there is a way out.
In addition, many people still have prejudice against single-parent families.
In some places, if the child is missing a mother or father, he will be discussed by the villagers.
Therefore, many people dare not and are unwilling to risk being criticized to have children alone, and in the end they can only choose to give up their children and protect their face.
What we are doing now is to save these abandoned children, and on the other hand, to fight against these traditional concepts.
written at the end
Compared with other types of folk rescue, the areas that Master Daolu is committed to are more likely to be stigmatized.
The understanding of childbirth under the traditional concept of some people has also made the road to rescue difficult. At the end of the article, I was still struggling whether I should call for something.
In the end, I still hope to leave more thoughts to readers.
is not difficult to incubate a new life;
is very hard to nurture a new life;
gives up a new life, just one thought;
raises him to grow up, and first of all, you must understand what responsibility is.
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