In the past, the older generation said that "burn incense when encountering temples, and worshiping Buddha when they see temples." When ordinary people met a temple on the road, they quickly put a few incense sticks to ask for blessings from gods. When they saw a temple, they imm

In the past, the older generation said that "burn incense when encountering a temple, and worship Buddha when seeing a temple." When ordinary people met a temple on the road, they quickly put a few incense sticks to ask for blessing from the gods. When they saw a temple, they immediately went in and recited Amitabha Buddha and respectfully knelt down to worship Buddha.

It is difficult for foreigners to understand such things, because according to tradition, temples belong to Taoist , temples belong to Buddhism, Chinese people "burn incense when they meet temples, and worship Buddha when they see temples", which confuses foreigners: What kind of belief do they have?

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This problem has troubled foreigners! Because foreigners have a strong exclusivity in terms of belief issues, that is, they believe that people can only believe in one religion, and cannot worship both the gods and the Bodhisattvas of Buddhism like Chinese people.

In fact, to be honest, Chinese people worship Buddha and Taoism do not belong to the strict religious beliefs. What Chinese people have are often just a sense of awe of heaven, earth, nature and all unknown things. This is also the embodiment of some differences in thinking and concepts between Eastern and Western people.

Take the social mode of Chinese people and the social mode of Western people as an example. In fact, it is completely different. For example, in the lives of Chinese people, we must not only have friends, but also noble people. Friends can share happiness and worry, while noble people can help others reach the top. Therefore, many people are keen on the purpose of socializing, but actually to find "noble people".

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Whether it is burning incense or looking for noble people in life, one must follow certain rules to obtain the desired results. The ancients said, "Current incense in the cold temple, and noble people will accompany each other", which means connecting the two things of burning incense and looking for noble people. How to say

? That is to say, if you want to find noble people, you must go to a temple like burning incense. Don’t go to a temple with too much incense, but go to a temple with deserted and low incense. What you are talking about here is actually a very wise social philosophy.

There is a story that everyone may have heard of. It is said that there was a young man named Hu Xueyan in the Qing Dynasty. At that time, he was a errand in a money shop. By chance, he met Wang Youling , who was still relatively down and out at the time.

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Wang Youling's family was in a difficult situation and he had no money to manage in the officialdom, so he was just an unpopular low-level official at that time. However, after Hu Xueyan met Wang Youling, he did not neglect because he was down and out. Moreover, when he learned that Wang Youling had a chance to be promoted, Hu Xueyan took a great risk and privately took a sum of silver from the money house to give to Wang Youling.

In this way, Wang Youling quickly rose to prominence. Later, he served as the prefect of Hangzhou and the governor of Zhejiang successively, becoming the chief official in charge of the country. Hu Xueyan's business was also taken care of by Wang Youling, and he quickly became the richest man in the Qing Dynasty. The helping hand that Hu Xueyan extended when Wang Youling was in a downturn was a typical "cold temple burning incense", so Wang Youling later became Hu Xueyan's "noble man".

"Burn incense in the cold temple, and be with noble people." This is a social advice left by the ancients. In other words, when we interact with people, we should not be focused on making friends with those hot people, and we should not think about hugging Buddha's legs temporarily.

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Because when a person is popular, there are so many people who want to know him. At this time, you go to join in the fun. There are not more you, and there are not less you. Even if you are humble and polite to please others, others may not remember you.

If you happen to have something to ask for, then it is just the old saying: It’s too late to hug the Buddha’s legs in a while! This is just like going to a temple where incense is very popular. Everyone is crowded with people making a wish to the Bodhisattva. Do you think that the Bodhisattva can hear it? On the contrary, when you go to a quieter temple, the Bodhisattva will only listen to you and see your sincerity.

China has been a society of personal affection since ancient times. Why do many people say that "the world is in a cold state"? Because most people like to add icing on the cake and don’t like timely help, this has caused down-and-out people to be looked down upon and thousands of people to be powerful.

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However, "burning incense in the cold temple" also requires a high level of vision. Why didn't Hu Xueyan help Zhang Youling and Zhao Youling but only help Wang Youling? It is because he has a crush on Wang Youling's potential. This kind of help when others are in a downturn can actually be said to be a kind of social investment.

In short, in the process of dealing with people, it is always difficult for people who are willing to follow the trend and blindly follow the trend. People with far-sightedness will not cram the Buddha at the moment. Only by knowing how to burn incense in the cold temple can they make good relationships and meet noble people everywhere!