Words of the soul: The story of the great monk Xuanzang of the Tang Dynasty tells us: When we take life and work seriously, we will make a difference sooner or later. Text 01 Conflicts between people When I am still struggling, time is money. However, my mother asked me to watch

Words of the soul: Tang The story of the eminent monk Master Xuanzang tells us: When we take life and work seriously, sooner or later we will make a difference.

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01 Conflict between people

When I am still struggling, time is money. However, my mother asked me to watch TV again and again, so I got angry. Don’t she know that wasting time is wasting life? My youth is not for wasting, I have my own things to do. You like watching TV, but I like studying. After many naggings, I became very impatient.

When I was thinking about deciding to change jobs, my husband/wife had a big fight with me. I treated each other coldly, have I ever felt my unhappiness and my determination to pursue my dreams? How passionate I decided to do something big, but I was treated with harsh words, which made me disappointed and all my hopes were extinguished. When someone who has the same dream as me succeeded, I found that if I had insisted on moving towards my dream, I had succeeded now, so I hated my husband/wife. We often quarrel and complain about this, and finally have a divorce.

When I was participating in my hobbies, my parents advised me to spend my time on my studies. Have they ever known my dreams? I will study hard while developing my hobbies, so why can’t they understand? So we made a noise, they confiscated my hobbies, so I lost my ideals and the ray of my psychology, and I became tired of studying.

This is the life of many people, commonly known as the generation gap. Facing the generation gap with parents, between husband and wife, between children, and between people around you.

people are different, and everyone has their own outlook on life and values. Even in the same family, the outlook on life and values ​​of three generations may be different. For example, grandparents like to exercise, parents like to watch TV and play cards from 9 to 5 at night, while I like to study, and it is a shame to live by myself. Faced with different views, contradictions may arise. Especially when we are full of energy and are ready to do a big fight, our relatives pour cold water on us with their mediocre attitude. Especially after our failure, we are treated coldly by our parents who are passive in their lives. Also, when we persist but cannot see the future, they want to intervene in our lives and work, let us change our direction and give up halfway.

There are too many contradictions in life. This is just one of them, but it is also one of the important contradictions. Unless we are shaking our heads and then understanding life, all interventions will only make us complain.

02 Respect everyone's choice

Zou Tao recorded in Volume 11 of "Sanjielu Bi Tan": "In the spring of Jimao, I and Xu Boqian discussed this book, but there was a disagreement, so they fought each other and tried their old fists several times, and Yuxian resolved it. So, the two swear to talk about the Red Chamber together." The general idea is that two people are talking about the Red Chamber. One likes Daiyu and the other likes Baochai . They argue and scold each other and even beat each other. After being persuaded by friends, the two realized that they would never talk about the Red Mansion when they chatted together.

This is also a problem that we should avoid in our lives. When we are doing different things, don’t talk about things that cannot be agreed upon. For example, if your wife or husband says that you want to quit and don’t do it and find another job. Since she/his idea is decided, there is no need to argue, so let him develop. When facing a new job or a wallet in his business, he will naturally remember that this is the path he chose. No matter how wronged or hard he is, he must persevere. And what about us? Just comfort and encouragement beside you. Encouragement will make him full of gratitude for being understood, inspire him to find a suitable path, and make him work hard to improve himself. Even if he cannot succeed in the end, he can no longer speak the same way because his experience and learning are enough to support a better job.

Also, for example, a child has a hobby, so he wants to develop hobbies, but he is required to study hard. Let him trade his studies for the power to develop his hobbies.We only need to guide and encourage, and he will find ways to balance his studies and hobbies. If a child with hobbies can take into account both hobbies and learning, his knowledge and ability will be broad and excellent.

Want to cross Yellow River Ice blocking the river, and will climb Taihang snow all over the mountain.
I was free to fish on the green stream, and suddenly I was riding a boat and dreaming of the sun.
is difficult to walk! It’s difficult to walk! There are many different ways, where are you here now?
There will be times when the wind and waves are long, and the clouds sails cross the sea.

Li Bai 's song "Difficult to walk" only describes the possible way to ride the wind and waves after the difficulties in life, and is also a beautiful sustenance for one's own efforts. However, it does not mention that even if our growth cannot reach the end, our growth will give us unexpected gains. So there are a few sentences after this verse , " Even if you don't reach the top, you will be happy in life. You also have real skills at this time, and you can be a think tank among millions of people. Who says that hardship is hardship, and there must be a road before the car reaches the mountain. "

We often measure other people's paths by our own paths, but we don't know that everyone is a dream individual. They need to cultivate their own life through their own experience. As long as it is the right path, no matter how difficult it is, it is a treasure of life, because every path will not be in vain. It seems like a very humble job, which may be the wealth of our experience in the future, paving the way for us to come in the future. We only need to teach children the most basic virtues and the ability to independently think and judge right or wrong, and persist when they grow up. As for their own path in their minds, it is better for them to realize their dreams. When they are bleeding from the head, they grow up.

3 Admonitions and stories of the ancients

01 The story of the ancients' success in their efforts and success

The advice of people is to encourage integrity, diligence, frugality, kindness, love, thinking, and learning. If you refuse to do it, you also need to set an example. When you are in your thirty years, you can only respect the right path, sharpen and polish it by yourself, and then realize it and wake it up. However, if you don’t follow the right path for the elders, you will not understand the learning and the virtues of your parents.

Here we say that when you are a child, you should give your children good morals. When they grow up, they will temper themselves. If we take an incorrect path, we are parents, and we do not teach correctly when our children are young, and we do not guide correctly when we grow up.

The same is true between husband and wife. Experience and hardship are the best growth and the best learning. If you go through and work hard, you will find out where the right path in life is.

Here are several stories of the ups and downs of celebrities before they become famous.

Pu Songling , a Shandong native in the early Qing Dynasty. Because bribery was prevalent in the imperial examinations and fraud became popular, he failed the exam for all four times. But he was not pessimistic and disappointed because of this. He was determined to write a "book of loneliness and anger". He engraved a couplet on the copper ruler pressed by paper:

Those who have ambition will succeed, and they will burn their boats. The hundred and two Qin Passes will eventually belong to Chu. The hard work will be done, and the heavens will not disappoint you. You can sleep on firewood and taste gall, and three thousand Yue Jia can swallow Wu. Pu Songling used this to warn and encourage himself, and finally wrote a literary masterpiece: "Strange Stories from a Chinese Studio".

Also, Warring States Su Qin--Warring States Vertical and Transcendental , traveling around the countries, finally holding the "Six Kingdoms Ministers" and uniting the six countries to resist Qin; Han Dynasty Zhang Liang--a founding hero of the Han Dynasty, who was once "humiliated under the crotch", and finally assisted Liu Bang to gain the world; Tang Dynasty Xuanzang--after more than ten years of hard work to seek the Dharma, he became a Buddhist master.

The story above tells us that in life, as long as we persevere, as long as there is light in our hearts, progress, and persistence, we will succeed sooner or later and become a useful talent. The reason why many people fail is that they have not gotten out of pessimism and have fallen into it and failed. And if everyone can survive the difficulties and change, it will eventually make us a different life.

02 How did the ancients succeed?

The following story tells us how to sharpen ourselves. In fact, why does it require great disasters? Regular and rigorous practice is the correct way for our life practice.

During the Tang Dynasty period, there was a famous monk who became a monk in a temple before he became famous. The little monk has to carry water and chop firewood every morning to clean the temple. Then after morning class, you have to go to the town behind the temple to buy the items needed in the temple. He works diligently every day.

Ten years have passed in a flash. One day, the little monk had some leisure time to chat with other monks. He found that the other monks were very leisurely, and he was the only one who was busy. The other little monks were arranged to go to the town in front of the temple to buy lightweight things, and the road was also very flat. He only needs to climb two mountains and buy heavy things on the rugged roads.

So the young monk was puzzled and asked the abbot, "Why are others more comfortable than me? No one forces them to work and read the scriptures, but I have to do it all the time?" The abbot just whispered the Buddha's name and stopped talking.

At noon the next day, the little monk came from the back mountain carrying a bag of rice and saw the abbot standing at the gate of the temple waiting for him. The abbot took the little monk to the temple and sat there closing his eyes without saying a word. Although the little monk was unclear, he still stood there quietly. The sun is west, and the other little monks are back. The abbot opened his eyes and asked, "I asked you to buy salt early in the morning. The road is so flat and so close, how could it be so late?"

The other young monks looked at each other and said, "Master, let's talk and laugh, look at the scenery, it's this time. It's been like this for ten years."

The abbot asked the young monk again. The little monk said, "I think about going early every day on the road, and because I carry heavy things on my shoulders, why don't I come back early?" The abbot laughed when he heard this, "The road is flat, but there is no goal. Only by walking on the bumpy road can a person's will be tempered."

A few months later, the temple suddenly had strict lifelong assessments, from physical strength to perseverance, from scriptures to understanding, etc. The little monk stood out and was selected to complete a special mission. This little monk is our famous Master Xuanzang.

Master Xuanzang is the prototype of the Tang monk in "Journey to the West" by Mr. Wu Chengen.

Look at Master Xuanzang was not suffering from major disasters when he was a young monk. He just did things to exercise his will and ability in the temple. He worked harder and harder than others year after year. After a long time, his will and ability were trained. When it is really useful, it is his.

is also like ours today. If we can work 90% at work, and then study technology seriously after work to improve our abilities, ten years later, when the opportunity comes and is tempered by the opportunity, we will be much more successful than ordinary people. Why should we wait for the hardships of great suffering to achieve us in life? Every job is hard and serious, and we will achieve something in the future.