Many parents have been in the society for many years and feel that struggle is the ultimate meaning of life. Therefore, in terms of precepts and deeds, I also hope that my baby can be more competitive and start to struggle early. But more often, things are counterproductive. It seems that my baby always fails to meet the parents' expectations.
[Case] A 9-year-old boy in the second grade, lacking a sense of competition in his life. Dad asked him to take the initiative to participate in basketball, football and other ball sports, but when he was going to grab the ball in the game, the child was frustrated because he couldn't grab the ball, and he shrank from these sports. I wonder if the child should continue to exercise to improve his sense of competition? Fear that lack of competitive consciousness will make children fall behind in learning.
Many parents may have similar confusions, but is the sense of competition that we value so much really necessary for the growth of children? After reading the explanations below, you will suddenly be enlightened.
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The competition consciousness is inherently different from the competition consciousness of children. We all know that personality has a lot of innate factors, so a child's sense of competition can also be seen as a random arrangement by God.
Some children have a strong sense of competition, and they can think about competing for the first place without being inspired by others. Because of these children’s personality, they pay special attention to their image as a strong person in the eyes of others.So they will participate in the competition spontaneously.
However, some children's awareness of competition is relatively difficult to develop. They have more personalities and focus on harmonious interaction. They don't care so much about where they are in the group, so they don't need to find their own position through competition. .
Parents may have a stereotype. They think that the sense of competition is a good thing. It can stimulate children's initiative and initiative. It seems that this kind of positive energy is needed in both life and study.
But in fact, the competition itself has to be divided into areas and occasions. If it is a field that is not good at, the children's ability is not superior to others. At this time, the parents must let the children compete first, and the children, it happens Having a strong sense of competition, you must win, and you will not be able to win the rankings. It will undoubtedly be a huge blow to the child, and even lose confidence and deny yourself.
Therefore, the sense of competition is complementary to the personality, and it must be cultivated according to the specific situation of the child. It cannot be forced.
Then some parents will be worried. Is it because my child has a calm personality, so in the future will be destined to be mediocre and unable to be excellent? No, has one thing more important than the sense of competition, which all children must possess and cultivate, and that is the ability of self-awareness!
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Instead of emphasizing competition, it’s better to improve children’s self-awareness _span7 _span0 pstrong. Most of them have not got rid of the state of relying on self-esteem,It is very necessary to judge one's own situation through the evaluation of others, as if living in a world full of mirrors every day. If there is a mirror of himself that is not good, he may feel annoyed or sad. The more so
, the more parents must realize that it is a more important thing for to establish a child's self-awareness.
Only when children have self-awareness, can they understand their strengths and weaknesses, and then discover what goals they can achieve by working hard.
The best interval for everyone to work hard is the place that can be reached on tiptoe, not the place that can't be touched by jumping.
Only when children have a clear self-awareness and accurate positioning goals, they can really stimulate a kind of self-motivatedness. This kind of self-motivatedness of also reflects the child's sense of ability and independence.
Then, in order to help their babies establish this self-recognition system, parents can consciously carry out some auxiliary training at home.
For example, I often mention the shining points on the children, use the experience of adults to detect the outstanding characteristics of the children, and help them develop a few outstanding points for a long time. Make more efforts in the field, and use good steel on the blade.
Parents should also be good at helping their children summarize and compare their progress or changes in various periods.
is just like what 曾子 said, "My life is three reflections", today and yesterday, this week and last week, this month and last month, of course, the time span can also be a semester or even a year .
The significance of this comparison is to allow parents and children to see more clearly whether the small goals have been achieved during this period of time, and how the direction of the next stage of specific efforts can be determined.
Forever,Children can know more clearly that their own life needs to draw a blueprint based on their own knowledge and ability. Only with this kind of self-awareness can they truly control their lives.
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life needs exercise, and physical exercise must adhere to the education requirements of each country. Physical exercise for children.
Then, on the premise of cultivating self-awareness, children can also make some adjustments to some of the goals of physical exercise, just like every player in a football team is an important part of the team, and each position has a division of labor. They are different, and the training methods are also different. They are not all trained on the premise of not grabbing the ball.
Therefore, even if we want to encourage children, we hope that they can practice some skills and make good friends with the same team, instead of letting them fight for the ball and gamble. As long as the football skills are well practiced, the team cooperates well, and wins the game together, it will naturally win applause and attention.
Of course, in addition to the big ball, the style of small balls like table tennis will be different. As a national game, table tennis focuses on quick response and requires a lot of concentration by one person.
So if parents find that their children's concentration is relatively weak, they might as well start practicing ping-pong when it comes to exercise choices.
There are also sports like swimming, which mainly use the comprehensive abilities of various parts of the body. Physical coordination is actually the problem of the brain’s ineffectiveness in commanding work. Through exercise swimming, it may be able to better help every child to improve physical coordination.Then the head will be much more flexible.
Finally, I still hope that parents who hope their sons and daughters will become phoenixes will not be too anxious sometimes.
Every child has their unique characteristics, and the most important thing for parents is to take them to give play to their strengths as much as possible and have a relatively outstanding future.
So don't force your children to get into the horns of the competition anymore. It's better to act quickly and help your baby build a complete self-awareness system!
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