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Many parents tend to ignore their children's self-identification in the process of educating children Once the child has an inferiority complex in his heart, the child will appear unconfident, timid, shrinking and so on. In this situation, children's lives may be full of contradictions and it is difficult to make a difference. The cousin
was often denied and attacked by her parents during her growth. For example, when she was a child, she said she wanted to enter a prestigious university, and her parents would bluntly say that your grades can be admitted to a university, and you want to be so beautiful;
she Seeing that my friends would be envious of musical instruments, I told my parents that I wanted to learn how to play the electronic piano, but my parents said how you can play the piano well because of your short and thick fingers; she got acne on her face in puberty and was very distressed. She came to add fuel to the fire and said that she looks ugly...
The cousin who grew up in such a family environment has also become introverted and inferior. She feels that she can’t do anything well, and even after entering the workplace, she dare not try anything. , A look timid.
In life, some children of always bow their heads and feel unconfident and feel that they are useless. In fact, they lack a "sense of self-identity". Parents cannot shirk the blame. If the child has some similar tendencies now, parents must not ignore it.
Children’s unconfidence stems from the family
Children’s low "self-identity" is not inborn, but comes from the growth environment and education of the native family.
▲ Children live in a family that is not in harmony for a long time.
If the relationship between parents in the family life is long-term disagreement, frequent quarrels and even fights, the child may lack sufficient sense of security in his heart. is always trembling, observing and observing Dare to express your true inner thoughts.
▲ Children are often denied by their parents.
When a child happily wants to try something, if the parents pour down a basin of cold water at this time and ruthlessly deny the child, the child will feel a sense of frustration.
If children are often denied this way by their parents in life, their self-confidence will gradually wear out, and in the end they will even have self-doubt.
▲ Children are given too much pressure by their parents
Parents all over the world have a common long-cherished wish, that is, "hope for a child to become a dragon" and "hope for a daughter to become a phoenix". However, some parents are too eager to achieve success, are too strict with their children, and put too much pressure on their children. This will make the children feel that they will never reach their goals and thus give up on themselves.
The "self-identity" of children who are not self-confident due to the family will also be very low, which will bring adverse effects to the child.
What are the effects of "self-identity" on children?
The so-called "sense of self-identity" means that an individual can objectively and rationally view and accept himself and his surrounding environment, be able to face life confidently and actively, strive to pursue life goals, and be able to experience self-worth and social recognition in the process ability.
Children who lack "self-identity" generally have no self-confidence, and are afraid to try new things because of fear of failure. thinks that they are useless, and their hearts are long-term entangled and depressed, and they are at a disadvantage in life and study.
How can parents improve their children's "sense of self-identity"?
▼ Parents work together to create a warm and harmonious family environment
First of all, parents should try their best to create a warm and harmonious family environment for their children's growth so that children can get a full sense of security and love from the family.
When there are disagreements or conflicts between husband and wife, both parties can firstCalm down for a while and then sit down to talk and discuss. Even if you want to solve the problem immediately, it is best not to quarrel in front of your children.
You must know that only children who grow up in a loving environment at will be optimistic, confident, and fearless , because children know that home is the most powerful backing.
▼ Learn to appreciate children and help children rebuild confidence
Secondly, parents must learn to appreciate children and help children rebuild confidence. Everyone is not perfect, but they also have their own shining points. Parents should be good at discovering and appreciating the shining points in their children, and compliment them at the right time to help children rebuild their confidence in identification .
Of course, the affirmation of parents to their children is not to "kill", but to evaluate the children as objectively as possible, affirming the children's advantages, and pointing out the children's shortcomings and urging and encouraging the children to correct them in time.
▼ Help children understand themselves and establish appropriate goals
Finally, and the most important point, parents should help children to understand themselves correctly, so as to establish appropriate goals.
Parents should accompany their children to objectively analyze the actual situation of their children. When setting short-term goals, they only need to slightly exceed the current results. After the children reach it through hard work, they can improve a little and give the children a small reward.
In this way, children will have a clear goal and direction in the learning and growth process, and they will recognize themselves more and more after obtaining certain achievements.
Summary
Every child needs a sense of "self-identity" in their growth. For this, parents should use some correct methods to give their children their initial self-identification and guide their children to gradually build self-confidence . Because is the only way for a child to grow into a person with sound mind and unlimited possibilities in the future.
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