Daniel Gorman clearly pointed out that EQ plays an important role that cannot be ignored for personal success in life, success in the workplace and family happiness.
From Daniel's words, we can understand how important emotional intelligence is to a person . And I realized this through the lecture of Li Meijin . In a lecture, she said:
some people are short-tempered and easily agitated; some people are calm and generous; the former kind of people are in debt in their early years; the latter kind of people must be very well raised in their early years. ——Li Meijin
In fact, a person's emotional intelligence is of great help to this person's life and workplace . But you will find that there will always be people with low EQ, no matter how they change, low EQ is an irreversible fact , so we want to make children's EQ high, we must start from an early age.
So, when are we going to start?
If we want to cultivate children’s emotional intelligence, we must be in the critical period of cultivating children’s character at to cultivate . EQ begins at the age of 3~6 years old, and continues until the age of 12. It's a good time for us to cultivate children's emotional intelligence. How do we cultivate
?
Professor Li Meijin also said in the lecture that if you want to cultivate children's emotional intelligence, you must start from the four aspects of , .
1. Don’t be selfish.
. We often see this phenomenon in our lives: before the elders of
have a meal at the table, the children will kick and run to the table and start eating by themselves.
and this situation is actually a very selfish performance. Because he only has himself in his eyes, he said that in such a situation, we must work hard and resolutely cannot tolerate it. It is best to set rules for the children, and adults cannot move unless they move the chopsticks.
and tell the child that selfishness is the most undesirable behavior for a person.
2, can not be controlled by emotions
We can always see this situation in the mall: a child crying loudly, rolling all over the floor, let his parents buy him something.
At this time, the child is letting emotions occupy the mind, but in this case, parents must learn to say "no" , never compromise, let the child understand that mom and dad love him very much and spoil him , but there is a bottom line. We are guiding the children, and slowly children can learn to be the "master of emotions" .
3, you must not be afraid of hardships
hardships and stand hard work has always been a good moral character advocated by our country. Parents are afraid that their children will endure hardships and always help their children do everything well, but have you ever thought that a child who is afraid of hardships, will not be able to stand up again when encountering setbacks in the future, and may never recover.
And Professor Li Meijin believes that suffering is the best way to hone consciousness in . is now living well, not as hard as before, but we can still use exercise to help children hone their will, and exercise their bodies, which will kill two birds with one stone.
4. Don’t bother to communicate.
Professor Li Meijin emphasized that many children think that they are not good at communication, so they can get started when they encounter problems, and problems will occur in the future.
People are a group of animals, and communication between people is inevitable. If a child has poor communication skills , it will also make the child appear isolated , is not conducive to the child’s social development , and Social is often a very important part of emotional intelligence, so when teaching, you must tell your child what to say instead of crying.
