Children have no motivation to study and lack self-confidence. Most of the root causes are problems in education of self-worth identity. Children develop self-awareness at the age of 3-4 and begin to enter the self-worth identification period. Children in this period are particularly keen on role-playing games, which is the manifestation of finding self-worth identity.
1. High self-worth identification, children are more confident
Self-worth identification is the foundation of a person's mental health. People with high self-identity have strong internal motivation, are proactive in doing things, dare to take responsibility, dare to face setbacks, and show confidence and generosity in interactions.
People with low self-identity are prone to inferiority, often deny themselves, feel that they are not loved, and can only find themselves in other people's evaluations.
Psychology defines 3-4 years old as the self-worth identification period. The baby began to know himself and began to think about who I am.
They will find that they are different from others. Why don’t I wear glasses? Why don’t I have any kidnappers when my grandfather walks? Can I be a police uncle? Could it be a doctor? ...
The baby in this period has a very strong imitation ability and is willing to imitate any character he meets. He especially likes to play house and imitate any character he likes.
The process of playing house is actually the process of baby’s self-identity. They build their initial self-worth identity and initial self-confidence through role-playing. Self-confidence in this period is the basis for building self-confidence in the future.
2. Proper guidance to help children gain self-worth identification
During this period, babies often have self-negation due to frustration. When they see that they are not as good as others' writing or drawing well, they feel that they are stupid and poor. This is a manifestation of self-negation and lack of confidence.
Parents must attach great importance to it. Self-confidence is the most critical content of their children’s self-worth identification period. We must provide correct guidance to let children see their strengths in a timely manner and help them build their initial self-confidence.
tell him, you see that you calculate numbers very quickly, your story is told very well, and your dancing is great, which means you are very smart, and your writing and drawing are not good because we have not learned it before. Don’t be afraid, my mother will teach you tomorrow, and you will definitely be able to learn it once.
3. Parents should take more care of their children and their children are more confident during this period, parents should actively cooperate with their babies to play role-playing games and play the corresponding roles seriously and devotedly.
If a child wants to be a nurse, you should act as a patient to cooperate with measuring body temperature and taking injections and taking medicine. If a child wants to be an Ultraman, you will play a monster and be beaten to death by Ultraman for several rounds.
Babies will gain self-worth identity through role-playing, and feel that they are brave, powerful and confident.
No matter how naive the child’s game is, parents should not laugh at it or be perfunctory. They should give their children full encouragement and affirmation, and turn themselves into their children’s friends and children’s imagination.
Children should be firefighters, parents cannot say, "You are so brave and don't eat well and grow so thin, how can you be a firefighter? I think you'd better forget it!" Parents should encourage and recognize the baby and say, "You are so brave. You saved so many people from the fire and rescued a Bikachu. You are such a big hero!"
Family is the background of a person's personality. When you are 3-4 years old, parents should accompany your baby to play role-playing games, let them find their initial self-worth identification in the game role, laying the foundation for building self-confidence in the future.
carefully observe the baby's psychological changes, and when self-negation occurs, give timely shadows of inferiority.
I hope every pair of parents is a learning parent. The harder the parents can be, the better the children can be. I am family education instructor Weilan, accompanying you to grow up on the road of education.
