The ratio of male to female data in China is more male than female. After the opening of the second-child policy, this phenomenon is alleviated. Before the opening of the second-child policy, due to the combined effects of many factors, many families preferred to give birth to one-child boys. After the opening of the second-child policy, coupled with the influence of various factors, this bias towards fetal gender has been alleviated.
Of course, there will still be differences in the gender of the first child. For example, some families believe that the first child is a boy and the psychological pressure of having a second child will be less, while some families hold the opposite view. They believe that the first child is a girl and will be under financial pressure in the future. Will be smaller.
So, whether the gender of the first child is a boy or a girl, what are the obvious effects on the family?
Bao’s mother gave birth to a girl. The husband was happy, and the mother-in-law disliked
. When Jiajia’s mother was pregnant, the mother-in-law was very happy to see that her pregnant belly was round and big, and said to her that she must be a boy and told her to be good She raised her baby and assumed the main responsibility of taking care of her.
After hearing this statement, although the husband doubts the accuracy of the statement, he still feels a little lost and said: "Really? Why not a girl? I will be a little padded jacket for my father in the future..."
Jiajia's mother's pregnancy was spent in the joy of her mother-in-law and the loss of her husband. It finally came to the day of childbirth, but the result was an astonishing reversal. The birth of
turned out to be a girl. The husband hurriedly held his "little padded jacket" in his arms after seeing it, but the mother-in-law fell into a moment of depression when she saw it, and she gave a look of disgust. After
confinement, she no longer tried her best. Jiajia's mother called her mother to take care of herself.
does not use the gender of the first child, and Bao’s mother has a different mentality.
still has serious patriarchal thoughts in many older generations, especially in matters of grandchildren.
Although the second-child policy is now open, if the first child is a girl, in the eyes of the older generation, it is a symbol of the family’s insecurity, and the fact that the second child is not necessarily born a boy will aggravate their situation. Kind of panic.
Therefore, compared with the first child being a girl, the older generation would prefer the first child to be a boy, and some contemporary young people will also have this idea.
Therefore, once the first child is a girl, the older generation’s ideas and worldly pressures will be overwhelmed by Bao’s mother, which will cause a greater psychological pressure, especially when it comes to giving birth to a second child. The second birth boy.
If the first child gave birth to a boy, Bao's mother would have a more relaxed mentality about having a second child, and some would even choose not to have a second child.
From the domestic reality, this is a very common phenomenon. Of course, some families that do not pay attention to the gender of their children are not excluded.
In addition to Bao Ma's mentality, there are many differences between the first child and the child.
gives birth to boys and girls, there are really many differences.
1) Babies are treated differently.
’s first child is a boy’s mother, and her husband’s family tends to pay more attention to them and give them a "high-quality" treatment, such as psychologically more respectful and right to speak. Bigger etc.
On the contrary, if the first child is a girl, the mother-in-law will be psychologically underestimated by the mother-in-law, who may be ignored or rejected by the mother-in-law when speaking and doing things, and will be forced to give birth to the second child.
2) Different pressures between husband and wife
If the first child is a boy, on the one hand, the husband and wife may be more relaxed about whether or not to have a second child, and the psychological pressure will be reduced. On the other hand, if the second child is a boy, the family will be home in the future. The economic pressure inside will increase.
After all, the current domestic situation determines that boys will need to bear a significant financial investment in marriage in the future, and this financial investment needs the support of parents.
If the first child is a girl, on the one hand, the husband and wife may have a second child due to the influence of elders, and the psychological pressure will be greater. On the other hand, the future economic pressure will be less.
3) Children grow up differently
Family relationships such as "brother and sister", "sibling", "brother", and "sister" have different effects on children's personality and conduct.
For example, in the family relationship of the "sibling" combination, the younger sister may be spoiled as a little princess; while the family combination of the "sibling" relationship, the sister sexThe grid tends to be stronger.
3~6 years old is the best period for children to develop their emotions and character.
Different family relationship combinations, if parents want to intervene in the growth of their children, it is best to grasp this stage. In essence, this is a more important thing to give children financial and material support.
4) The pressure of bringing a baby in the family is different.
The deputy director of the China Youth Research Center said: Boys have a slower physical and mental development than girls, are impulsive since childhood, and have poor self-control. If the first child of
is a boy, because the child is more naughty and energetic since childhood, parents need to invest too much energy and time, so they will be more tired.
On the contrary, if the first child is a girl, their physical and mental maturity time will be earlier, and the parents will be more relaxed, and the older sister can also help the parents to bring the younger brother, which can reduce the burden on the parents to bring the children. .
Today’s topic: Do you think the first child is better for boys or girls?
