adopts a variety of ways to encourage infants and young children to speak more
infant stage is a critical period for the formation of language ability. As they grow up day by day, infants and young children will learn languages from things they often come into contact with, especially through the words and deeds of their parents. Their language ability develops rapidly, which often exceeds our imagination. At this time, parents should actively encourage their children to speak, cultivate children's interest in speaking and enhance their confidence in speaking in a variety of ways and means, which will greatly help their children's future language skills.
Develop the speaking potential of infants and young children through speaking and greetings
(1) Speaking
Speaking helps to stimulate the infant’s talent potential and the inspiration of intelligence. Whether the infant’s talent and intelligence can be used depends on his 5 The inspiration given by my parents before the age of two years.
The mother can use the opportunity of contact with the child to talk to him, such as bathing, breastfeeding, or changing diapers, whatever she wants. Although children in this period will not understand the true meaning of their mother's words, they can also get stimulation and inspiration from the voice.
Because children’s vocal organs are not fully developed, they cannot fully control their mouths when speaking, so their pronunciation may be inaccurate. Parents do not have to deliberately imitate the child's tone of voice, or deliberately use some vague accent to speak to the child.
In fact, most infants and young children can understand the meaning of adults' daily speech when they are 2 years old. Therefore, mothers can use everyday language when talking to children, but do not speak too fast. Talking to babies and toddlers more can also train them to master more vocabulary.
(2) Say hello
When you are shopping for groceries in the market, and you meet a familiar person, you will ask: "Where to buy groceries?" When you borrow something from your neighbor, you will ask when you see that they are eating. : "Are you eating?" This is the habit of the Chinese to say hello.
In fact, these seemingly boring words are just one of the ways to communicate with people. If colleagues meet at work, sit down and work without saying hello or saying "good morning", you can imagine the company's How indifferent the atmosphere will be, and how can it give rise to a sense of belonging?
The same is true at home. Parents should not think that they are a family anyway, or think that they are supporters, and there is no need to say these unnecessary greetings to their children.
Every day when I get up and see the child, my mother smiles and says: "Good morning, baby!" These kind greetings will make the baby feel like he belongs. Knowing that the mother loves him will not only shorten the distance between parents and children, but also help children and others. Get along and set an example.
Use encouragement and praise to increase the confidence of infants and children
(1) Encourage
What is encouragement? To put it simply, it means that after someone has done a thing or behavior that is praised by others, they praise and praise it. This kind of "praise" can motivate them to do it again.
People of all ages like to be praised. If you want your children to do some good behaviors, encouragement is the best way.
When parents find that infants and young children have certain interests or skills, they should encourage them to work harder and do better, so as to increase their children's self-confidence.
When parents praise infants and young children, they often only use vague adjectives, such as "you are so good and obedient". These words with no clear meaning may not be able to achieve the expected results. You must clearly tell the child that he did it because Only a certain kind of good behavior is appreciated.
(2) Compliment
Compliment is applicable to any age and any person. I believe no one can resist the sincere praise of others. Parents should not underestimate or stingy praise, because it is the most effective all-inclusive formula among all kinds of early childhood education methods. As long as parents can use it properly, they will get twice the result with half the effort.
Ms. Wang’s youngest son often likes to read comic books, and sometimes draws various interesting actions on paper according to the characters in the painting. Ms. Wang doesn't appreciate children's hobby. One year’s Mother’s Day, when her son gave her a self-drawn Mother’s Day card, she realized that his son had the potential to draw comics, and she couldn’t help but sincerely praised:
"The drawing is really good, especially the shape of the hand. Be alive!" With this magical compliment alone,
enabled the son's painting potential to be fully utilized. Later, her son's cartoons were not only often posted by the teacher in class, but even the cover of the school magazine was his masterpiece. She also posted her son’s comics to the newspaper, every timeWhen it was published, she showed it to the people around her for the first time.
Give children care and sympathy, and enhance parent-child relationship
(1) Care
Care refers to paying attention to and understanding the needs and feelings of infants and young children in attitude, not intervention in action or nagging in speech, because of excessive Caring can become interference, which can easily arouse the child's disgust, and even hinder the child's opportunity to develop his personality freely.
Many parents think that caring for their children is one of the manifestations of love, so they point out their children all day long, teach them to do so, and not allow them to do that, hoping that their children will follow their parents' norms and instructions.
In fact, the care that a child wants is to get timely satisfaction when he needs it, just like when a child is growing up, he needs to get adequate nutrition, he needs to get a peaceful atmosphere while reading, and he can get support, encouragement and comfort when he is emotionally troubled. When you make a mistake, you will be forgiven and trusted. Let the children grow up happily, healthily and healthily, which is the greatest concern of parents for their children.
(2) Sympathy
Only when you identify with the other person's situation, understand the other person's situation, think about it from the other person's position, or have felt it yourself, will you feel compassion.
Many parents often confuse sympathy with compassion. This misconception can easily become an excuse for a child to evade responsibility. He may take advantage of the parents' compassion and love for the child's weakness to do many disturbing things.
When a person makes a serious mistake due to impulse or emotional instability, although the judge sympathizes with him, he will never be acquitted for pitying him. In the end, he still has to bear the consequences and responsibility of the mistake he made.
Similarly, if a child makes a mistake, the mother should sympathize with him, forgive him, and comfort him, but also let the child understand that he should be punished for making a mistake or bear the consequences of the mistake. The mother's punishment of him is for his mistake. Behavior, not for him personally, as long as the child knows his mistakes and corrects him, his mother will always love him.
Give comfort and forgiveness, and grasp the best time for parent-child communication
(1) Comfort
Comfort is not just nagging to point out the child’s fault, nor is it just teaching the child how to solve the problem, but to understand his feelings. Agree with his ideas, support his approach, and speak on his side.
One day, Xiao Ming accidentally broke his mother's most beloved vase. He worried that when his mother found out, she would scold him angrily. Xiao Ming became more afraid and couldn't help crying loudly.
After my mother came back, she saw Xiao Ming's fear and cringe, and guessed that something must have happened. Xiao Ming didn't dare to say it, but kept crying to himself: "I didn't mean it, I just accidentally knocked it down."
Mom knew what was going on when she looked at the kitchen, and she couldn’t help but feel angry. She wanted to scold Xiao Ming loudly, but when she saw his cringing look, she couldn’t help softening her heart. She stroked Xiao Ming’s hands and said softly, "Baby Have you cut your hands or feet? Mom knows that the baby didn't intentionally break the vase, so how could she blame the baby!"
Xiao Ming burst into laughter immediately after hearing his mother's comfort, and threw himself into his mother's arms.
It can be seen that some comforting words are very important to a child.
(2) To forgive
children for doing something wrong, the most commonly used method by parents is to blame and punish. This kind of hurtful discipline will cause fear in the child. But if you take a laissez-faire attitude, it will undoubtedly encourage your children to make mistakes again and again, without repentance.
Taking an attitude of forgiveness is a more effective way to deal with children's mistakes, and it is also the best way to communicate with parents and children.
The most common situation for children after being punished is to cry loudly. At this time, let the children cry enough and try to vent their emotions. The children after crying need love and comfort most.
After the child is calm, the mother can hold the child in her arms, comfort him, and tell him that the mother likes him so much and value him, and let him know why he was punished and how to avoid making mistakes in the future. More importantly, it is for the child to know that it is his behavior that is being punished, not his own. As long as he doesn't make mistakes, his mother will forgive him and love him forever.
uses affirmation and praise to meet children’s psychological needs.
(1) Affirmation
Adults attach great importance to the opinions and evaluations of their friends, and hope to learn from others’ evaluations and affirmations of themselves from getting along with and in contact with others. The satisfaction of this psychological need,For children, it is more important. If children are accepted and respected by their parents, they will be convinced of their parents' love for themselves. Therefore, verbal encouragement and praise from parents is the biggest motivation for children's behavior. Because encouragement and praise are exciting.
When some parents teach their children, they often like to use "don't" and "no" to indicate their children's behavior. In fact, parents should spend more time rewarding their children for good behaviors, and use "You are doing a great job!" "You are really a good helper for your mother!" to affirm the value and status of the child in the minds of the parents, and the effect received It will definitely be bigger.
(2) Praise
Many parents believe that pointing out the shortcomings of their children in front of others is a virtue of humility. Praising your child’s strengths in front of others is an act of boasting, giving people the feeling of spoiling the child. In fact, this idea is incorrect.
A child’s self-image is often formed by his parents’ evaluation of him. Parents keep telling others about the child’s shortcomings, and the child will think that he is a worthless person. On the contrary, if the parents often disclose his strengths and advantages, the children understand that their parents like his behavior, they will continue to maintain and develop their strengths, hoping to continue to be recognized and affirmed by their parents.
