is now a new age society, there are always people who follow the old traditional and old concepts in daily life, especially in the education of children. Many new parents in China believe that "boys must be poor and girls must be rich." . In fact,
is not as simple as most parents think. Some parents do not have a deep understanding of "poor raising". They just think that raising a boy should be economically restrained and economical. It doesn't matter if you have a hard time.
However, if the parents are too "poorly raised" in these aspects, it is easy to affect the child's personality development. Only when they are moderately "rich" will they have a chance to become talented. Parents with boys in the family should pay attention.
Don’t over-raise the boy’s crying. According to the survey, it is found that most parents treat their sons and their daughters cries very differently, thinking that their sons should be poorly raised.
If the daughter cries, parents will immediately comfort her, but if the son cries, the "cry immunity method" is adopted, and the son’s cry is immunized immediately, which can be simply understood as "the child cries or does not hold, and he will only hold if he does not cry" , It is mostly used by parents to train good children who are not easy to cry.
But in modern parenting, this concept is outdated, especially when babies under one year old have just left the womb. Parents need to help them establish a sense of security, such as hugging the baby more, breastfeeding, interacting with the baby, etc. .
In addition, if the son has been hanging around and his crying is not responded in time, the child will feel that his parents do not love him. Over time, he may develop an inferiority complex, which is easy to fear, procrastination, and indecision. Difficult to become a talent.
Psychoanalytic psychologists believe that the relationship between a child and his parents before the age of 3 can determine the child’s lifelong personality development, and the mother-infant relationship is the most important.
hopes that the boy will get a response from his parents the next time he cries, so that he won’t have unlimited pitfalls.
Don’t over-raise boys’ parent-child interactions:
In modern society, life is under pressure. In order to raise children, especially boys, you have to pay more than raising girls in the old concept. In most families, at least one person is working outside after giving birth, and in other families, the older generation is bringing the baby all day long.
so that in the "parent-child interaction", parents are too "poor" to push all the time with their children to the elderly, not to mention whether the children can become talents in the future, it is difficult to achieve the integrity of personality.
psychologist Eriksson believes that at the age of 0-6 years old, frequent parent-child interactions with children and let them take the initiative to find their parents to play games and enjoy the fun can help them overcome their lack of self-confidence and shape their brain organization and body. Coordination ability and many other aspects are beneficial, and it is easier to become talents when they grow up.
Don’t “poverty” the boy’s pocket money too much:
For the control of children’s pocket money, many parents usually put it in their own wallets, especially when it comes to the New Year when relatives and relatives give pocket money to their children, they are used to saying: The New Year’s Eve Mom and Dad will help you save it first, and then give it to you when you need it when you grow up." This phenomenon may continue until the child goes to high school...
But surveys show that as the child grows up, it usually comes It is said that they will enter the "sensitive period of social awareness" when they are about 6 years old. When they see other children using the pocket money given by their parents to buy stationery, snacks, breakfast, etc., they will inevitably develop envy, jealousy and low self-esteem, and even grow up. Will be distorted in personality and behave like petty theft.
The famous Chinese children's educator and professor believes that children can give their children pocket money at the age of 6 to 7, which will help cultivate children's outlook on money, values, and life, and will be more beneficial to children's future development.
In real life, there are still many parents who face disobedient children who will adopt the "stick" effect. It is the so-called not forgetting the lessons of the ancestors, but the stick is a filial son. However, the probability of losing such a bet is greater and many parents regret it.
