Many parents say that children are becoming more and more difficult to bring, and they were so obedient when they were babies. However, as they grow up, their rebellious heart is getting bigger and bigger. What parents say, children often like to talk back To go the other way, some parents who are angry directly faint Gu Qi: "You bear kid, what can't you do, talk back to first place." So, what should smart parents do when they meet a child who talks back?
An old mother in Hangzhou posted a quiz about her little baby at home and was deducted 3 points.
After seeing the paper, the old mother communicated with the child:
"The kids on the top are all playing football and skipping rope, what should the kids below do?"
"Baking in the sun!"
"Can you do anything other than sunbathing!" Z1z
"They are blocking with their hands, basking in the sun!"
"Can't they do exercises?"
"Why can't they bask in the sun?"
"Then the teacher will give you a cross now!"
"But why can't the kids bask in the sun?"
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after the infinite loop, the old mother almost became faint. Simply post in the circle of friends for help
. Actually, this is also a kind of child talk back, but you can’t say that it is wrong for a child to talk back like this, because in the child’s eyes, his answer is not wrong, because looking at the picture is not itself It cannot be said that there must be a standard answer. Even in our opinion, the child's answer is not necessarily wrong. Then, at this time, the child talks back because he feels that he is misunderstood by his parents and therefore unhappy. What we need to do at this time is not to reprimand the child blindly or ask the child to do what his parents want.
First of all, we need to know that a child's talk back is actually the beginning of the formation of a child's independent thinking and personality. Moreover, there are many situations in which children and their parents talk back.
In the first case, some children are misunderstood by their parents, so they talk back. At this time, parents should first understand the reasons for their children to do this, learn to listen patiently, listen to the children's thoughts, and do not easily interrupt the children's words, etc. After the child has finished speaking, communicate with the child based on whether the matter is correct or not, so that the child can recognize the problem.
In the second case, the child loses his temper and talks back. We need to know that when a child is angry, he can’t calm down and listen to the truth. At this time, if the parents are also immersed in anger, it is difficult to communicate when the two are fighting each other. Parents should not feel that they are in an angry environment. , Allows children to listen to their own reasoning and wishes. At this time, the most important thing parents should do is to control their emotions, calm themselves down, and then guide their children to restore calmness, and then help children accurately express their thoughts and Further communicate with the child.
The third situation is that parents are more doting and accommodating their children, causing the children to habitually talk back. This situation is actually the situation that parents most need to reflect on. Excessive spoiling of the child will spoil the child’s temper, and the child’s self-centeredness will be very strong. If he does not get what he wants, he will make a big noise. Sometimes it is To parents, sometimes even to outsiders, the parents should consider correcting their doting behavior and help their children adjust their mentality and thoughts.
all say that parents are the best teachers for children, and the children will learn what the parents are like. Parents should pay more attention to their words and deeds at home and set a good example for their children. I believe that there are no children who can't teach well, only parents who don't care enough.
