I have always had the obsession of "I hope my child will become a dragon, and my daughter will become a phoenix" , I do not want to borrow the light of my children in the future, but as Long Yingtai said, I hope that children will have the right to choose in the future. Work with time, rather than being forced to make a living . I remember the first time I saw this passage, I felt like my heart was hit.
Yeah! Our pursuit in life is not fame and fortune, but wants to have dignity, sense of accomplishment, spiritual freedom and happiness. and these are things that we cannot give as parents, and can only be obtained by the children themselves. Starting from this basic point, I hope that my child will be successful, and I hope he will be successful.
However, it is not a simple matter to cultivate an excellent child. I think educating children is the most knowledge that parents should learn. Once I listened to a lecture by Professor Li Meijin, a criminal psychology expert, and felt very benefited. Professor Li Meijin said that before children are six years old, cultivating these "four abilities" will make it easier for them to grow up!
1. Concentration
determines a child's performance not intelligence, but concentration. ——Li Meijin
I want to say whether learning is important or not, I think it is important. Bai Yansong once said in the program that if there is no college entrance examination, what can you do to survive the rich second generation! Therefore, learning is still a "shortcut" to stand up.
Professor Li Meijin once said in the program that concentration is an important factor affecting performance, which coincides with the experiment of Harvard University "invisible chimpanzee" . After the experiment, the Harvard professor applied the conclusion to educating students. He found that the child's concentration is strong enough and , even if the IQ is not particularly high, they can still achieve good results.
It can be seen that it is very important to cultivate concentration before the age of six if you want a child to become a schoolmaster. The training of general concentration can be improved through vision, hearing, and sensory , such as visual attention, which allows children to play mazes, compare sizes, find differences, flash pictures and ask what they see, and quickly identify objects And so on, can make the child's visual attention more and more .
Parents can also choose a set of concentration training books for their children. Z1z keeps playing for 20 minutes every day. The children will not only be happy, but also enhance their concentration. German children have a copy, and the "German Curious Dog Learns Concentration Training with You", which has been sold in Europe for 30 years, is great. The three-in-one way of comics, games, and stories is used to capture children's attention and train. The child's attention.
2. Frustration resistance
Frustration tolerance is related to willpower, and willpower is cultivated by physical strength. ——Li Meijin
If you compare life to a long voyage with no return, then setbacks are the huge waves and reefs in this voyage, which is inevitable. If you encounter a reef, the ship will sink, and if you encounter wind and waves, it will capsize. It is naturally difficult to reach the other shore of your dreams! Z1z is an indispensable quality in life if you want to go far and go wonderfully.
Robert Kiyosaki once said: "People with low accomplishments have low accomplishments because they have not failed, they have acted cautiously, made no mistakes, and have never experienced any failures." It can be seen from that setbacks and difficulties are not terrible, but terrible is the fear of failure. Remember: "There will be long winds and waves, and there will be times when the clouds and sails will benefit the sea"!
Professor Li Meijin mentioned how to improve the child's anti-frustration ability. When the child is around 4 years old, parents can practice hard-working activities for the child, such as swimming and taekwondo. Usually, you can set some challenges for your child appropriately to strengthen the child's heart.
Third, social skills
lively and active children have strong communicative skills, and introverted children have some strengths. ——Li Meijin
Children have entered the socially sensitive period when they were 3 years old, which is the stage of going to kindergarten. At this time they are eagerPartners, eager to socialize. The interpersonal relationship and social ability of at this time can reflect the future interpersonal relationship of the child. As for children with strong social skills, generally speaking, they will have better leadership skills in the future.
Many parents neglect the cultivation of social skills and think that just let the flow go. But in multiple intelligence theory , there is an important intelligence is social intelligence.
Social intelligence refers to the ability to interact with people and get along well, which is mainly manifested in the ability to perceive, perceive and understand the emotions, behaviors and motivations of others, and to respond appropriately accordingly.
If the child has social intelligence, is likely to become the leader in the future. The more elite the family, the less it will ignore the cultivation of this ability. Professor Martha Bronson of Boston College in the United States also found through data research that those children who had good social relations in childhood at can achieve higher achievements in both school and work in the future .
4. The ability of self-discipline
I have been studying the learning method of Xueba for some time, and I found that the earlier realizes self-discipline, the easier it is to open ! So if you want to cultivate your child's self-control ability, you must cultivate it before the age of 6! Z1z must also "vigorously manage" , because the self-discipline of children cannot rely on conscious . Those children who eventually have a sense of accomplishment, stand behind their parents who are "heart-hearted".
Jay Chou When others were reading comics when he was young, he was learning to draw; he had a poem and calligraphy Dong Qing, when he was a child, he was forced by his father to copy stories, recite idioms, and open book lists every day. A habit like not taking a shower. shows that children's self-discipline is actually cultivated before the age of 6.
