Will you quarrel with your elderly parents?
Guoguo had just had a quarrel with his father, and asked me to comment, telling her father's unreasonableness.
quarreled with my dad about a trivial matter last night. He said I was too unreasonable, but I said he was unreasonable and didn't figure it out. In short, it is not giving way to each other, and must fight for a high and low win or lose.
watched him arguing with me anxiously, it was sad to think about it afterwards. (Guo Guo is a sensible child)
Why is he unwilling or daring to admit his ignorance without understanding things, and even more unwilling to lower his high head.
Is it because lowering your head means your own mistakes and failures? Does being strong and high can declare your right position? (Guo Guo can't understand why dad dare not admit his mistake once)
There is no parent in the world willing to admit his mistakes or mistakes in front of their children. Because they always think that they are experienced people, they are presented in front of the children in an old state. Only one's own teaching children's part, how can children teach their own part in turn. It is a shame that
is denied by the child. Being denied by children is like leveraging their authority over decades. I have always been accustomed to anger, only to make others bow their heads, and when it is their turn to bow their heads, I would rather die than yield. (Every parent is like this in front of their children)
's irritable defense, the voice is getting louder, the face is getting ugly, the language is getting more and more intense, and the words are getting more and more vicious. Unreasonable, stubborn temper, and other labels that are out of the subject are rushing forward. The final quarrel has been separated from the original subject for thousands of miles. The red face of
is not because of who is right and who is wrong when discussing the topic, but has evolved into a disapproval of the long-standing style of doing things. The principles of
are vague and chaotic, and they don’t adhere to them when they should be adhered to, and they don’t give up when they shouldn’t.
GuoGuo said this and shook his head helplessly.
In the final analysis, it is because we treat things differently from our parents, which caused this result. After
calmed down, think about the meaning of arguing about this trivial matter. If you win the argument but lose, why bother. Z2z
had to argue with his aging father during the big night, it was really stupid.
Guoguo said, but I don't want to "take over". I have never recognized my father's style of doing things that he always thought he was the right one, and the attitude of being an adult and an elder forever. Why doesn't
dare to admit his ignorance? What's more, he doesn't have the ability to be too precise, but he always prefers to be an adult. It's fine if you really carry it, but it's really annoying to carry it half and half.
still has the upper hand in the fight to the bottom, but my father is a little lonely and sad. Quietly wash down and fall asleep in bed silently.
Guoguo suddenly felt a little sad when he saw his father's old back.
remembered that his elderly father was still working hard to make money for this family, and he went out early and returned late every day, accompanied by two stars, and couldn't help feeling that he didn't understand his parents' difficulties enough.
Guoguo said that she should understand her father, and she should be more patient to explain things he didn't understand, but she didn't do it well. Especially when her father lost control and said that she was unreasonable, she didn't want to follow her father blindly.
Guoguo said that at that moment he could think of many, many things from the past, from filial piety to disobedience, to wanting to let go of her father completely, she thought too much.
Guoguo is a loving child, she can be filial, but not smooth. Especially Yushun, the upright Guoguo is not willing to turn around and follow anyone. (This is very similar to my dad, otherwise my dad would not have a face-to-face fight with Guo Guo)
Guo Guo said that his father has always been too stubborn and would never dare to face himself calmly. Even if one person secretly admits his incompetence, he cannot admit it in front of others.
Maybe that was the last stubbornness of my father. After all, he admitted that he would be deprived of authority, without prestige, how to command the three armies, and how to retain the supremacy of being a parent.
parents are not willing to admit their faults, even if they are really wrong, they will grit their teeth and say yes. Always set up a correct image in front of the child, and dare not leak the slightest. Stubbornly and stubbornly holding on to the last line of defense.
is actually not accepted by parentsI do not accept my imperfect performance. I always want to arm myself perfectly, and dare not behave badly or incorrectly.
is a perfect person, and a generous admission is more perfect than a covert concealment.
Parents, you should be generous in admitting that there is nothing wrong with your mistakes. This low and high head is also a role model for the child, and it is still a superhero in the child's mind.
But if parents are always willing to accept themselves and admit themselves boldly, they are stubborn and stubborn. No matter how beautiful the disguise is, the child will feel disgusted and sad. After all, that is not the real you.
Children just want a true parent, a parent who can peacefully communicate with each other, rather than a parent who just stands on a high platform and gives orders.
Children are born to but not owned by parents. Children are also independent individuals, with independent emotions and cognitions. Parents cannot use morality to kidnap girls to unconditionally comply with their own requirements. It is even more impossible to suppress the child with the weight of "I am for you" and wait for the pressure on the child for a lifetime.
If you want your child to recognize your authority, you must do something that allows your child to recognize it. It is not to win with impatience, nor to force your child to accept your greatness as a parent.
Parents will never admit their mistakes in front of their children, but they must recognize themselves clearly and don't let the disguised self defeat the true self.
To parents who are unwilling to admit their mistakes, and to children who have been hurt by their parents. I hope that parents can be wise, and that children can understand their parents' good intentions. Finally, I wish every parent and child happiness!
