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Why do some children become more and more rebellious? Why do some children become more and more disappointed in their parents? The following may give you the answer.
Why can't I see my efforts?
"There is a person who is decathlon, he is good at everything, he is the child of someone else's family!"
"But mother, the child is not only good for someone else's family, your own child also works hard! Why don't you take a look What?"
This is a new Hunan TV show "Youth Talk", after a girl stood on a high platform, facing her classmates, teachers and parents, choked up and shouted to her mother. The words of
highly resonated with all the students present, and there was thunderous applause in the audience.
's mother replied to her like most parents: "Why should I keep hitting you? Because I think if I don't hit you, you might be a little bit fluttering!"
"When you are strong, I think I am It’s about taking a shot; when you feel weak, I feel like I’m going to push you. I see your shining light, (but) at the same time you really have to change something, you have to change some things, At the end of the
video, the girl ran off the stage crying...
lived like a robot
"I am a robot, as long as I enter the program, I will do it. Once my master asked me to I will do everything obediently, rain or shine, in their eyes I am a good machine. Unfortunately, one day I was infected with a virus, I began to disobey, no matter what the owner enters any repair program, I cannot be repaired. The owner was at a loss. They deleted all my programs, good or bad." You may think this is a piece of science fiction, but what I want to tell you is that this is an educational documentary created by CCTV for ten years. The opening line of the blockbuster "Mirror".
said this is an 18-year-old high school student Yan Heng (a pseudonym) who was undergoing three-month treatment at a psychological rehabilitation school.
"I am a mirror. My face can find out how faithful I am to my parents, both in appearance and in heart, and how similar they are."
Can you imagine that this is the inner monologue of a 14-year-old child?
The relationship between people is like looking in a mirror. The closer the relationship, the clearer the mirror.
Children are always pure and kind, and they will tolerate their parents' faults time and time again.
If one day you find that TA becomes unreasonable, as a parent, you must first review yourself. Did you give TA some unreasonable forerunner?
Just as I said: "It is them (parents) who will stay here for 81 days, and I am paying for them."
How parents get along with their children
First, respecting children is the greatest upbringing of parents.
Chinese-style parents are afraid that their children will break their authority and mistakenly regard "sensible" and "obedient" as the criteria for judging children's quality.
However, there is no one-sidedness. Every child should have the right to choose. Parents should respect the right of their children to say "no" and listen to their true thoughts.
In this way, you may be able to discover many "hidden talents" of your child.
Second, learning to communicate is a compulsory course for parents throughout their lives.
Long Yingtai said: “How many parents and children are in the same room but have nothing to talk about. They love each other but don’t know each other. They yearn for contact but can’t find a bridge. They want to express but have no language.”
Parents and children In a game, how many do not cherish each other?
But sometimes, parents often use self-righteous love instead of communication, creating a deep gap between each other, but it is called the "generation gap".
Third, don't worry about anything, it is the best gift parents give their children.
is like every flower has its own flowering period, and each person has its own rhythm of life. Parents do not need to see other flowers blooming early, and make unwarranted tricks of "bringing up growth".
flowers have different forms, and the flowers bloom at different times. Wait for the flowers to bloom.
finally sent a passage from the American educator Jayne Major in "Two-way Parenting":
"If we have unconditional love for our family and know that even if we make a mistake, we will not be treated unfairly, then we can wander in love. No more fear;
If we can pay attention to each other and appreciate each other’s strengths, then we can gain a positive attitude;
If we respect differences and no one asks us to obey only one belief, then we can freely show our own. Be different."
Dear parents, please listen to your children's aspirations and feel the children's situation. Don't use the "excitement method" to motivate your children. Do you know? This will only make the child trapped in the spell of "other people's child", it will only make him self-denying, less and less self-confident, full of hostility, and eventually emotional breakdown.
So don't be stingy with your praise, please praise your child loudly, he is unique in the world!
source: Internet. Intrusion.
