Does your baby love to hit people?
It seems that every child will have this period. Every time the mother takes her out to play, other neighbors and friends hold her child. The child smiled at first, but suddenly turned towards others’ faces. Take a pat, or hold your face and hair without letting go, which makes mothers very embarrassed.
Sometimes, when parents hold their children, the children will especially like to hold the adult’s hair, stubbornly, how to not let go, will often make the adult very angry, bad temper will be aggressive to the child, and some will beat Scold the child.
But do parents really understand this behavior of children?
01 Why do babies hit adults in the face?
Babies from 2 to 6 months old will tentatively touch the toys when playing with toys. At this time, the baby's movements are still relatively gentle; when the child is about one year old, when the child is playing with toys, Actions will change from touching to scratching, even beating, pinching, these behaviors, in the eyes of parents, are "violent", that is, they don’t care about toys, and their tempers become grumpy, but in the world of children, in fact, these behaviors are all It's normal, and it's no different from touching. Why is that?
02 Behind the baby hitting people, there is "baby psychology" hidden
because the brain development of babies at this age is not very complete, so Such fine movements, in the baby's world, the completion rate is not very high.
To know that to complete a grasping action, the eyes need to find the object, the brain issues instructions, and then the body executes the action. After the hand touches the object, it takes time for the reflex arc to reflect to the brain. This series of actions is What is done in an instant is very simple for an adult.
But for a baby who has not yet fully developed, the completion of this set of actions is not coherent. It is very likely that the brain does not have hands after giving instructions. To complete the action quickly, or after the hand is holding the object, the reflex arc is too slow, the brain does not receive the information and is still conveying the grasping instruction, at this time the child will catch something and throw it around, or grab a Things have not let go.
You will find that when the child hits you in the face, she is always smiling and in a state of excitement, Actually, this is the baby's consciousness touching You, it's just that you don't really want to hit you because you didn't control your intensity.
03 Why do children "beat" their mother more often?
Many mothers report: half of their hair is lost when the child is born, and half of the hair is pulled after the child is born. Why is this? In layman’s terms, means that the child prefers mothers. does not mean that the child is closer to the mother. here is a subconscious neural response, blood relationship, and a sense of security and tacit understanding of pregnancy in October. sense.
04 What should the child do after hitting you, should he scold? Should it be severely stopped?
is actually tricky. After the child hits you, he will be stunned for a moment. He is watching your reaction. If you are laughing at this time, he will think that you like her, so he will continue to hit you and get worse. At this time, Parents should not laugh, ignore, look at him indifferently, tell the child with an expression that the mother does not like this.
Because babies in this period still have limited ability to understand language, When parents say that they can’t beat their mothers, the children may not understand, so this "cold treatment" method is the best Directly effective.
The behavior of children in each period is for a reason. Parents should calm down and observe their babies carefully to give them a complete childhood.
