There is no parent in the world who doesn’t want to equip their children with the ability to cope with the future calmly. For most ordinary people, in order to achieve this goal, this wish can only be realized through good education.
For parents, educating their children is actually no easier than their own job. This is an extremely important special exam that tests the parents’ patience and educational wisdom. What kind of answer sheet the parents submit will mean what kind of life their children will have in the future.
There is no doubt that parents are the starting point for children. The success of family education is the key to children's adult development, and parents' precepts and deeds are the best education for children.
If we want to cultivate a child who is confident, has a sound personality, and is creative, we must work hard on scientific parenting.
- 1. Follow basic education rules and respect children's physical and mental development rules;
- 2. Teach children how to get along with the world;
- 3. Let children go all out to pursue a better self.
Only when all three are present, can children embrace passion and dreams and move towards a better self step by step.
01 Slow parenting - use a slow parenting mentality to accompany your children's growth
It can be said that the failure of many family education can be largely attributed to parents' lack of slow parenting mentality.
When it comes to educating their children, many parents often make such mistakes: eagerness for success, blind obedience, lack of overall planning, etc., hoping that their children can achieve the goal of becoming a householder overnight.
Under the influence of this mentality, it is difficult for parents to make an education plan that is more in line with the laws of education and the characteristics of their children's physical and mental development. Everything is based on the parents' own subjective wishes and ideas.
I am a parent myself and can empathize with this, but you must know that the growth of children, like all life in nature, must follow the basic growth laws. We educate our children not to be eager for quick success, let alone quick success. Eagerness for success and quick success can easily disrupt the normal growth rhythm of children, and on the contrary, fail to cultivate the outstanding children parents want.
There is actually not much comparability between children. Therefore, we should cultivate children with a slow-growing mentality, not pursuing temporary speed, nor judging the overall quality of children based on their current performance at a certain stage.
What our parents really need to do is to cultivate good habits in their children through scientific guidance, stimulate their inner driving force, and transform their children from a state of passive growth to a state of active growth.
Children who grow up "slowly" will become confident and optimistic, warm and firm, and will be more calm in the face of an uncertain future.
02 Balance - Find the balance between love and rules
Giving children a free and happy childhood has increasingly become the consensus of many young parents today.
From the perspective of children, they do need a free and happy space to grow in order to release their nature.
But if this freedom and happiness are not restricted by rules, it is easy for children to lose their sense of boundaries. Children who have lost their sense of boundaries may repeatedly break through various social bottom lines and become a problem child.
In fact, a happy childhood and a sense of rules are not a pair of contradictions in themselves. On the contrary, they can have me in you and you in me. Only children with a sense of boundaries can enjoy a truly happy childhood.
Therefore, far-sighted parents not only know how to give their children a happy childhood, but also know how to help their children build a sense of rules and find a balance between love and rules. In a word, teach children how to get along with the world.
Children who can learn to get along with the world can grow more steadily and further in the future.
03 Discover - use strengths and avoid weaknesses to help children discover their inner potential.
The potential in every child is unlimited. We have heard this sentence countless times.
But in fact, if these potentials are not explored, then no matter how great the potential is, it will ultimately be zero.
Therefore, whether a child is outstanding or not depends to a large extent on whether parents can help them explore their inner potential to the greatest extent.
To explore the inner potential of children, we must let them learn to use their strengths and avoid their weaknesses, develop their own interests and hobbies, and go all out to pursue a better self.
In this way, children can better utilize their strengths and advantages, gain more sense of accomplishment, and gain greater self-confidence.
is like my daughter. Because she loves reading and writing, I adapt to her interests and hobbies and encourage her to develop these interests and hobbies instead of just studying for exams.
Nowadays, children are doing well in their own small world. In the fourth grade of elementary school, they can write poems (archaic poetry, metrical poetry, modern poetry ) and lyrics, write 10,000-word serial novels, and write classical Chinese essays, etc. For herself, it is enough to have a sense of accomplishment and value.
Now children not only enjoy themselves in their own world, but also have enough self-confidence to promote good development in many aspects.
Conclusion
When we work hard on "slow raising, balance and digging", raising good children will become a matter of course.
hopes that every child, under the scientific upbringing of his parents, will have a happy life in the future!
