What if your child can't go to school? Let’s talk about the reasons why kids aren’t in school and what to do if your child isn’t in school.
First of all, as a premise, parents will naturally not think "I don't have to go to school, it doesn't matter if I don't go to school", thinking that this is a natural reaction.
If you dare to analyze the reasons why children do not go to school, it may be bullying, being incompatible with teachers, children who are very sensitive to sounds and smells, developmental disabilities, etc. For many children, such as mother-child separation anxiety, it is a combination of these four reasons.
When it becomes difficult for a child to go to school due to these reasons, the first thing parents have to do is to muster the courage to "take a break from school." Forcing children to go to school may be counterproductive.
As a sign of chronic school refusal, If your child says, "I don't want to go to school today," give him a break, just like you would if he had a cold. When "I don't want to go to school" or "I can't go to school", the child's heart is "cold". After that it really starts to move.
Many parents often rely only on "school" out of anxiety. Some of them have exhausted the energy that should be spent closely observing the condition of their children by negotiating with the school. If your child still doesn't want to go to school after a day or two of recess, consider that there are many cases where a child has deep emotional trauma and cannot tell their parents. Some children say: "I want to go to school" when their parents want them to go to school. However, in most cases, the child will go to school for a few days and then not be able to go again because the underlying emotional trauma has not yet healed.
Once you have narrowed down your choices of where your child should go through counseling, you can finally move to the stage of deciding where your child should go. At that time, the most important thing was to let the child go to "the place where the child can show his 'smile' the most." Children see their parents more than they realize. "I think this free school is the best, but I wonder if my mother will like it?"
Parents tend to worry about their children's future and choose courses without considering their children's current status, thinking "Wouldn't it be better to go to a place with strict guidance?" If you only worry about your children's future, you may end up pushing your children into a corner. If you change the vector of worrying about your child from "future" to "now", that is, from "academic ability" to "smile", your child will naturally be taken care of and you can take care of yourself. So no matter where you choose to live, I hope you value whether your child is smiling right now.
thinks it is a good thing that "children have other places to go besides school". The decision to "not go to school" is not something that parents or even children can make lightly. It was difficult to see from the surroundings, but the child was deeply injured.
So remember, how your child reacts when they say, "I don't want to go to school" will be very important for the rest of their lives.
If we can create an environment where children feel happy to be alive, including spiritual care, they will be able to make great progress in the future without the experience of going to school.
