Recently, there have been many news stories about children’s “fighting and giving in” in society. Kindergarten children engage in violent behavior due to competition for toys, which escalates to fist fights between parents. These things have brought negative social impacts. For parents, they all hope that their children can stay away from unnecessary disputes in kindergartens and schools, and not fight or grab. At the same time, they also hope that their children can learn to share their own things and make more friends. It can be said that teaching children the correct "fight and give way" may seem like a small matter, but it actually affects children's communication skills. So what to do?
Nanning Tiantong Education believes that this should be done:
1. Let the child naturally reveal and express his inner feelings
When the child is still a little guy with immature mind and sensory system, there is no more valuable experience than letting him experience his own inner feelings and true emotional expression. At this time, all you have to do is let him have more contact with the external environment, and let him freely reveal his true inner feelings while interacting with people and things outside. This is also the nourishment he needs for his psychological growth. For example, when he has a dispute with a child, don't tell him what to do, see what he will do himself.
2. Inspire children to think and judge whether they should be humble.
Telling children to be humble is worse than letting children understand why they should be humble. The best way is to "empathize" and let your children experience the feeling of humility. For example, when children are playing with peers, they can prepare some candies, but parents should not give them to their children themselves. Instead, they should let their children distribute them to their friends to feel the praise and praise of others, so that the children can personally feel the meaning of "humility."
3. Encourage children to look for rules in the environment
It is about giving and giving, which often involves rules. Fighting within the rules, that is, competition, is reasonable. At this time, children should be told that they should fight and fight openly. Arguments that violate the rules should be rejected. Similarly, courtesy and humility that comply with the rules are also worthy of praise. However, when it is the child's turn according to the rules, the child does not need to be humble.
Children's struggle and give-and-take require correct guidance. We need to inspire them and let them understand what the correct fight and give-and-take looks like. At the same time, these teachings will continue to inspire children, influence their social skills, and help them become true social masters.
