Last night, my Dabao had a fever. I was alone, two children, and I slept separately in two rooms. I got up in the middle of the night and went to see if my Dabao had a fever, so I didn’t have much rest.

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Hello, I am Zheng Xiaonizi.

I just pushed my child’s arms and forehead to make him feel a little more comfortable, so I took the time to write an article.

Last night, my Dabao had a fever. I was alone, and the two children slept in two separate rooms. I got up several times in the middle of the night to see if Dabao had a fever, so I didn’t get much rest.

As soon as the child has a fever, I call the child’s grandparents and ask them not to come up for the time being while I observe the child’s condition first.

Until today during the day, the child's father came back from work, and I only had a relaxing time to cook.

In fact, during the process of the child's illness, my biological mother, my grandmother, my aunt, and my aunt were all worried about whether I could take care of two children by myself, and whether my body could bear the stress.

However, the child’s father heard from his mother that when his father-in-law was cold while riding his bike at work, he came back soon and had a car to take him off in the morning. Then the child’s father went back without asking me if I could bear the whole process.

Of course, it’s really cold at work today, and I understand that.

It’s just that if you are in the company and haven’t come back, then I definitely have no idea.

But you are back. In this choice, you did not choose to share this hard work with me. Even if I don't say it, the disappointment in my heart for you will only get bigger and bigger, and it will only widen the distance between us.

So, I am becoming more and more determined in my opinion: Once I get through this wave, I will no longer need a man.

Some people may say, wouldn’t you say this? Can I say that I have said enough and now feel no need to say it?

As many times as you want, you have to understand the hardships of women raising children while making money, as many times as you want, you have to have your own ideas and opinions. But when it comes to making a choice, you always don’t know which one is most in need of help at the moment, and every time you make the most disappointing choice.

My experience over the years is: It is really tiring to grow up with a man and teach him how to love someone.

So, I learned to shut up.

If you can't protect me, then I will grow my own edges and corners to protect myself; if you can't support me, then I will make money to support myself; if you can never learn to love others, then I will resolutely stay away from you after doing everything well.

From this, I also realized through disappointment again and again that if a woman wants to be completely independent, she must achieve the following "three independences" step by step.

01. Live independently.

I think this is the first step for women to become independent.

What is independent living? To put it simply, means that you can budget carefully, buy groceries and cook meals without starving yourself to death.

I remember when I first moved here, sometimes I would buy a lot of things. When my child’s grandma saw it, she would comment on how expensive it was.

But I bought it with my own money, and it was still necessary for daily life, so when I heard such words again later, I directly responded: I am 27 or 8 years old, I know what to buy and what not to buy, I can distinguish clearly.

I have never said that I can buy expensive things.

Because I have been living with them before, I always feel that I can’t live. But in fact, once a married woman is separated from her mother-in-law, she has a great ability to manage her family, okay?

The meals for the children these two days:

Household chores: cleaning the house, washing and cleaning, cooking and stir-frying, hot pot soup, etc. I can make
vision: When buying groceries, stocking up and preparing goods, equiping electronic products, etc., I will buy
children: picking up and dropping off children, tutoring homework, teacher contacting, basic etiquette, three-view behavior, etc., I will teach
money-making: paid study, persisting in textbooks, receiving and monetizing, delivering students, etc., I will also do things like

or above. I dare not say that I did everything well, but I really did my best.

So, I can do the first step for women’s independence, life independence, and it will only get better and better.

02, economical independence.

On the basis of independent life, strive to make yourself financially independent. I personally understand that there are 5 steps in economic independence.

① Make money enough to spend
②Earning enough to have enough food and clothing
③Start having extra money
④Buy RV and other large items
⑤Full economical independent

I am still in the second step at the moment, I don’t know how long it will take to get to the fifth step, but it is worth my happiness for a long time, and I will not give up easily.

03. Spiritual independence.

With the basis of independence of life and material independence, spiritual independence is a natural thing.

Just think about it: When you can guarantee that you are not hungry and can freely control the money you earn, how can you not be confident? Can you not be independent?

Another thing is my own experience: after repeated disappointments, no matter what nice things the other party says, I will put P here.

Not to shake my heart for a little guilt is my last stubbornness and one of the reasons for my spiritual independence.

at the end:

Now I hope: Xiaobao's resistance is better, or something happens later, in short, I hope that I will happen again after I take care of all the children, I hope.

The moment my mother called at night, I was almost crying, but I still smiled and said to her: I can handle it, I am not afraid.

Although I had a big gap with my parents about getting married, I still cried after hanging up the phone. But I am not afraid, tomorrow I will be a happy girl again.

Life has forced me into an omnipotent tomboy, so I no longer need to rely on anyone's arms to act cute.

At the end, I still want to wish my girls’ other half will never disappoint you, so that you can always act cute and cute.

OK, the above is what Xiao Nizi said today. If you are touched, you can move your fingers to like me. Thank you for your reading and support.