When I was chatting with the teacher recently, I suddenly thought of a question, and as soon as I asked, the teachers were so excited that they were crazy.
"When parents ask you questions, do you have any opinions that you think you must correct?"
"Too many! We say every day, how many times do we have to say it to establish a correct concept for parents?"
"Self-stimulation must subside!"
"Shake your hands, shake your body, clap your hands..." How many parents have scratched the head for these behaviors of their children?
These are common self-stimulations for children with autism. They may occur at any time and anywhere, mainly for to satisfy sensory stimulation .
The form of self-stimulation is a variety of :
is related to vision, hearing, touch, etc., and its main manifestations include swaying, rotating, running back and forth, staring at the luminous and rotating objects for a long time, etc.;
Some need to rely on objects, including constantly rotating objects in the hand, repeatedly patting paper, etc.;
also has some ritualistic behaviors, which are also a type of self-stimulation, including arranging items in a fixed form, wearing only this piece of clothing, repeatedly chatting about a topic, etc.
Different children will show different self-stimulation, the same thing is: parents all want to eliminate these behaviors.
But in fact, the teachers said: Whether self-stimulation needs to subside depends on the impact of .
Ordinary children will also have self-stimulation, but compared with autistic children, ordinary children have stronger self-control and will hide. Therefore, their self-stimulation performance is hidden and often difficult to detect.
But it doesn't mean they act hidden, so we don't have to eliminate this behavior. But the fact is that these behaviors did not have a bad impact on the child's actual life, so we did not think about eliminating them in the past.
Think about it, when you are in a meeting, do you also get bored turn pen ; when you are nervous, do you also can’t help but play with your hands? In fact, these are all types of self-stimulation.
Therefore, it is normal for autistic children to have self-stimulation. What we need to distinguish is whether this self-stimulation,
① interferes with children's learning?
② Is it too distracting the child?
③ Does it affect the child’s life and physical health?
④ Even said that this behavior makes the child look weird and is discriminated against because of it?
These are the first issues to consider when facing self-stimulation.
So, parents really don’t have to worry about every self-stimulation of their children. First make an objective evaluation of this behavior: If it really has a great impact on the child's life, not because of the parents' own wishes, then immediately consider eliminating the behavior. If it has no impact on life and can make children happy, then why should we focus on elimination?
"Why can't the child sit honestly?"
Teacher: "Did Xiaoshu's mother find out that there are any problems with her child at home recently?"
Parents: "Teacher, the child always runs around at home, how can he calm him down?"
Teacher: "What do you want your child to do after quiet down ?"
Parents: "... Just be quiet."
Teacher: "......"
In self-stimulation, we also mentioned that children may run back and forth to satisfy sensory stimulation. However, it may not be entirely because of the need for self-stimulation!
Parents, please recall, when you were a child, did you like to run and jump, and did you play with your friends? If you say, "Yes, I didn't like running and jumping when I was a kid." , then you must have something else to do .
So, the problem arises: Ordinary children also like to run around, playing is the nature of children !
Autistic children, first of all, it is normal to run and jump.Children are energetic. Sometimes, if they don’t consume this energy, they won’t feel tired. If they don’t sleep at night, parents will face new problems!
So actually, it’s just like the teacher asked: “What do you want your child to do after you calm down?” Many parents have and . "I just want the child to be quieter, and I don't want him to do anything." Think about it, it's quite anxious if the child just sits quietly and does nothing.
Children have nothing to do, can easily create new behavioral problems , such as self-stimulation.
So, in fact, running and jumping is also a manifestation of children finding things themselves. But this incident may have affected the child's study and life, so how should the child runs and jumps be solved?
What we need to pay attention to is not the children running and jumping, but whether can follow your instructions when the children run and jump. When he is running and jumping outside, you say to him: "It's time to go home, don't run, stop." Will the child stop? What you need to pay attention to is whether the child is running and jumping in appropriate occasions, such as playgrounds, where you can run and jump.
If the child really likes running, take him to the playground and to the playground. If the child likes to jump, take him to play on the trampoline, and these places allow the child to run and jump. What we need to pay attention to is to let children do the right thing in the right place .
If you don’t want your child to run and jump, find something else for your child to do . Let your children play with their favorite toys, read their favorite picture books with them, and play their favorite games with them... These are all OK. The important thing is to find things for your children to do. If you do nothing, your children will feel bored!
"I can't play, but I want the child to play"
Knows that finding things for the child is the first step. Some parents want to say, "The children don't have toys they like, so they are not interested in anything."
Some parents will buy a lot of toys for their children and send them to them, wanting their children to play with. But the child doesn't even look at at all. The parents say, "The child is not interested in this."
Have you ever thought that the child may not know what the toy in front of him is. Parents have never introduced their children to their children, so how can their children like them?
First of all, parents should introduce toys to their children and demonstrate to their children how to play them, so that their children can see the fun. First of all, it is not to let the child fall in love with it immediately, but to let the child play first. Let the child know how this thing is played first, and you can use other foods that children like or some things that children like to attract children to try.
Only when the child can play, will he increase the probability of choosing this toy when he is idle and does not know what to do. Only when the child knows how to play will he know that he can spend time with this toy or game.
Parents should change their thinking and cultivate their children's interests is the ultimate goal. To achieve this goal, first let the child get in touch with a large number of toys and show them to the child how these toys are played.
Every teacher of ours will buy a large number of new toys every month to let children come into contact with them, learn how to play, and cultivate rich interests. With interests and hobbies, is more motivated when children learn new skills .
So parents should let their children get as much contact with toys as possible, and don’t worry about why their children are not interested in anything!
If you have interest and things to do, your self-stimulation will be reduced a lot, and the problem of running and jumping will be replaced, and many things will be solved easily.
Speaking of this, teachers have been saying that there are still many problems that parents don’t know:
▶DTTh how to use it at home?
▶ So many training methods, what and what can be used together?
▶The degree is tight, and I finally got the class I finally got, why is it useless to my child?
▶... ...
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