Your family celebrates your child’s birthday, is it the lunar calendar or the solar calendar?
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The son of the neighbor Fangfang family is about to celebrate his Gregorian birthday at the end of the month, and the lunar birthday is about 10 days late. In order to live a life earlier, the child insists on coming his birthday sooner, and his parents agree.
But the elderly at home hope that their children can celebrate their lunar birthdays and said: Chinese people celebrate their lunar birthdays, and only the lunar calendar is accurate.
Fangfang actually also agrees with her son’s birthday in the Gregorian calendar. After all, the ID card and household registration book are all on the Gregorian calendar, so it is easier to remember the birthday of the Gregorian calendar for the children.
In order to let the child celebrate his lunar birthday, the elderly in the family invited relatives and friends early to meet on the child's lunar birthday. The operation of
directly made the daughter-in-law Fangfang have an objection and kept complaining to her husband: How can the mother-in-law kill first and then report?
celebrating the child's birthday should have been a happy family, but Fangfang's family was a little unhappy because of the solar calendar and lunar calendar.
So, Fangfang asked Wenwen's father how he celebrated his child's birthday? To be honest, this question also bothered Wenwen's father. Later, from an academic issue, I learned about the origin of the lunar birthday and the solar calendar, so I didn't worry about it.
Academicly speaking, , Gregorian calendar refers to the law of the sun running in a year. For example, the Twenty-Four Solar Periods are the solar calendar that is told, which is mostly used to guide people's production and work.
For example, after the Jingzhe, people in rural areas will start to work; and the four seasons of the year are clearly divided through Beginning of Spring, Beginning of Summer, Beginning of Autumn and Beginning of Winter.
·Families that attach importance to traditional culture can celebrate their lunar birthdays
. The lunar calendar refers to the law of the moon running in a year, mainly used to guide people's lives and rest. For example, the fifteenth day of August is the Mid-Autumn Festival, the fifth day of May is the Dragon Boat Festival, and the New Year's Eve is the New Year's Eve, etc.
After knowing the origin of the solar calendar and the lunar calendar, you can understand it emotionally that birthdays should be a warm and happy day off.
Therefore, the birthdays of Chinese people from ancient times to the present are lunar birthdays, especially the elderly at home, which cause the traditional culture in their minds to be deeply rooted, so they prefer to celebrate lunar birthdays.
As Fangfang's mother-in-law said: celebrates the child's birthday by following the tradition of the Chinese nation, allowing children to remember their lunar birthdays, and better cultivate their national consciousness;
Therefore, for such families, they can celebrate the lunar birthday for their children, which is conducive to deepening their understanding of traditional culture.
·Young people who advocate Chinese and Western cultures, but celebrating their Gregorian birthdays
With the continuous integration of Chinese and Western cultures, many young people have gradually changed their birthdays to Gregorian birthdays, which is completely no problem.
In Wenwen’s father’s opinion, the solar calendar is common in the world, and there is no saying “ leap month ”, and the time is relatively fixed. For example, if the child is on March 11th, then this day will be the same every year. When the child grows up, he uses the solar calendar to go to school and work.
Wenwen's father's family celebrates his daughter's birthday twice, one for the solar calendar, led by my wife and children; the other for the lunar calendar, led by the elderly at home.
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Why do children like birthdays?
In Wenwen’s father’s opinion, birthdays are celebrated every year, and after adulthood, I don’t have much anticipation for birthdays. But my daughter is different. She looks forward to her birthday every year and will mark her calendar early.
Why do children look forward to birthday parties? Wang Junkai was asked in an interview: What happened to him most unforgettable from since he was a child?
His answer was the birthday of his parents, because he had forgotten that day, and his parents bought him a small cake to celebrate. He was very happy.
But when I saw the cake my parents bought, I started to dislike the cake. After hearing it, my parents beat him up.Although I was beaten up, the most unforgettable thing when I grew up was to celebrate my birthday with my parents.
My daughter is in elementary school now. Once I asked her what she still remembered before she was 3 years old?
Result: What she said was not what I think is "very important" . On the contrary, when I took her to celebrate her birthday outdoors, I sang birthday songs, made wishes, and blowing candles under the stars in the sky.
I also asked her: birthday is celebrated every year, why are you still so looking forward to it?
She said: You can wear a birthday hat, blow candles, sing happy birthday songs and eat cakes for birthday!
So, Children like birthdays, but they actually like the sense of birthday ceremony!
A brain scientist at Harvard University in the United States once conducted a study: invite a group of children and divide them into two groups to eat carrots.
The group requires that carrots have a "ritual sense", that is, first tap the table with carrots, then open the packaging bag, tap the table again, and then put it in your mouth.
, and the other group has no such regulations at all, eat whatever you want.
The result found that the first group of children eat more and more, and they enjoy such game .
So, it’s the same for children to like birthdays, just like the sense of ritual of birthdays!
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At Wenwen's father's house, there is a growth album exclusively for his daughter. Every year when my daughter celebrates her birthday, I will take a photo for her daughter in the same place.
and behind the photo, write your daughter's age, height, weight, and a blessing from her parents. Then put it in the album, thinking that when the child grows up, then look back and you will definitely feel full of memories.
So what can I do to make my child’s birthday meaningful? Wenwen's father gives you 4 new ideas:
①How to celebrate your birthday, respect your child's ideas
My daughter's birthday after the age of 5 is basically her own leadership, and her parents cooperate. For example, who do you want to invite for your birthday, how to design your birthday card, and where do you want to spend it? Which cake to order?
The purpose of doing this is to exercise the abilities required for children to grow up; secondly, the birthday you participate in will be more meaningful.
② A birthday ceremony can be arranged to mark growth
wen’s father’s home uses the growth album, and his friend’s home uses the growth tree! When they decorate the house, they leave a place at home. Every year on their children's birthday, they will measure their height and weigh their weight, so that the repeated birthday rituals, like annual rings, lock the growth mark.
③The birthday venue is best combined with indoor and outdoor, and pure outdoor can also be
If you want to find an indoor dining and outdoor activities in the city, the price is generally relatively expensive. Therefore, Wenwen’s father always looks for pure outdoors every year.
A picnic mat, prepare all kinds of delicious fruits, snacks and other suitable for children. A group of people can enjoy themselves sitting next to the picnic mat.
④ Birthday wishes, not only happy birthday
Every year, after singing the birthday song, my wife and I will give her a big hug or say some "love words" that belong to her.
In Wenwen's father's opinion, whether it is celebrating the lunar birthday or the solar calendar for the child, you need to prepare carefully and fill the child's childhood with a full sense of ritual.
