After the child goes to elementary school, the most feared thing parents are to tutor their children’s studies.
Most parents often can’t help but “Roaring from the Hedong Lion” when tutoring their children’s studies, and their blood pressure soars. Some parents are even sent to the hospital for tutoring their children’s homework. From this point of view, tutoring children's homework is indeed a "chore" for parents.
There are parents who will take videos of tutoring their children to study. In this type of video, you can often see a parent who is hardworking or has soaring blood pressure and a stupid child who is stubborn and uncivilized.
These videos were shared on public platforms, resonating with countless parents who had the same experience. It seems that in tutoring children to learn, parents of have become the "victim" . And the person who caused ten thousand damage to them was their children.
But if parents and their children's roles are exchanged, how will parents feel?
After the intense class of the day, the child came home with a big schoolbag. Before we could take a break after we got home, our parents kept urging us to the face.
The tired child is in trouble with obscure questions. At this time, he has a "flammable and explosive" father or mother next to him. is explaining this exercise patiently with the last little bit.
The child wanted to figure out what the question was, but his brain capacity was in a hurry. Even after the parents explained it, the child still felt his brain was blank.
At this time, the parents around him raised their voices, began to scold, and even started to beat the textbook, scolding the child: "Why are you so stupid! Are you listening carefully? How could I give birth to such a stupid son?" Parents' words were like thorns, piercing the child's heart bleed .
The children at this time don’t know what else they can do except be silent. He could only accept the storm attack from his parents in silence. "Maybe, I'm really not a good source of reading." Children lost thought, thinking in his heart, both frightened and helpless .
Parents might as well try to switch roles with their children, so that you can feel that compared with the parents' loss of patience and surge in blood pressure, the language violence that children receive from their parents is the most unacceptable. Children's interest in learning is that they are exhausted by their parents' repeated blows.
Parents' mouths can make a child, and they can also destroy a child. Some parents may disagree and think that their children are flowers in greenhouses nowadays. How come they can’t stand it if they say a few words of pain or itch?
In fact, for children, physical pain may gradually fade over time, but parents' harsh words will become their shadow for life.
Therefore, when parents get along with their children, should pay special attention to controlling their mouths. You must hold back the three sentences of , no matter what, and never say them to your children.
The mouth of a parent is enough to ruin a child. In any case, don’t say these three words to the child
①Sarcastic and sarcastic words
For me, what I hate most is sarcastic words, because these words seem to have no attack power, but every sentence is "sad" and makes the listener feel uncomfortable.
There are many parents who don’t beat and scold their children directly. They like to use different ways to sarcastic and mock their children to stimulate their children.
Although the child is stimulated by his parents, this stimulation is not a benign stimulation, but will make the child feel insecure and sensitive and fragile.
Therefore, when parents communicate with their children, please have something to say, don’t be sarcastic, and don’t try to motivate the children.
Don’t think that your child will work hard and change his appearance. Children will only choose to show off their bad behavior through the sarcasm of their parents, becoming inferior and unmotivated.
Because even the closest parents do not trust and respect themselves, how can the children have confidence and work hard to improve?
②Threat or intimidation
When children are disobeying discipline and have their own ideas, many parents like to say something intimidating and threatening to calm their children and make their children obedient. Perhaps parents did not realize that since the child was still a baby, we might have inadvertently said a lot of intimidating and threatening words to our children.
When the child is very playful and unwilling to sleep, we may say to the child, "If you don't sleep, the bad uncle will take you away." Or, "If you don't listen to your mother, your mother will not want you and throw you into the trash can."
Does these words sound very familiar to you, parents? If you are still using this "killer weapon" to educate your children in , please make changes as soon as possible.
Because under threat and intimidation by parents, the biggest feeling of children is fear. It is precisely the fear and fear of the child that makes him seem very "obedient". It can be said that parents use threats and intimidation to educate their children, and is invalid.
This trick you are proud of is not only ineffective for children, but will also make your children timid, cowardly, and insecure.
③Barrifying and abusive words
Parents are the closest people of their children, but some children need to bear the harm from the closest people. Some parents don’t know what their psychology is, and always like to insult their children with some belittled words. "You are a boring person, you shouldn't have given birth to you!" and other vicious words were spoken by many parents.
Maybe this is the unintentional words of parents, maybe they forget after they say them, but such vicious language will have a negative impact on the child's life.
Children who grow up through the insults and belittlements of their parents are often inferior because they are often hit by the people they are closest to, and it is already difficult to build self-confidence.
The child who grew up in the insults and belittled by parents, and the parent's parent-child relationship is often alienated . This is not because they are unfilial, but who is willing to live with people who always belittle and attack themselves? The children just want to escape from such a failed environment.
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The mouth of the parents has a huge influence on the children. If you don’t want to raise your child, you should talk to your child well, give more encouragement, and output more positive information to your child, so that your child can grow up with loving words from parents.
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