As a dual-working family, Mr. Li is recently worried about "who will pick up and drop off the child" . Mr. Li's parents returned to their hometown some time ago. For a while, no one picked up the daughter who was in kindergarten.
And Mr. Li's wife is also busy with her job promotion to , and she spends time every day to complete the KPI. Therefore, from the current situation, Mr. Li of "working pace is relatively slow" has become the best candidate for to pick up and drop off children.
However, Mr. Li, who was late and left early because of picking up and dropping off the child, was still "criticized by his leader" and his colleagues' "joking and teasing" .
Mr. Li sighed in response to this, "It is said that childbirth only brings benefits to men , but now it seems that is not that true for men like us who both have to work and take care of the family ! Women have achieved equality in the workplace, and men will no longer be the boss of ."
For Mr. Li is busy with work and taking care of the baby ht The wife expressed sympathy for the embarrassment of ml2, but Mr. Li's wife also believes that "if we exchange genders, people will think this is normal, and this just shows that you men are used to the gender dividend, and the father's premium brought to men by giving birth should also be reduced to ."
In fact, men in the same situation as Mr. Li are increasingly common in life. fathers taking care of their children or couples working together to take care of their children is no longer an isolated case. I wonder if there are many such situations around you?
What exactly does the "father's premium" that fertility will bring to men mean?
The so-called "father's premium" refers to the positive impact on men due to childbirth.
For example, after the child is born, fathers often become more financially responsible for the family, which makes them more proactive in to achieve workplace promotion to , so as to obtain more financial rewards to balance the family expenses caused by childbirth.
For example, from the perspective of company employers, men who have started a family and have given birth are more stable in the workplace. The family's financial pressure makes them not easily "change jobs" or "resign" so that employers often give married and childish men more positive evaluation of their workplace performance.
In addition, the "father's premium" brought to men by childbirth also corresponds to the "fertility punishment" brought to women. There are many women who will suffer from career development after giving birth. Some women even have to return to their families and are inseparable from the workplace. Compared with the two, the benefits of "father's premium" can be obvious.
When the benefits brought by childbirth to men shrink, the premium of the father's position depreciates. The reasons behind this are thought-provoking
In recent years, the parenting model of young families in my country has undergone major changes. As women's contributions to the family economy have improved, some men have begun to actively tempt and energy to family and participate more in parenting.
Therefore, for these men, their workplace development may cause to be slow or stagnant due to childbirth. From this perspective, the benefits of childbirth for men have shrunk.
In addition, young couples nowadays have a high acceptance of the concepts of "the male leads to the inside and the female leads to the outside" and "equality between men and women". The identity of "dad" will not be rejected and criticized by the young group . When the positive influence of plays in parenting, the role of is faced and valued, sometimes the depreciation of the premium of the father's position is sometimes "a good thing."
However, it is undeniable that whether it is the depreciation of the father's premium or the existence of fertility punishment, the additional expenses of fertility are still the big part of household expenses. The widespread existence of fertility pressure has forced young couples to "carry the burden forward". Especially when there is no external support, such as parents do not help with taking care of their children , young families will pay more for childbirth.
When the parent’s premium depreciates, how should we digest the pressure brought by parenting cost?
First of all, the workplace should give higher "tolerance" to "mothers" and "dads". For dual-working families, the most obvious impact of the extra fertility cost on life is the development of the workplace. In society, the society "discriminates" and "prejudgment" of against families with children. has caused workers with "dad" and "mother" to be labeled as "deficient in work" and other negative tags .
When society is more tolerant of nurturing identities, young families will be more at ease in the balance between work and family.
Secondly, society should help solve some "parenting worries". Nowadays, parents of young families have obvious anxiety about their children's education. If society can ensure educational equity in , then I believe that fertility rate will increase accordingly, and the pressure on parenting in young families will also be reduced.
In addition, the popularity of childcare and childcare will also alleviate the lack of time and energy in young couples to a certain extent.
Finally, the couple needs to do a good job in division of labor and balance between work and family. couples have the same parenting concept as , which is very beneficial for the parenting family to divide union .
Whether it is men or women, their efforts in the family should be respected and grateful. Whether it is a full-time mother or a full-time father, their devoted investment in family and the economic value created by created by their partner is equivalent to .
Parenting costs are unavoidable after the child is born, and young parents should be prepared to deal with it in advance. Whether it is the depreciation of the father's premium or the punishment for fertility should be viewed correctly.
At the same time, young parents should also be more responsible in parenting. Only by knowing tolerance and understanding each other can they support their children's sky. High-quality companionship is jointly managed and created by both parents. The absence of either party will leave regrets in the growth of their children.
Scrambled:
At a time when fertility is under great pressure, the cost of parenting should not be borne only by parents, and social resources and childbirth should also be tilted in this regard. In addition, young families should also look at the pressure of childbirth rationally. Being able to accompany their children for a while is a wonderful experience in life.
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