The attitude of parents determines the attitude of children and also determines the choice of children. Children will imitate the way men deal with women, or they will imitate the way women deal with men. Most of this kind of imitation is produced unconsciously and is not intentional imitation.
After the child is born, if the parents take him, he will learn from his parents and receive education while observing his parents' every move. In order to survive, they must observe who is the one who makes the decision and who is the "ruler" of the family. After observing, they will imitate the "ruler" to speak and do things. As a result, children from many families have become little emperors and little princesses who are "in heaven and earth." The adults at home are obedient to them, but in fact they don’t know that they are deliberately imitating a certain “ruler” in the family and will play freely to meet many of their unreasonable needs.
The father has a bad attitude towards his mother, and his mother obeys everything. Then, boys in the family generally learn from their fathers, have the concept of superiority of men and inferiority of women, have a bad attitude towards women, and even scold their mothers like their fathers. The mother does not refute, but laughs it off. If the mother is not a woman who endures humiliation and retorts and makes men look dirty, then the boy may learn from her mother. After all, the mother has the upper hand in the fight. Children are generally very sensitive and should learn from the strong, not the weak. If a girl is usually imitating her mother, whether she accepts her or retorts, she has to learn from her mother. However, when her father gains the upper hand, the girl will learn from her father and must learn subtly. In other words, it depends on who the child is affected more heavily, and it depends on whether the person occupies a core position in the family and whether he is a "ruler". Of course, there are also children who like literature and art, while those who like literature and art among family members are marginalized and used objects and cannot be de facto rulers. Just like the literary and artistic workers in society, they usually perform shows and cannot be emperors. Therefore, the literary and artistic enthusiasts at home became the object of imitation for children, which is of course a kind of escape, escape from the cover of family power without being firmly bound by power.
Children will imitate whoever they like, and the premise of liking is not one, but multiple. The first choice is to see who occupies an important position among family members, who is the "ruler" and the person who keeps his word. Children are born weak and need to rely on some powerful people to get the opportunity to survive. Even in ancient times, weak children had to rely on the power of tribal groups to get the opportunity to survive. This choice is a natural instinctive choice for humans and is also a must for survival. Humans are born to rely on the strong and sympathize with the weak, but are unwilling to be the weak. They should become stronger from the weak. The best way is to rely on the strong and grow under the protection of the strong. Children in the family are no exception. If they need to grow up in the family group or small tribes, they must look for "rulers", and at the same time imitate "rulers" and become people like "rulers". So, the boy at home was as arbitrary as his father, looked down on women, smoked and drank, and did not make much money and had a very strong temper. If you compare him with his father, you will find that the two of them were actually carved from the same mold, no different. Some girls are like mothers, obedient to men, don’t like to quarrel, but are often bullied. Some girls like to be tomboys. It is not that their personality is so strong, but that they are influenced by their father's strong personality, or by their strong personalities such as mother, grandma, and grandma. Some are raised as boys, which has developed the boy's personality. In other words, their bodies are women, but their personalities are full of boys, such as being strong, even being brave, never giving up, etc.
Children grow up in the family and will observe their parents' words and deeds. Parents are their first teachers, teaching them to walk, teach them to speak, and teach them some cultural knowledge.It is hard to say that every move or smile of parents will not affect their children's growth. Some parents like to quarrel and fight, but their children quickly learn to curse, quarrel, shirk responsibility, and even learn to fight. Some parents like to be silent, and they have few nonsense, and their homes are dead. The same is true for children. They don’t like to talk and are even suspected of being depression . As for some parents who like travel, mobile phones, bags, food, etc., it will also affect their children. Even parents' worldview and values will affect their children, and some can also have a lifelong impact.
In this way, family education is very important. Parents need to set an example for their children, and they cannot just care about their child's child's birth and care about their upbringing, and they cannot reveal their true colors in front of their children, dare to say anything or do any moves. There was a couple who did not shy away from the child when they were doing that, but the child became precocious. The boy lived with other girls as a teenager, and the girl at home became pregnant as a teenager. It has had an adverse effect, and it is not the child’s own fault.
Parents' attitude determines the attitude of children, and the influence of parents is huge. It is an instinctive need for children to imitate their parents, seek protection of power, and then seek independent development. According to Maslow 's theory, it is the need to seek security. Then, parents must set a good example for their children, and not speak and do things casually, so as not to mislead their children.
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