When Yangyang returned to the custody today, he was holding his head, feeling weak. So I walked over and sat next to him and chatted with him, but no matter how I teased him, he would cooperate with me very perfunctorily. Looking at his condition, he might not be able to coax him well for a while, so I decided to communicate with him. After chatting for a while, I realized that he did not take the exam recently, and the teacher also criticized him, thinking that his study status was not good enough recently.
Yangyang's father learned about this and signed him up for a tutoring class. However, after tutoring for a while, Yangyang's grades did not improve. Yangyang also felt discouraged and was depressed all day long. "Teacher, actually, I don't want to tutor at all, but my father must ask me to say it's for my good and improve my grades. But every day I'm in school, it's already very hard to complete the homework assigned by the teacher. Now, in addition, I have to write homework very late every night, and I can't rest well. The next day, I'm always not focused in class." "Then have you told you about these situations, Dad?" "No, it's useless to say it, but I will blame me for being unprofitable. I just obediently went to the tutoring class, but in the tutoring class, I couldn't listen. Either I just played by myself or just slept on my lying down. I felt it was a waste of time and was very unhappy."
After listening to these, I understood why Yangyang's father always praised Yangyang for being obedient! Yangyang made his ideas not important to his father, so he no longer wanted to argue with him. Finally, he chose to obey his father's arrangements and report to the tutoring class every day.
In fact, when the child is young, he needs the help of his parents to grow up slowly because of his lack of living experience. At this time, the child will choose to listen to adults out of self-protection instinct, but as the child grows up, he will continue to explore the world. He is also a separate individual, without his own personality, and has his own ideas. These ideas of his also need to be supported by parents. If parents just blindly pursue their children's obedience, they will lose many opportunities to explore themselves and many opportunities to accumulate experience.
I hope parents can learn more about family education , and write about the different psychological growth and growth and development characteristics of children at each stage, so as to better educate their children and better accompany them.
