Some people think that my child doesn’t seem to have much talent and is not particularly good at it. What’s going on?
Every child has his own unique talents, and education will develop or eliminate these talents the day after tomorrow.
Most things in life are not Olympic competitions, and they don’t need much talent. As long as you are interested and do more, you will naturally be good at it.
What we want to ask is, is the family education environment conducive to the development of children's talents?
The development of children's talents is based on self-esteem and self-confidence.
In supportive families, parents pay more attention and appreciate more, and do not judge their own children with other people's children, and do not use the majesty of teachers to scare their children. In this way, a little interest or expertise of the child will naturally show it.
without judgment and comparison, there will be no scruples or psychological burdens, and things will become very pure. Adults will see and encourage a little bit of progress, so children like to do it more and more, and the better they do it, and the more confident they are in themselves.
But in other families, the situation is different. The child is unwilling to show his interests and talents because he is burdened with a heavy psychological burden, weak inside, and has many inner dramas. "Will anyone laugh at me? I am much worse than the sister next door?"
The child's talent and talents are worn out in such internal friction. Every child is a thousand-mile horse, and there are often thousands-mile horses, but there are not many Bo Le.
Adults are sensitive to discovering their children's interests and providing them with opportunities to do things, often in a moment.
When my son was four years old, one night he had a sudden idea and took his little scissors to cut the grapefruit, wanting to cut it open by himself, but he had already cut the grapefruit into pieces.
The family thinks it is dangerous to operate scissors, and the son’s hands are young and tender, and they are not strong enough, so they may not be able to make it. I want to tell my son not to make trouble again.
I observed it and found that the scissors are cut paper with round heads, which will not hurt people. Just don’t get close to the grapefruit. My son cut the grapefruit with a small movement. He stabbed the scissors into the grapefruit skin and cut it with one knife. There was no problem.
I decided to stay by my side, cheer for my son, and protect him at the same time.
My son cut the thread on the grapefruit bit by bit, and then broke the grapefruit skin apart. I asked him if his hands hurt, and he answered easily that it was okay. He did it.
I said, "You are so young, you actually peeled off such a big grapefruit. Now, do you want to share the grapefruit with everyone and let everyone share your happiness?"
's son generously shared his "trophy", like a general who had just won.
Is this something that children are good at? Is this considered talent? Of course, the ability and habit of solving problems by yourself is a very important talent.
If we adults take it for granted and lightly prevent children from trying, the children will lose one chance to show their talents and less opportunities to develop their abilities and self-confidence.
Family education is the accumulation of daily life. The talent of children is developed little by little with such sensitive and pure support.
