"You always try hard to get what you think is the best, but in the end you see the best, you can't enjoy it." Meizi's friend said.
When I heard my friend say this to me, 38-year-old Mei Zi was stunned for a moment, then pressed her chest tightly, and finally couldn't help but burst into tears. She said:
"Your sentence hits my heart. This is how I have always felt. I always worked hard and worked hard, but I gave up at the last step. I worked hard for work, family, and to gain recognition from others, and finally gave up after working for so long, doing so many things."
"Do you know, this sentence is the answer I want. I used to be confused and anxious. I made money and couldn't make myself happy. I worked hard but couldn't get the position I wanted. The company leaders didn't understand me, and my family didn't understand me. They all have to get used to this."
Meizi does not deliberately suppress her inner emotions, nor does she relax, but let all emotions naturally flow out with tears.
Mei Zi was resentful and aggrieved, I don’t know how long she had cried.
Before this, Mei Zi never got anyone's permission to cry, to be weak, to compromise, and to let go. Now, she can finally release it freely.
Plums like to drink porridge. But she had a strange habit of having a sip left for every time she drank porridge. When she has the last bite left, she is always used to giving her husband food. She doesn't eat this last bite, she can go and eat something else. If you barely eat it, you will feel bloating and uncomfortable.
She remembered that when she was a child, her mother said "The delicious food should be eaten at the end. If you don't like it or don't taste it, you should eat it first, so that you can eat delicious food in the end."
She listened to her mother's words, and she ate it hard and ate it hard. When she finally saw what she liked, she couldn't eat it.
tried hard to eat until the end, but saw what I like, but was exhausted and could not enjoy it. The last bite of rice left became the distance between plums and happiness.
As a married woman who is almost 40 years old, Mei Zi has just experienced the competition for the company's middle-level management position and failed both times. Although I am busy with work all day, under tremendous pressure, and do my best in every job, my career development has finally encountered a bottleneck. She was a little discouraged by the workplace.
It’s okay if your work is not going well, but let’s talk about your family, but it’s a mess.
The child has psychological problems. No matter how hard Meizi teaches her, her grades will never be improved.
Because I am busy with my own work on weekdays, I am separated from my husband and I always cannot communicate with each other when I encounter something.
Meizi loves her mother very much. From childhood to adulthood, she feels that she is a child whose mother can show off outside. When I was a child, I had both good character and academic performance, and now I am a leader in the workplace. Now, two failed bids, Meizi thought she was terrible and she didn't even dare to go back to see her mother.
Meizi really hopes that she can see the road to happiness clearly.
The words of a friend finally cracked Mei Zi’s happiness password.
Later, Mei Zi often reconciled with herself: It turns out that I can do this, it turns out that I don’t need to do that .
Meizi communicated sincerely with her husband. After seeing her husband’s emotions and dedication to her, she clearly felt her needs for her husband and expressed her needs to him. She no longer feels that her husband is "very far away" from her. Their relationship became closer.
At work, when she feels unfair, she no longer bears silently as before, but firmly expresses her doubts and rejections.
In her relationship with her mother, she became more proactive in expressing herself. For a long time, because she didn't want to disappoint her mother, she always forced herself to digest everything her mother stuffed to herself, which made her feel irresistible pressure.She knew the feeling of being forced to accept.
Meizi is no longer forced to accept all her "love" for her, no longer accepts all her mother's requests, but instead actively communicates with her mother to let her understand her better.
Later my mother apologized to her. That was the first time my mother apologized to Meizi.
Plum cried again.
