"I won't play with you anymore!"
This is a common saying in children's social life. Although this sentence is unfriendly, almost every child will encounter it.
As a treasure father, I still remember a rumor that I circulated when I was a child:
You don’t play with me, I play with the train, and when the train smokes, I will rush to heaven. There is a salt seller in the sky, and the salty one pickles you for you.
This is actually a way for children to comfort their young souls through rumor when facing rejection, neglect, and isolation. I don’t know which master wrote it.
"I won't play with you anymore!" This is a very "harmful" sentence
I was playing well, why did I break up with me!
Some children who are not very familiar with the world will be very sad when faced with this sentence.
Some children will try their best to please others because of this.
As a parent of a child, when he knows that his child is rejected, he often says angrily: " If others don't play with you, don't play with him. "
, however, this approach is emotional, irrational, and is not conducive to the social and mental development of children.
"I won't play with you anymore!" Parents should teach their children how to deal with
correctly?
The correct way to do it is to treat it differently.
The language of China is profound and profound. The same sentence, if placed in different contexts, actually means completely different.
also says, "I won't play with you anymore!", in different situations, it is completely different.
includes but is not limited to the following situations:
Case 1:
Two children play games together, and a little conflict arose because of disagreement. Then, one of the children said angrily, "I won't play with you anymore!"
This obviously does not mean breaking up, but is just temporary. In fact, it just wants to express his dissatisfaction.
This is the most common, and it is also the reason why many children don’t know how many times they don’t play with each other, and they play together again in less than a minute.
Case 2:
There are some children who like to say "I won't play with you!" and it almost became a verbal word.
always says, "I won't play with you!"
There is such a child in our community, and I often hear her say this to other children.
As soon as she met that day, she said to my daughter, "I won't play with you anymore!" This gave people an inexplicable feeling.
For this reason, it is actually an educational problem for the other party’s parents. Then we can only say: “If you don’t play with us, we will go to other children.”
Case 3:
Some children are more "awesome". They may have tasted the sweetness before and know how to compromise with others through the sentence “I won’t play with you!” and even make others please themselves.
So, as a parent, when you find someone says to your child, "I won't play with you!", you need to analyze the specific issues of .
- Sometimes it is just a small conflict, not to the point of breaking up. In this case, you can tell your children: You can play each other first and then play together when you want to play together.
- Sometimes, when faced with unfriendly social behavior, you can directly refuse.
- Sometimes, you need to stick to your bottom line, and there is no need to deliberately please others.
The child doesn’t understand at first. After parents understand the specific situation, they should tell the child truthfully why others say that and what should you do.
Not only are children growing up slowly, but their minds must also continue to mature. "I won't play with you anymore!" In this matter, if parents can teach their children the ability to "understand the psychological state of themselves and others", that is the best education.
