Hello everyone, I am Honghong~
After working for a day, I finally have time to recharge myself. While reading the exam preparation book, Honghong suddenly realized something was wrong at home: the little guy who had been by Honghong's side waiting for videos to read the phone was actually looking at the book quietly in front of his small desk.
Honghong was stunned for a moment, and suddenly remembered that it seemed that the child hadn't come to use his phone for a long time. After asking her mother-in-law, she also said that the child hadn't seen his cell phone for a while.
My father-in-law observed the most carefully. He said that almost every time I picked up the information, the little guy would go to read books in a similar way. Even the kindergarten teacher said that the child's literacy has increased rapidly during this period, and he knew many of the words in picture books.
My husband also said that the child’s blinking problem was cured as soon as he watched the video.
Honghong suddenly realized: It turns out that mothers often keep books in hand, which has such a great impact on their children! Looking back on my own experience, isn’t it? My mother’s words and deeds have a significant impact on her child.
Effects on children's behavioral habits
Honghong's family has two sisters. The sister is 5 years older than Honghong and has a good handwriting. This is not common in rural areas. Not to mention writing calligraphy, it is difficult to find even if it is a brush. Many neighbors have expressed confusion.
In fact, this is all due to the influence of my mother. My mother is a gentle person. She loves writing brushes the most and will write a few strokes when she has time. Later, my mother found that Honghong's sister was very interested in writing brushes and characters, so she patiently taught her, from holding the brush to drawing, and she taught meticulously.
Although Honghong is a casual temperament and has not learned her mother's calligraphy, her sister learned it very well, which is of great benefit to her later career.
Some people say that people who like to read and write are calm and calm, but others don’t know that their sister is indeed like this. She is polite to people, and her words and demeanors are generous. People who have come into contact with her praise her sister. Her sister’s children are also good children praised by everyone.
can be seen that having a mother who loves reading, writing and knowledge has a great impact on her child's behavioral habits.
The impact of children's emotional intelligence
Honghong was a firecracker when she was a child. She couldn't stand a little grievance or a joke. She was a child who was just a little angry, and sometimes she was a little unreasonable. Many relatives once worried: What should I do in the future if such a girl with a anxious temper and a little chili pepper?
In order to help Honghong change his temper, his parents also taught him and beat him, but the results were very little. Later, my mother found a lot of books to accompany Honghong to read them, and used the cases in the book to reason with Honghong and teach Honghong how to deal with different situations.
In this process, Honghong knew: yelling is not a solution to the problem. Sometimes whispering warmly will bring better results; being polite and concise is not weakness, it is a reflection of a person's inner qualities; when you are angry, don't be led by emotions, but calm down and sort out your thoughts.
In this process, Honghong realized that many methods had been clearly explained in the book. For example, smiling can break the deadlock, but Honghong himself did not calm down and absorbed it well.
Later, Honghong accidentally discovered that the little guy could hold back his tears when he was wronged and anxious. He first explained the incident clearly. Honghong felt very comforted: It turned out that the little guy was also invisibly affected.
And the source of this impact is still with the child’s grandmother, which is incredible.
The influence of children respecting the elderly and loving the young and etiquette
Honghong once talked about family etiquette with colleagues. When colleagues heard that Honghong would say "Dad/Mom, we are out" to her family before going out, and would say "Dad/Mom, we are back". Every day when she wakes up early, she would greet everyone in the family. If any family members fail to come back in time during the meal, they will definitely leave food alone.
They expressed their discomfort in this regard, and even said that Honghong's thoughts were conservative and pedantic.
But, haven’t these been written in books for a long time? The "Rules for Disciples" clearly states, "If you come out, you will tell me, and if you turn against me, you will face it." "If you are small, don't do anything well", "If you are small, don't hide it privately, if you keep it privately, you will be hurt by your own heart." "If you eat or sit and walk, the elders will be the first, and the younger will be the last."
I still remember a video that said that a mother cut a watermelon. The 2-year-old child handed the first piece to his grandfather. There were praises on the Internet, and some people said that there were not many such children.
But, aren't these normal?
Many times, Honghong is extremely grateful that there is a mother who loves to study, and her mother passes her hobbies to Honghong, and Honghong then passes them on to her children.
As parents, many times, we don’t know how to teach our children, but we just don’t want to teach them. We are too lazy to move and always think that our children can learn well by themselves. When interests come, they become one-sided preaching.
In fact, teaching children and affecting children is not as complicated as imagined, and it does not require too much energy and time. Just do the following:
Manage yourself well
The first thing to manage your children is to manage yourself well first. This is because parents are the first teacher of their children and the first role model for children to learn and imitate. Often, the children will learn how parents do it.
Therefore, if you want to raise and teach your children well, the first thing parents need to do is to manage themselves well, pay attention to their words and deeds at all times, and see if they do not do it properly.
If you want your child to stay away from electronic devices such as mobile phones, parents should not take the lead in browsing their phones; if parents want their children to love reading, they should remember to pick up the book; if they want their children to be polite, parents themselves should also be a polite person.
In short, controlling yourself well and taking the lead in demonstration is far better than all kinds of meaningless and empty preaching.
Create an environment
Children's energy is limited, and their attention and interests come and go quickly. If you want your child to maintain a high level of concentration for a long time, you must pay attention to the creation of the environment and reduce the interference of irrelevant factors, so that your child can focus on one thing to the greatest extent.
creates an environment that can change the layout of the home. For example, if you want your child to read more books, you can consider putting the book where the child can easily get it and putting toys that may be distracted outside the child's sight.
In addition, when the child is concentrating on doing things, don’t disturb the child, let him concentrate on doing what he has in his hands as much as possible.
positive reinforcement
children are praised.
Many parents are always worried that if they praise too many children, their children will be proud. In fact, when a child is happiest, he is when he gets affirmation and praise, and the best time to educate his child is also when he does the right thing.
This time is often the best time to positively strengthen the child. When praising, you must pay attention to praise your efforts and praise specific behaviors. For example: The big bad wolf you play is very realistic, and it would be better if the voice is a little more fierce.
I believe that the child will be happy to improve again.
In short, mothers are most likely to affect their children and are also the main source of their sense of security. If you want your children to become better, remember that mothers must read more books, exercise more, and accompany their children more. A cheerful mother will definitely not be bad when she brings them.
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