Every September, a group of children enter the campus, and the kindergarten at this time is simply a sea of crying.
● Some children start crying as soon as they leave;
● Some children cry when they hear other children want their mothers to cry;
● They cry in class, cry in toilet, cry in meals, and cry in naps...
Why do children cry when they go to kindergarten? What should I do if my child cries? Next, Duomei will analyze it for parents.
Why do children cry?
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separation anxiety
A big reason for the child who just entered school is due to separation anxiety.
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Separation anxiety refers to the anxiety, anxiety and sadness caused by infants and young children having an intimate emotional bond with someone, and they will be separated from them. It often occurs in the pre-school age.
British psychologist John Bowlby divided the separation anxiety of babies into three stages through observation:
resistance stage — —Cry loudly, kick and make noise;
disappointment stage —still crying, intermittent, less noise in movement, ignore others, slow expression;
transcendence stage —Accepting care from outsiders and starting normal activities, such as eating and playing with toys, but when you see your mother, you will have a sad expression.
. Kindergarten is the first time that the child leaves a familiar family and enters a strange place. The environment has changed greatly. At this time, the child will experience strong anxiety and anxiety.
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touch sensitive
touch sensitive
touch sensitive
Other reason why children cry is touch sensitive. Touch is an important nutrition of nervous tissue when the skin is touched When squeezed, it will increase serotonin activity secretion and reduce adrenal corticotin secretion, bringing a sense of comfort in the body and regulating emotions.
When a child's touch development is unbalanced and the brain is not recognizable, emotions are easily uncontrollable, and at the same time they are more defensive to the environment. When it is impossible to identify whether the surrounding environment is safe, anxiety, tension, and even crying and discomfort.
Touch sensitive children usually show:
● Cowardly, crying, withdrawn and sensitive, and don’t like to be touched;
● Fear of people in places with poor interpersonal skills;
● Unstable and irritable temper;
● Love to eat hands, bite nails, bite lips, and even bite people;
● Picky eating, partial eating, anorexia, don’t like eating vegetables, fruits, etc.;
● Don’t like washing your face, washing your hair, taking a bath, and brushing your teeth;
● Often walking on tiptoe, poor attention, etc.
Depending on the child's tactile sensitivity, the time to adapt to kindergarten life will also vary. Some children start crying on the first day and stop crying for a few days; some children don’t cry at first, but start crying after a few days or two weeks; some children start crying after a month; some children still don’t want to enter the kindergarten after a year...
How should parents help their children?
Entering kindergarten is the first time that the child experiences separation, which is a necessary process for every child to grow up. Parents should infect their children with optimistic and firm emotions and help them adapt to kindergarten life as soon as possible.
3~6 years old is the development period of children's personality, and touch affects the child's personality, emotions and psychology. Therefore, parents can pay attention to the stimulation of their children's sense of touch in a purposeful and planned manner, and improve their children's crying problem from the root.
Do this in daily life
Parents can help their children develop touch in these aspects in their lives:
☑Take children to outdoor activities more, get in touch with nature, play with soil and sand, and increase their sense of touch;
☑When taking a bath, use towels of different materials to stimulate the child's feeling;
☑Children's clothing can reduce the use of softener ;
☑ hugs the child more and treats the child with a stable mood, which will make the child feel more secure;
☑ Use massage to brush or brushes of different soft and hardness degrees to brush back and forth on the child with a certain amount of strength. You can brush the back, limbs, and chest one after another, so that the child feels itchy but tolerated.
mini game to improve touch
Parents can also play some parent-child interaction games with their children at home to stimulate their children's sense of touch:
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/ Guess words
Make the child close his eyes, and the parents use their fingers to write a number or simple Chinese character on the palm or back of their hands, so that the child can guess.
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/ Blindfolded objects
Place building blocks or objects of different shapes on the table, blindfold your eyes, let your child put his hands on the table, and parents issue instructions to let the child find it as fast as possible.
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/ Roll of sushi
Roll up the child with a large towel. To increase the fun, words such as "one or two" or "roll, roll, roll sushi" can be used to disperse children's tension and stress. After the child is rolled up, place it on the mat and roll it gently or press it down.
