Whether in the past or present, whether in cities or rural areas, educating children and allowing children to grow up healthily is a major problem in the world. Everyone knows that our country is an ancient country with a long history and a country of etiquette.
In ancient times, the people were not well educated and did not receive much education, but most of them knew the principle of " filial piety is the first ". However, in today's society, we will find that some families have many cases of children becoming bad due to spoiling their children and neglecting their discipline. I think those etiquette experiences that ancient people have accumulated over time and summarized over thousands of years are invisible to such families. At the same time, I also believe that from ancient times to the present, we have been circulating books such as " Disciples Rules " and " Rites ". These books are actually recognized by many people.
As the saying goes, the closest parents are not the same as brothers, but recently, so we can also see that parents and brothers and sisters are our closest people, and they are the people with the closest blood relationship. Speaking of this, I want to say a saying "The son does not say the father's fault, and the daughter does not say the mother's evil." This is what it means in the past. How did they deal with their relationship with each other? So is there any warning or guidance for us now?
1. The sentence "The son does not tell the father's fault" is easy to understand, which means that children cannot talk about their father's faults. We all know that in the past, it was estimated that the "Three Bonds and Five Constant Virtues" were emphasized. Here we explain what the "Three Bonds and Five Constant Virtues" were the three Bonds: it refers to the father being the son, the king being the minister, and the husband being the wife. Five Constant : refers to benevolence, righteousness, courtesy, wisdom and trustworthiness. Therefore, in the ancient families, the father had a high status. As children, they needed to unconditionally obey the decisions made and what they did. Even if the decision was wrong or the things they did were not correct, they could not be expressed as children, let alone talk about it. If they violated it, they would be criticized as unfilial and scolded. This reflects a filial piety. Of course, this is not the case now, but it is in line with the concept of filial piety.
: As for our current parents, we will be limited by understanding, and it may inevitably make some incorrect decisions. When we have some wrong things, I think that as children today, we do not need to care about the elderly, nor do we need to confront them in person, and we cannot be resentful or accuse them in public. These are all unfilial behaviors. I think that as long as it is not a principled mistake, children can turn a blind eye and argue about the right and wrong. It really has no meaning. Whoever wins and hurts each other is their relationship. Try to tolerate them. Are you right?
2. The sentence "a woman does not talk about her mother's traitor" means similar to "a son does not talk about her father's fault", but the meaning of "blame" here is "opportunistic" does not mean that it means that if a daughter sees some opportunistic and unreliable behaviors of her mother in her daily life, she should not blame her loudly. She can express it in another way in a tactful way. After all, there are always more ways than problems, and this also proposes a kind of filial piety.
In fact, we are all people who can do things in the world and make mistakes. Even sages will make mistakes. We should look at the overall situation and make family harmony. We should not use some extreme methods to deal with parents’ mistakes. We should look at them with a normal mind and warn them through other methods that parents are elders after all, and they are the closest people who have given birth to you and raised you. If you make a mistake, parents can tolerate you with love. Then if they do something wrong, you should also forgive them with love. Let each other make a compromise, take more responsibilities, let the family be harmonious, and everything will prosper. Are you right?
