On Monday night, I was invited to attend a classmate’s birthday party. The classmate’s mother said that she would send her back after the end, so I would go home first after I sent her over. At around 19:00, my classmate's mother sent me a picture of me doing homework in the restaurant, and said that the other children were going to play, and only your home was doing homework. Your education is simply a model! To be honest, I was quite surprised because when I went to the party, I didn’t talk to my children about doing homework at all. It’s normal for a group of seven or eight-year-old children to get together to play crazy, and it’s okay to do their homework when I get home. But I know exactly what I should do.
Wait until I came back in the evening, and I asked her, why are you doing your homework when you attend the party? To be honest, I wrote it early, so I can only relax when I play, so I don’t have to write it when I come back. I was so relieved when I heard this, I was secretly happy.
It’s just the second grade this year. So far, I have started to do my homework after half an hour of rest every day, and I can basically finish it by supper. During winter and summer vacations, after formulating a schedule with the help of parents, they can also consciously plan according to the time.
So, how did it do it?
I carefully reviewed it, it may be related to the following reasons:
First, it is related to the characteristics of the child itself. From birth to now, they are all children who are easy to raise. When will they wake up and go to bed every day, tell her why they can’t touch the socket, why can’t they eat too much sugar, what are the benefits of brushing teeth, and why they can’t look at mobile phones, the children can understand. Although there will be some repetitions in the middle, under the unified educational philosophy of family members, the child is generally very worry-free.
Second, it is related to the first time when the child is interested in time planning, we give full respect. During the winter vacation of the kindergarten senior class, I was curious when I saw me helping my brother to make a schedule, and asked me to make a copy for her. I seriously negotiated with her time arrangements and made a check-in form. She would look at the form every day and ask me what I should do, and carefully padded the "✔️". Of course, she was not rigorous at that time, and she was more like a game, but her family did not ignore it because of this, but instead played this check-in game with her seriously. In this serious game, she had her own sense of accomplishment and gained.
Third, after going to elementary school, her own wishes are based on her own when she does homework and when she plays. If there are any unreasonable situations such as sleep, I also make suggestions in a negotiated tone and respect her autonomy. The schedule for winter and summer vacations is also mainly discussed and executed after the discussion is completed. During the process, when the time of having an appointment with the children to collide with homework, she will adjust and ask for our opinions. We usually say "yes" and "okay". Gradually, she will express "I shouldn't be the one I have to take charge of my business", and we will answer "Yes, you have to take charge of your business", and autonomy gradually forms.
Fourth, when she can complete her homework independently and gradually form her regular routine, we will give her warm affirmation and sincere appreciation. This feeling will make her feel accomplished and encourage her to continue moving forward. At any time, family recognition is the most powerful motivation!
Fifth, the family's life is relatively regular and has a positive impact on her.
In addition, I also want to say that developing good habits is a systematic behavior. We cannot only pay attention to learning habits without paying attention to other factors. For example, parents should respect and not destroy the order during the sensitive period of the child before the age of 6. The toys in daily life should be coordinated by parents to independently sorted by children. The steps of washing before going to bed are all to help children form good habits and lay the foundation for gradually self-discipline. We should all pay attention to it.
Self-discipline is not formed in one day, it needs to be gradually cultivated. Let us slow down and act with our children!
